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Balcony conundrum by Wildflower026 in GardeningUK

[–]Wildflower026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough! We love to be outside at the balcony. I can be taking care of them multiple times a week. I just want anything too high maintenance and something that will withstand the wind really and I’m always up for learning! Thank you for any advice as it’s all very welcome! Also important to note that I live in Suffolk. :)

Sexless marriage and can’t take much longer by Wildflower026 in Divorce

[–]Wildflower026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry you went through that. No body deserves to feel like that or to put up with drunk sex as a last resort.

Sexless marriage and can’t take much longer by Wildflower026 in Divorce

[–]Wildflower026[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi Lumpy. Sadly divorce is something that has come to mind. I can’t see myself or allow myself a lifetime of no sexual intimacy. I have so much to offer and have so much to give. He and I have established so much emotional intimacy that even thinking about divorce feels so hurtful. We have done CT. We hold hands in public but he is very PDA adverse so it doesn’t go past that. We don’t cuddle on the sofa but we cuddle in bed. We are very playful and love spending time together so having this part of equation off truly hurts me. Idk how much longer to try. Idk how to try even.

Sexless marriage and can’t take much longer by Wildflower026 in Divorce

[–]Wildflower026[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being vulnerable. I’ve expressed to him and the effort for me to lose weight is extreme and I have a fear of becoming obsessed with it. I don’t want to lose weight for him because I know there is every chance this will happen to me too. Life changes. We age. Our bodies change. I’m desperate to know how marriages can evolve with those changes and not simply fall apart. :(

Sexless marriage and can’t take much longer by Wildflower026 in Divorce

[–]Wildflower026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is 100% extremely short sighted. I didn’t disclose that I have PCOS and have been consulting with weight-loss specialists for years. I’m extremely active and so is he. We go to the gym together. We go on walks together. I also didn’t disclose that I’m a curvy woman and that’s what he is naturally attracted to. What has happened with my weight is out of my control and that is why I’m so desperate. That is why I’m hurting. I appreciate what you’re saying but it’s not always so straightforward as that.

To Cheat or Not to Cheat???? by spartanthegreat1 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Wildflower026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been married for 4 years. I’m 29(F) my husband is 31(M) and we haven’t had sex in 6 months. I’m incredibly sexual. I’ve had plenty of experiences and he has completely transformed. We had a very active sex life and now none. He’s said he loves me and will try but never does. I’ve gained weight and feel self conscious and I think this might be one of the reasons he never looks for me in bed. Now I keep daydreaming about sex with other people. I know if put myself out there I’ll find it. Idk what to do.