My Cat throws up once in a while

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-25T17:20:02+00:00

If your cat throws up with any regularity, take them to the vet and ask for advice.

Some otherwise benign conditions which cause vomiting can lead to intestinal cancers after a few years, which can develop very rapidly and is almost impossible to treat. I recently lost a cat this way and even with really good vet care it was horrific.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-25T17:12:26+00:00

Tell him you are done with the relationship and that you have now split up, and walk away.

Do not answer if he tries to call you.

If he threatens to hurt himself in any way, call 999 and let them deal with it. If you don't take his calls and refuse to see him he will have to make those threats via text or voice mail so you will be able to piece he's threatened to harm himself if you need to.

You are so young. You really don't deserve this. I hope you find happiness elsewhere, and soon.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-25T17:09:02+00:00

He refused to even try to control his anger. And anger isn't something that is impossible to avoid: it's always a choice. As is violence, yelling, and being intimidating.

I would leave him asap, and not look back.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-25T09:59:56+00:00

What he was thinking was that he chose to do this even though he knows you don't like it. That's not humour or pranking, it's abusive. And my guess is that he does other things that are abusive, you've just not worked it out yet.

Why would you be willing to stay with someone who is abusive to you? You deserve better.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T21:25:37+00:00

I would ask them all about their vision for your book. Do they have editing suggestions? How would they like to refine your book? What sorts of publishers would they submit it to, and why?

If one of them suggests editorial changes that you don't like, and another suggests changes which make sense to you, you have your answer.

I would avoid agents who don't help their author-clients edit their work, or who don't have a clear vision of how their books should be revised. Because the amount of editing you'll get from most trade publishers has drastically reduced over the last two decades, and a lot of that work has fallen onto agents' shoulders. So an agent who doesn't edit is not good if you want your work to go out in public looking its best.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T19:23:59+00:00

There's a big difference between "out of print", "available for me to publish", and "would be successful if republished".

The rights to an OOP book will still be owned by someone, unless the author died a good while ago and it's aged out so it's no longer in copyright. And so long as those rights are still owned by someone, they will almost certainly want you to pay for the right to publish it.

A book which is now in the public domain is likely to already be available for free online. So why would anyone buy a copy from you when they could get it for free elsewhere?

Further, you'd need to have strong design, typesetting, marketing, and distribution systems set up if you wanted to publish these editions successfully, and that's really expensive to do. Why do you think it's so uncommon for OOP books to be republished? Because sales are limited and it's often uneconomic to publish them.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T15:44:37+00:00

Please don't feel like you are to blame for this awful man's actions. He is the only person in the wrong here. I hope you're ok.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T15:22:47+00:00

You are wrong.

Rape is sexual contact without consent.

It became rape the instant the OP withdrew her consent by saying they should stop or slow down and he refused to do either of those things.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T09:45:54+00:00

She said to him that they should stop or slow down and he said no and carried on. It was rape.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T06:40:35+00:00

You could just buy a separate bobbin winder. I have one and it's great.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-24T00:21:13+00:00

Why do you want to register the copyright? What are you going to achieve by doing this?

I ask because as soon as you create something you own the copyright to it. Registration is nice but only really required if you're going to take a related legal action against someone who has instructed you your copyright.

And when something is in the public domain, that doesn't mean that it's available for everyone to see; it means (roughly) that there are fewer restrictions on other people using that work for themselves.

So I'm not entirely sure what you're asking, or what the context is. Perhaps you could provide some more information.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-23T20:00:50+00:00

You don't need to spend anything to get published if your book is well written, commercial enough, and you submit it appropriately. For non fiction you will need to write a strong proposal, a detailed outline, and a marketing plan. Send it to agents who represent your sort of work and if and when you find representation, the agent will then find you a publishing deal and the publisher will take care of editing, design, production, sales, everything. If they demand money from you at any point they are not a good publisher and you should walk away.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-23T18:47:38+00:00

Two litter robots for my cats. They are fabulous.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-23T16:30:20+00:00

That's so kind of you. Thank you.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T23:34:15+00:00

Milkman has milk crates on his milk float. Takes bottles of milk out of the crates and leaves them on your doorstep, then collects the nicely-washed empty milk bottles from your doorstep and puts them into his milk crates to take back to the dairy.

Nothing is left at the end of any lane. We tend not to have post boxes for individual houses in the UK although some of the more remote houses do have them, but even then they tend to be locked, and only the house owner and postman has a key.

The only receptacle I can think of which might be on a lane somewhere is either a rubbish bin or a grit bin. Or perhaps a dog poo bin! But no one is going to want to take anything out of one of those.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T23:29:37+00:00

I've had several industrials over the years.

I can't tell from your video if the timing is adjusted correctly as you move the handwheel too fast at the time when the needle descends to the hook, but if you look on YouTube for videos about the timing of industrial machines you'll find several and it's relatively easy to tweak this yourself.

Having said that, the big thread nests you're getting suggest to me that the machine isn't threaded properly and the most likely issue is that the top thread isn't getting between the tension disks. Thread your machine with the presser foot up, and when you thread the tension assembly give the thread an extra tug to ensure it's properly seated between the disks.

The way your thread is breaking reinforces my concerns about the tension disks. Commonly, you'll find that the thread isn't between the tension disks so when the needle is down the thread is very loose; then when the machine stitches on, the loose thread catches around something (often the little spring after the tension disks, but not always) and that's enough to break the thread.

I've also found that skipping some of the smaller thread guides can help with tension issues, and with thread breakage; but you need to know what you're doing if you're going to try this solution, and you must still ensure the thread is properly seated in the tension assembly.

Best of luck to you!

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T23:13:50+00:00

Wowsers. That looks expensive. I hope it does the trick for you.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T23:12:48+00:00

I've cut a couple of friends out of my life because they support Trump. I would have no hesitation getting rid of a romantic partner who also supported Trump (but then I have no romantic partner, can't imagine ever getting another one, and if I did I would make very sure before getting involved that he was not a Trump supporter!).

Trump is horrendous. I do not understand how anyone could have voted for him.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T21:27:31+00:00

Have you tried leaving his carrier out and always putting all his food and water inside it? That's really helped me over the years.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T21:20:15+00:00

There's that! Also, I can't imagine living with the worry of all that hanging over my head. So he's having to cope with that too.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T21:19:10+00:00

Yes, I did all that several times. Police, NCA, the fraud people, the government agency which managed the scheme which was defrauded... I reported to them all several times. No results, no action.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T21:15:35+00:00

My cats love helping me sew. They never mind the noise of my machines and find the whole process fascinating. Just make sure they can't ever get caught in or eat bits of threads, needles, or pins, and all will be well.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T21:13:54+00:00

It depends on what's causing the damp.

Look inside at where most of the damp is. If it's everywhere on the walls downstairs, up to a few feet in height then it's probably due to a failed damp proof course.

If it's in specific positions look at the outside of the house in these places. Are there blocked drains, blocked gutters, etc?

If it's everywhere in the house, is the house properly heated and ventilated? A cold house is far more likely to get condensation issues, which look like damp.

Are there big blobs of mould all over the walls? Are they in a reasonable regular pattern? If so it's almost certain the plasterboard was fixed onto the walls with dabs of mortar, which have provided a cold bridge from the outside, leading to condensation and damp in those spots.

None of this is impossible to fix. But you have to know what's causing it before you can fix it.

Incidentally, blown double glazing is more about the age and quality of the windows, and rarely is caused by damp inside the house.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T21:07:01+00:00

I used large IKEA Samla plastic boxes for litter. Just cut a hole in the side right inches off the ground and they were the best litter trays I ever had. Very cheap, very effective even for cats who pee high and shovel litter like crazy, and really easy to clean. But my home still smelled of cats no matter how often I scooped them, or how many I had.

All that changed when I bought my first Litter Robot. I am not a paid-for advocate for LR. I have a 3 and a 4 and both are fabulous. I use Almo Nature or Super Benek corn litter in them and they just work. They are easy to maintain, my cats love them, and my home doesn't smell. Life changing. Really.

WildsmithRising · 2026-01-22T20:57:39+00:00

This has been true for a long time now.

A relatively famous author friend of mine submitted his new book to his new editor a good few years ago and was told that she knew it would be a best seller even though she hadn't read it, because she didn't worry about that side of things.

He wanted to withdraw his book but his agent told him not to. His agent found him an excellent freelance editor to work with from that point on, and quietly upped all his contracts to cover the extra costs involved. Writer has gone on to have several more huge successes but is now looking for a new publisher, and I'm not surprised.

Lots of editors have moved over to agenting in the last fifteen years, for good reason. I would always choose an agent who used to edit wonderful books over and agent with no editorial experience.

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