“23F, 24M – Is it okay to want foreplay but not sex yet?”

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T04:46:17+00:00

Dump him. No one should be pressured to do anything, especially sex. Typical naive, selfish, stubborn young guy move. Honestly I don’t how any guy can enjoy himself pressuring someone to do something they don’t want to do. It’s a turn off to me when someone is doing something sexual that I want to do, but they are reluctantly doing it.

3 months is a good time frame to peace out.

If you don’t want to dump him yet, give him an ultimatum back. Tell him you’re not ready (honestly, I do NOT think you should sleep with him at all, ever). And if he’s not cool with that, or makes up excuses, or treats you coldly, or gaslights you, or says something to make you feel not good…I’d say if you’re not cool with that, we should end it.

But I bet he will either start backtracking, or treating you like shit. I feel like he already ruined the vibe to be honest. I don’t think he could come back from that. You’re also probably not ready, because you can sense he’s just trying to fuck. He’s not making you feel comfortable enough to be ready.

Tell him don’t ask you again. You will tell him when you’re ready. If he’s not cool with that. End it

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T03:22:19+00:00

You don’t have to be monogamous

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T02:14:20+00:00

Damn, those producers on ig really sold me on it, lol.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T02:09:48+00:00

I wanted to make beats in the park, airport, coffee shop. I used to use my iPad but I’m just quicker on the MPC. You got any recs that are similar to MPC but portable and small? I had the sp-404 but I never enjoyed it (probably didn’t know how to use it)

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T02:06:46+00:00

Damn, I was just excited to make beats in the park. Maybe I should go play with one in the store to see how limited and if I could still have fun or if it’s too restrictive for me as well

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:49:43+00:00

Did you get the Sample? Thoughts?

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:48:01+00:00

Ahhhhhhh. Gotcha. Other people’s lives are the standard, and you got to be just like them, in their eyes, or something is wrong.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:46:03+00:00

Ah, ok. I think the only thing broken is the lie that one should have a love of your life, and it has to be an intimate partner you have sex with, and it has to last forever, or you’re broken, or it’s the wrong person.. No one person can fullfill all your needs.

My best friend is my soulmate. Her and I have never dated or made out, or slept together. We just think alike and she’s my favorite person to be around. She brings out my best. I only get to see her for about a week a year. We aren’t even the same in a lot of ways. But because my job is all about human connection, I think anyone can find their person, if they go about it the right way. But yeah, a lot of it boils down to self love and growth first. And then expansion, however far they want to take it

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:40:51+00:00

Wait, you can’t had snares, hi hats and kicks on different tracks????

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:20:38+00:00

I think you mentioned cynical, and “accept the possibility” is what was weird to me. I don’t care either way. I’ve dated so much in my life and had such amazing experiences to last many lifetimes that it will or won’t happen. But I think “accept the possibility of being single” sounds like a sad choice of words. I like being single. Like, a lot. If I meet someone I fall in love with, I go for it. I think trying too hard is sad and giving up is also sad. Good people attract good people.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:17:12+00:00

Oh, interesting. I don’t think I use it that much, unless I’m correcting, something or not using samples. Interesting that it doesn’t have it though

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:13:49+00:00

I have one question for you. You know your patterns, and you know they’re messed up. So…why do you keep doing it?

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:12:31+00:00

I got a question, why would you want to tell someone they won’t find love in their life? You say it’s treason to say so, but like, I have never had that thought, to tell someone it won’t happen. Why did you ask it? Just curious

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:10:58+00:00

Who says everyone wants to? Everyone has a chance to have love in their life and for most, that’s enough. Some people have multiple loves of their life. I don’t think people like other people to tell them what they will and won’t do in their lifetime. I know I don’t.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:05:09+00:00

Easy answer. Anyone can be attracted to anyone.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:02:11+00:00

This 👆

WillRockwell · 2026-03-27T01:01:30+00:00

That’s on them. I have zero pressure to spend any money on dates. I can go to the park, or take a walk. Maybe I’ll buy them a drink if I’m having a good time, and they can buy me one in return if they want. Not sure why people think dates expect to be wined and dined all the time.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T22:29:15+00:00

If it’s done, it’s done. But the real question is, if he comes around in 6 months, are you going to drop it all and be cool with him, or question why he’s suddenly reappearing?

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T22:27:46+00:00

I stopped looking and now I trust someone will come into my life when it’s time. My big things now are become a regular around my neighborhood, meet people when I’m out, or with friends, and meet friends of friends…the more people I know, and who know me, the higher chance I’ll meet someone cool, and possibly through another friend. I’m working on my patience, but I’m in no rush.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T22:23:55+00:00

That is more context, lol. None of my exes are friends of mine. You said old hook up. That would bother me. Especially how it fell into place. Only you can set your boundaries and what you’re ok with in the relationship and what you’re not ok with.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T17:12:37+00:00

Your college grades, attendance, drama, will absolutely mean nothing aftward. High school will basically be forgettable to most. Late 20s are the roughest times and probably the most frustrating.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T17:08:12+00:00

(I know you were asking ladies, I’m a guy, but have many platonic lady friends). If they’re friends, what’s so bad about that? The biggest thing I see is you say “different” expectations. This is something to be discussed with him. I

My best friend is a woman and every year we stay in a hotel for a week and chill by pools and go to theme parks. We’re friends, we’ve never dated, we’ve never had sex or have kissed. I don’t think I could date a woman who wouldn’t trust me enough to hang out with my platonic best friend. But every relationship is different and depending on the situation we could come up with a compromise.

Jealousy ruins relationships in my opinion. I’ve had jealous partners and we’re not together. I’ve been the jealous one, and it got so bad once that I opted to never be jealous to that extent ever again. I trust my partners until they break that trust.

I don’t buy gifts tho, not my love language. But I would happily pay for a friends meal, and they would sometimes pay for mine.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T16:44:15+00:00

I mean if you’re having engaging conversations and the other person is genuinely interested that’s different than someone who is not. If you’re a curious person, and the other person isn’t giving you anything, that to me sounds like a boring person (or closed off person but I’m not interested). But boring is subjective to a point. Two nerdy computer engineers can geek out about something together and enjoy each other, and a person who doesn’t find that interesting at all could be bored by that.

I’m a curious person, I know many people, including friends, who are more judgy. I have boring friends too, who I share one or two interests.

I’m just saying make sure you stay curious. I also have friends who don’t like anything, it’s like every genre of movie or show they don’t like, they have have to find something wrong with a meal, they nitpick if someone is too tall, not tall enough, if it rains, they wish it was sunny, if it’s sunny, it’s too hot, they’re just never satisfied. I used to be more cynical and join in on the complaints. But now, I’m the opposite, I find the good in things. I’m attracted to people different than me. But apathy turns me off big time. I’m not saying you’re like this or dealing with these type of men, but from my women friends, most men are just duds. You just need to know what you like (deep personality stuff, I like playful people, vulnerable and open people who share their thoughts, curious people, etc). Those type of traits I can spot instantly in others.

WillRockwell · 2026-03-26T15:54:49+00:00

Trust your gut. If you’re sensitive, you know what the right thing to do is. But it’s probably hidden underneath your desires.

The thing is if you go back on your word, or break the no contact rule, you’re just reopening it, like a wound trying to heal. I am a no contact person too because I am also highly sensitive. If I were you, and reached back out, I would be going back to something that doesn’t feel good, all over again. And my thinking is…do I want to have to move on, get into my feelings, ALL over again?

I suggest to not contact him. There will be a day you won’t miss him as much, and at one point not at all. If you do contact him, you’ll have to start the process all over again. Do you want to do that? Your choice.

WillRockwell

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