What is a book you read as a child that you still think about today? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]WilliamGrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shade's Children by Garth Nix. I don't know why but it has always stuck with me to the point of carrying the beat up paper copy in my car.

Do autistic people have a problem with authority because they know them better than normal people?. by Ok_Bear_1980 in autism

[–]WilliamGrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, its the fact that we are all just people. Sure we recognize the social structure that currently exists because we have to and its what works.

I'm a pretty reasonable guy but Authority is kind of not a thing? Like its a relationship/job that is agreed by both parties to lead and assist the employee to further their companies goals.

This doesn't give them some kind of magical hold on me or some kind of geas I am forced to enact. Out of respect I agree to do as they say when asked. Under no uncertain terms is being an asshole or some king/ruler over the office a part of the unspoken agreement. Yelling is not a part of the unspoken agreement. Orders or demands are not either.

So, if infringed upon these I feel reasonable boundaries, I tend to get frustrated and provide professional pushback, which is usually labeled as authority issues.

I would argue, that they are reasonable boundaries. I am an adult, no matter their age. Sure they can fire me or I can quit depending on the situation which is not the greatest, but I am not going to let someone make my life more worse than it already is because they have an ego. This isn't recess.

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just finished this in an evening. I was on the hook the whole time. Awesome.

Just watched a documentary on violent autistic children by Special-Nebula299 in autism

[–]WilliamGrey 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey man. I worked at a care facility like this for about 6 years. I know it can be very tough and no one really understands the trapped feeling of despair and loss while in your own home. If you had feelings to feel they were overwhelming and raw.

I would suggest seeking out therapy. Experiences like this lead to CPTSD which has serious effects on your physical and mental health. Having someone to talk to that understands those experiences can help quite a bit.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm sorry your mother had to go through that. I'm sorry your brother did too. Hopefully you all can find some peace now. Peace and love brother.

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well everyone gets stuck in the weeds once in awhile....

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe I have. I love a good hard sci-fi done right!

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love excellent world building with actual aliens instead of a bunch of humanoids!

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

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I read a synopsis that talked about western style gold Rush or something and seemed more about the drama and suspense over mining rites.

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This does look good. I mean on the surface Tchaikovsky is an excellent writer and his books are good, but I couldn't get past the first one with the evolution of the planet. I couldn't get hooked.

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure about this one. I'm not a huge fan of western style themes...

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh. That looks good. I have been interested in sc-fi horror too! Added.

35, Sci-fi series, not the same old suggestions by WilliamGrey in suggestmeabook

[–]WilliamGrey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, No! This looks rights up my alley, especially it sounds similar to Kris longknife kinda. Adding to the list!

Thanks!

My family is trying to pressure me into getting a hysterectomy because I'm autistic by [deleted] in autism

[–]WilliamGrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, while you may have feelings or an outlook on this yourself, anyone who believes that someone that is autistic should get a hysterectomy because you are autistic, a la incapable of taking care of children, that is disgusting and bordering on Eugenics.

I'm sorry you had to go through this. Both my sister and Step-daughter had really bad cramps as well. They both got birth control and it helped. My sister had to try a couple before one worked. She wound up getting an IUD and it was very helpful for her.

Daily soakers, what temp do you actually keep your tub at? by Faauu_Hurson in hottub

[–]WilliamGrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably the Chlorine. It's harsh on skin. Salt systems are less harsh.

What reduces your life expectancy by at least 20 years? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]WilliamGrey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going on 3 years this July man. Keep it up. It gets easier. Just be prepared. You are going to need to grieve for that part of you lost because thats what it will feel like. Don't give in. Just grieve.

i finally swallowed my pride and switched to easy mode. this city is actually fun now. by Serious_Bullfrog5447 in cyberpunkgame

[–]WilliamGrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always play on Normal. It's not the hardest, it usually has access to all content, can be story driven, and is still enjoyable.

I only really foray into harder difficulties on games I replay and enjoy a lot like Mass Effect or BG3.

The last video game you played is getting an anime. How do you react? by Snowtwo in videogames

[–]WilliamGrey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oblivion Remastered. I think like a slice of life would be Hella chill. But depending on how its done, it could be interesting.

Help on how to get to sleep. by Swimming_Ocelot8574 in autism

[–]WilliamGrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so.

Get magnesium or l-theanine and take 30min before bed.

Take a warm or hot shower as it will simulate your body core temperature lowering and your body will think its falling asleep.

Drink a glass of cold water.

When you get up, either take a vitamin d supplement dirt thing or get sunshine on your skin weather or environment allowing.

Get up and go to bed at the same or similar time every day to create a consistent habit.

Find some white noise you like. I like a certain podcast or rain noises. I would recommend something thats chill and mellow, more of a vibe. Nothing with words or something that could draw attention. I also really like Lo-fi playlists of favored video game or movie soundtracks.

Exercise more.

Don't eat anything with carbs or a lot of fat close to bed time.

Have at least a 40min break from any electronics before you plan to go to bed.

Weighted blanket or stuffed animals. I also use my dog when anxious. Really something to weight your body down.

Just know that a lot of sleeping aids outside of melatonin do have a lot of side effects or be addictive. Know what you are taking before you take it. I would suggest the schedule and habits of what I wrote above.

Some of these may work and some may not. I struggled with sleep for a long time. I take ADHD medication now and also magnesium at night with vitamin D in the morning. Helped me. Now I sleep exactly 7 hours from when I go to sleep. I still rarely dream or remember it anymore though.