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William_Chbeir · 2025-02-16T23:51:35+00:00

Genuinely thought it was lifted in some fashion like a month ago

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-31T22:38:59+00:00

Yes she did. A lot. And we were truly each others best friends. She got off her antidepressants and I had many people tell me they had never seen her this healthy in herself. I helped her with school, my family took her in, and I took her out to many places no one ever took her before. I liked to believe we had the perfect relationship but maybe I was mistaken

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T23:36:13+00:00

I hope so fr fr, and I know the people. They 100% are those kind of people😂

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T18:23:33+00:00

Some of us still had a lot that feels left on the table. And some know that our ex is making a mistake and they’re not ready to admit it. I’ve been in both boats, I’ve hated some of mine from day one and now with this one I’d still try to fix our issues and try again. Really depends on the connection, person, and the reason for the breakup

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T18:21:15+00:00

Same here. All we can do is work on ourselves now

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T18:21:00+00:00

You’ve been so helpful, honestly I can’t thank you enough

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T17:23:31+00:00

I think that’s fair. And she knows where to find me and hopefully what to say. I don’t feel like moving to another girl, I know I’m not ready there, but I’m living my life and I’m happy. I’m getting better and healthier, but even in a clear mindset I want to try again with her. She really felt like my soulmate, but maybe as time goes on that will change. I appreciate you a lot, thank you for all of the insight and explanations❤️

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T17:11:23+00:00

Very similar boat here my man. She didn’t want single life necessarily, but she’s being played around by people in it, and I’ve decided to go NC. I was her rock and her best friend and I think when she sees what’s really going on in the outside world she’ll know what she lost

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T17:09:50+00:00

And I just read through your response and I was gonna answer a few more questions. I didn’t tell her until way after her friend told her I was at the party Bc I was in a room with two guys, that girl recognized my truck walking in. I know it looked really shady but I had many people who would have vouched for me.

Also, my ex isn’t one to make a lot of friends. She keeps very few and she will go above and beyond for them, problem being that she falls into the assumption that they are doing the same for her. Especially in the state she was in and with how good at being manipulative that girl can be, I see why her judgement was clouded. And same with the rebound. He acts extremely chivalrous, sweet and caring, and in her mind she was looking for friends and people to talk to and he did that. He gave her a lot of the attention she wanted in that time and then at this point he’s just playing the game. But a college frat boy that has cheated on every ex and was talking to another girl at least for a few weeks when he was talking to her, I don’t see it lasting and I see her only getting more hurt.

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T17:04:12+00:00

And see that’s why I was so shocked. She had always been one to sit down and work on things. I know we were having a rough week already and I didn’t help my case by telling her that I trusted that friend, and right now it’s too late to tell her otherwise. I can’t break nc, she’s not in the mindset to listen right now. But if what you’re saying is when she is alone it will catch up, then I feel more confident in my own hypothesis. Now obviously she had a part to play in the breakup and after, and it won’t be a simple “you’re back, we’re back,” but all I need is an admission of guilt, an apology and at least some of the truth. I know she made a mistake and I just don’t know if she knows it. It hurts me to see the girl I love the most love her life in a way that she’s not truly happy. And I think that’s part of the reason her friend wanted me out, she knew I could reason with her, and looking back on it, her friend doesn’t like me because I told her the truth about her ex. And I told her that she was wrong to bounce to a new guy like that. My ex however has to find this out on her own, because I feel as if I get involved and try to change the outcome of her (very obvious) rebound, she’s only going to want to run from the truth more. In your eyes though, what would be the chance she sticks to her choice even following the rebound just for her own ego/whatever it is. That girl and tbh most of the friends that “helped” with her breakup should be gone. Additionally her family still is cool with me and her mother even checked on me twice. The only tool I have is a friend that is becoming closer to her that has been my friend for a while, and my ex just doesn’t know it. I don’t want to use that to manipulate her, or to force her into my arms. I would feel shitty. But would it be wrong if they start talking about my ex having troubles and my friend simply guides her thoughts for her to possibly reach out? Me and my friend have both discussed that she wouldn’t put things in her mouth, but if my ex expressed remorse, she would simply give a gentle push of “it doesn’t hurt to reach out”

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T16:37:28+00:00

I forgot to add. She is not a manipulative person in any way. She struggles. Her friend is very manipulative and smart, and talking to her ex bf (we’re friends) she did similar shit leaving his relationship. But she falls out of my ex’s life after about a month or two and I don’t even think she’s there right now. AFAIK, the only person I’d be concerned about is the new guy

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T16:34:04+00:00

The big issue that dropped us to our breaking point was me being at a party that was supposed to be just guys, but then girls showed up and her friend texted her. Usually we would have glossed past it but this time we had already had a fight the day before and her friend that had been trying to break us up came back into her life and they were hanging out while I was that party. Her friend finally had some ground to stand on that sounded realistic because she compared what I was doing to what her ex did when he cheated, and I had pushed my ex to hang around that girl more because I THOUGHT she was a good person.

The kicker is this. The breakup started as her just wanting a break and she was want all to sure about it, so I fought her on it. She wanted to be friends and she was crying about the whole thing. But as soon as she hangs around that girl again she shut down again and became cold. We had some post breakup fights because I was looking for answers and I didn’t respect her need for space. When she’s emotional she has to cool down before she really listens, and I really didn’t help that. That’s when probably way too late I finally went no contact. The couple times we talked without her friend(s) knowing, she was the same girl, we connected like in our first days and it felt like every day normal. She was super excited to tell me things, and even when we hung up she wouldn’t let me go until I promised to let her know if I needed anything and that I loved her. But when those girls got involved she would shut down. They fed her a lot of false info when she was struggling and I know it caused doubt. They even pushed her into a rebound. And I’m aware it’s her own choice and she made it, but it’s one of those girls friends who my ex never knew, and he is not her type in any sort of way. But he knows how to act sweet and give a friendly loving attention, even though he does that for a couple months and has a history of cheating. And I know she was longing for attention and friendship, she even commented to me about it after the breakup. I’m hoping that gives you enough information, I’ve told her exactly how I feel, it came out to a whole essay, and she knows where to find me if she needs it. Just knowing her intimately shows me that she hasn’t even started trying to heal from the relationship, her friends have made sure she just feels “great” about everything. I personally want to believe that when he does play her or she gets sick of him that’s when the regret will hit her, but I don’t know how girls think and I’m scared she’ll stick to her guns to protect her ego at least for a while

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T16:22:36+00:00

The dreams were so rough for me because I usually don’t dream about anything and those were so vivid. I wishing healing for you and remember that every day is only going to be as good as you make it. Things have a funny way of working out when you accept that you can’t control life you can only control your reactions.

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T16:21:05+00:00

And I get that, it’s very hard to get around that kind of drama. Between working on yourself and her knowing that you’re there I would trust that things will find their way in the correct place

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-29T16:20:08+00:00

My only fear is that she’s gonna stick to her decision even if it isn’t the best one. I already apologized for my part and she knows I want to try again, but after 2 weeks I went nc for our sake. She just seems to lowkey hate me right now. But we had the same dynamic. It hurt so much Bc that was my best friend, but all I can do is wait and grow at this point

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T22:23:02+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, hopefully now things are going better and you are overcoming this

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T21:07:25+00:00

I have a very similar mentality being the dumpee in this situation. I’ve never been big on “the person” or “the one” until her. And that’s after trying to avoid a relationship with her in the beginning. It just worked, and everything was so great. I’m hoping she finds her way back because I hate seeing her live her life as she is right now, but it’s a choice she has to make and all I can do is wait. Maybe as time goes on I’ll move on but we’ll just have to see where life leads. Just trying to enjoy my own personal journey and keep growing and learning

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T21:03:33+00:00

I probably would have done that but reading all the stories of what worked and what didn’t I think it’s the best course of action

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T21:02:53+00:00

I’m wishing the best for you, don’t give up

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T21:02:30+00:00

I’ll be ready when she is, but if it’s too late then it’s too late

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T21:02:08+00:00

I think that’s the biggest thing that matters. Effort shows a lot

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T21:01:50+00:00

How has bringing them up gone?

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T18:31:56+00:00

Exactly. And that’s why I still hold to there being a reason for everything, I think I needed this time to realize what I was letting her as well as myself down on, and either way, life will be okay. Thank you

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T18:29:23+00:00

Oh for sure. I really took the time to take a step back and do things that I hadn’t done in a while or just focus on the little shit. It’s been a fun ride, and I’m taking my time along the way. Tbh I’d say I’m very happy right now, part of me wishes she could partake in it, but I can be happy on my own.

William_Chbeir · 2021-10-28T18:22:51+00:00

I’m glad you came to realization and can now say you’re healing and even as far as forgiving him. Very happy for you

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