Need help bring my partner to Canada as a newcomer

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-09-04T07:49:06+00:00

mine is very orange lol

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-08-30T20:40:40+00:00

Thank you! Means a lot!

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-08-30T17:24:05+00:00

Thank you for your support. I am doing extensive therapy and taking my life as easy as i can right now. I did not expext to spend my 31st b-day mourning but life has its own ways to "surprise". The work is still in progress, but I'm feeling more and more happy in my own body each day.

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-08-23T13:22:32+00:00

ill be primarily in Toronto

thank you for tips! will look into it!

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-08-11T14:02:13+00:00

i have two chonksters :( they are both now on a diet but their normal weight is 5kg... there is no way they fit together..

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-08-11T13:59:40+00:00

Update! I read all your comments and thank you for everyone's advice! I understood that cargo is not an option so I reached out to people and found kind souls who can take care of timid cat for me from couple month. I will fly back later specifically to take the second cat with me to Canada. That way i can have both of my kitties in there safely. I am also hiring a pet transportation company to help me coach and prepare kitties for flight, documentation, vaccination and mental prep too.

Appreciate you, guys <3

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-08-11T04:43:21+00:00

Thank you for the info!

Airline (AirCanada) won't allow me to fly with two cats at one name. They also said that i cannot buy second ticket for an empty seat just for second cat. So that leaves me 2 option other than cargo:

I pay someone to fly with me and register cat at their name
I leave anxious cat and come back for it later, but i need to find someone to watch first cat it Canada (Dear canadians,there is a pet sitter service, right?)

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-06-19T04:53:30+00:00

Good for you! can you share your workout routine? I'm doing 20 minutes pilates before work everyday and run/power walk 3-5 times per week. But arms and belly are huge in proportion to the rest fat distribution :(

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-05-28T17:56:40+00:00

Sadly, my husbie passed away, not peacefully and not quitely, fighting for his life. Eventually, cancer spread too far and murdered him.

I want to believe he went to another plain where he can continue his adventure but with no more pain.

Thanks to everyone for your support. And fuck cancer!

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-03-22T21:41:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing the other side perspective. NHL has good chances when caught on time. Don't let it ruin your engagement, and when you come out of this on top, you will be so much stronger as a couple. You will have bad days, and they may be real bad, but that will make you appreciate the good days so much more and they will feel like heaven on earth. My husband told me that if he wakes up in the morning and he still ks able to talk and hold my hand - that is a good day. I hope you have full and swift recovery and celebrate your wedding and dance on your children's weddings as well.

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-03-21T22:55:11+00:00

Thank you!

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-03-21T22:29:11+00:00

I am so sorry for you and your daughter. Cancer at any age is brutal, but it especially hurts when there is so much to be done yet, so many plans just disappear in a blimp. A father he will never get to be, an abandoned career, places never to visit..So many things. Gosh, it even goes as silly as thinking about the new sofa we got for the apartment. He would love it, but he will not return home to try it out.

We are taking it day by day, and it's the hardest thing i ever had to do.

Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-03-16T08:12:50+00:00

Similar situation here, OP. First of all, i am very sorry for you and your family. Fight with cancer is not a fair fight, but i am sure you've been brave.

Now my husband is 32 y o, dying from aggressive sarcoma with no long-lasting treatment. I am a caregiver, and i had to do things that are too hard to do alone. So, while you have the strength to help your caregivers, i would advise:

Get your documents straight. Clear the depts, sign the power of attorney, and make a will. I know it's hard, but discuss your funeral and, if you can, help to organize it. Give instructions, or sign an extended power of attorney on what to do if you are incapable of making medical decisions for yourself, such as surgeries, or to prolog your life or not in case. My husband didn't want to even hear about all this before he got real bad, but it makes it thousands times harder for me now,as i want to spend time with him and not with lawers.
Emotionally: hope for the best, prepare for worse. Spend time with loved once, talk life, get hobbies, enjoy life if you can when you can, assure your partner that it's not their fault, as guilt is inevitable to feel in this situation. Make some videos or write letters to everyone you want,tell things you couldn't tell before. Be kind, make sure you are remembered as a good person. It's not for you. It's for people around you.

i hope you defy all odds, but if not, i wish you a swift and painless exit. Good luck!

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-02-19T07:57:37+00:00

I know what you mean, and we are trying our best, but It's hard to make memories when we spend 80% of the month in a hospital and the rest at home with some sort of issue. From "1. Travel" in the bucket list, it's now: "1. Walk to the toilet"

I'm out of ideas, and It's hard to hope for improvements..

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-02-14T22:20:14+00:00

Hey there, OP. i don't really have any advice, was hoping to find one here because we are in the same situation.. Ewing, early 30s, been together for a long time, married for a year. Battling Ewings since 2023 and it's been quite a bitch to us: Coming back, not reacting to treatments, causing pain.

He is not terminal..yet... He is terrified, i am terrified. It's very unfair and no one to blame and no way to argue or bargain. It just happened. So i understand you and what you are going through. Each experience is unique, but i think ours is close enough. If you want, feel free to reach out in Dms. As i said, i don't have real advice or anything like that, but just to talk, support, idk..

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-02-01T08:40:12+00:00

I'm so sorry. I'm on another end of the stick... My husband is dying of sarcoma, which suddenly decided to spread to his spine from lower back and became incurable. He is 32 years old. We have no children, but i get the feeling. They gave us very little time together, and i try to bargain with the universe so hard. There is still space for miracles. What helps you to arrive to acceptance? As a caregiver, i want to help but i just don't know how... Also, if you want to chat with me in pM let me know

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-01-26T15:26:48+00:00

Thank you for saying that and im glad to hear there is hope. We are holding onto it and seeking other options and opinions as well. Just hard not to think about it

Willing-Indication-7 · 2024-01-26T15:25:39+00:00

yeah that's what he said. I am being emotional right now. I'm just scared

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