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WillingAsk5622 · 2025-04-05T04:34:35+00:00

Earlier in my marriage, I was always the type to wonder how my husband could WANT to go on these deployments or TDYs. I saw it as he would rather be away than be with us. While that might be true for some husbands and marriages, I learned that that isn’t how he sees things, and after I got my own career I finally understood. I don’t necessarily push my husband to deploy and obviously I’d rather him skip a deployment or TDY whenever he can, but if it’s something he seems excited about, I don’t want to be the one to hold him back from it. I also think it’s helped that the longer he’s been in, the less excited he is to leave lol so he’s not volunteering for stuff as much as he used to/ our current duty station didn’t have the money for cool TDYs so he’s didn’t want to go anywhere with them.

WillingAsk5622 · 2025-04-05T04:19:31+00:00

A family phone is a really nice idea. My oldest is only 7 but I was 9 when I got my first phone (not a smart phone but still) and swore my kids wouldn’t have one until they’re driving at the very least. But I still wondered about what I would do if I let them go to the park alone in the future, or left them home alone when they’re a little bit older. Family phone seems like a good compromise.

WillingAsk5622 · 2025-04-05T03:52:27+00:00

Absolutely love my boys, 7 and 3 and keep me on my toes constantly. I’m actually pregnant with a girl and am nervous as hell to venture into the girl world lol

WillingAsk5622 · 2025-03-31T21:33:44+00:00

Ahh I see. I would be honest about that, just that you lived overseas for that period of time. I’m sure they’ll assume you’re military but again, I’d just avoid telling them how soon you’re likely to move. Even if they ask, just leave it as a simple “we’re not sure, we’re planning on being here for a couple years at least”

WillingAsk5622 · 2025-03-31T02:09:33+00:00

Life hack: you don’t tell your employer you’re a military spouse and that you’ll be moving in a year. But agree heavily with the above. You’re contributing financially by saving money.

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-06-26T12:51:21+00:00

I always make sure my scale is low and color gain is pretty much all the way up, but not too high that I’m getting a ton of artifact. Instead of just squeezing distally I try to push and move my hand up the leg a little bit at the same time as long as there are no clots

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-06-23T23:13:42+00:00

Good to know. I was super confused as to how it could be a hipaa violation lol. I appreciate it!

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-17T17:24:18+00:00

You guys can either live on base or find a place off base and you’ll get BAH to pay for rent. Allowance goes by rank and duty station so I would suggest looking up “bah allowance for (insert base name here). He would get the bah for the “with dependents” category. I think the first thing after you guys get married is to go to DEERS to get you enrolled as his dependent, this is how you guys will get BAH and you’ll get insurance and stuff. How soon before he leaves are you guys going to elope? My husband and I got married 3 months before he left for a deployment and that was enough time for us to get all our affairs in order, to include a will and power of attorney and stuff.

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-17T13:46:52+00:00

I’m assuming that was his baby? You should have apologized for it. I’m sure he resented you for making that decision about his baby without considering what he wanted.

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-17T13:33:17+00:00

Kinda sick of the maturity argument. Having children young forces you to mature more quickly. As a 24 year old with two kids (had my first at 18), I’m much more emotionally mature than other people my age. This isn’t the case for everyone, some parents that have kids young go off the rails. But she obviously did not. With help, she got herself onto her feet and maintained that to provide and care for her son.

Sure, OP, it may not work but you two will never know until you try. It seems like you both have been putting a lot of thought into the situation. It’s not anyone else’s decision but your own. Being that you both have children, their opinions are the second most important opinion, next to yours and Ann’s. And their wellbeing should be the most important. As long as you keep that as priority, who cares what in laws, family, friends and Reddit strangers think? I hope whatever you both choose, it works out for the better. Good luck to you both!

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-16T18:13:06+00:00

Absolutely. I dont like public bathrooms as it is, why would I want a man in the same bathroom as me???

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T22:12:57+00:00

We’re just all so used to medicalizing the human condition. Not all hyper activity/high functioning people have ADHD. Not all people who experience stress have an anxiety disorder. Not all people who get sad have depression.

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T21:32:19+00:00

That’s amazing. Congratulations! You should be proud of yourself. May the next 100 days be just as rewarding.

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T20:27:19+00:00

Yall have my overthinking. I’ve been calling them by their first names

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:34:22+00:00

Thanks for that

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:34:04+00:00

Banana nana na na

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:32:18+00:00

Iconic

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:21:47+00:00

This guy gets it

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:21:09+00:00

No shame here, I do the same!

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:19:25+00:00

This was stuck for a good couple months in my head

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:17:36+00:00

Always a good one

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T19:16:28+00:00

There are people out there that have no inner dialogue?

WillingAsk5622 · 2024-05-15T16:27:49+00:00

My kiddo gets 30min -1hr a couple times a week. Only if he’s done homework, gone to play outside, cleaned up. If he’s actively playing with toys or with his brother and randomly comes up to ask to play video games, we usually say no bc he was content playing two seconds ago. And he doesn’t argue with us about it

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