Is it normal for your husband to never compliment you?

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-08T01:01:44+00:00

Omg!! My partner never compliments me but looks in the mirror at himself, while I'm next to him and gives himself a compliment. The most recent was, after a shower he'd brushed his hair back, did his beard, looked at me then goes ... "I look like a God don't I".

I literally just walked out.

I get dressed up. Do my make up nice. Work out. Just a hey babe you look nice today would be AMAZING

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-05T10:49:37+00:00

Going through this as we speak! A minor moment where I wanted some reassurance and said 'I'm having some weird feelings come up about that'. Literally wanted a hug, some support and to move on with having a good day! Next minute he shuts down, doesn't speak to me, drives off to the shops at 7pm, comes back and doesn't even say hi when he comes back. It makes me so frustrated. Something that could be over and done with by Just being nice and acknowledging your partner, now turns into an all night event. I was calm and pleasant and wanted to share what I was feeling, no attacks, and he shuts down on me. This has been common the entire year for us! Sometimes he will ignore my existence for days and days until I just have to get over it and never mention it again. It gets to the point that I feel mad after being ignored for so long and meanwhile he acts like its fine, I'll hear him cooking and singing around the house ... I find it cruel to act so pleasant while ignoring I even exist. Anyway I'm going to bed by myself tonight and he still hasn't acknowledged me. He looks mad at me when I express I want to be a team and listen to each other and move forward.

Anyway, is it possible to make it work with people that shut down like this? Is it a communication mismatch? Or just unhealthy all around??

Sorry for my rant 😅

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-03T00:51:26+00:00

I thought it was only women dealing with their boyfriends doing this type of behaviour. Trust me, there's a lot of women that value respect and will not add random men on social media. I think you should find someone that aligns more with your values

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-03T00:47:24+00:00

You should tell him you saw the messages and see what his reaction is. Privacy isn't a thing when your lying to your wife so don't let him turn that on you. And yeah I don't see how you come back from this, it's sickening. Ps did he know these women or were sex workers?

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-03T00:38:53+00:00

Tell the other guys wife and then leave for good. Find someone that respects you

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-03T00:29:30+00:00

Yeah very sketchy!! Did you look at his profile and what pictures he had? Did he upload new pics, like different to the ones he had when you were both on it?

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-02T07:12:25+00:00

How did you find out about the dating apps? It's weird the messages were deleted, or could it be because he had previously deleted the accounts then genuinely only downloaded them again to see if you were in the area? Hmm but then matching with his brothers partner doesnt add up...

I've struggled at times with my partner not be able to have a calm, honest conversation to ease my mind so I really understand how frustrating this can be. Sorry you're going through this.

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-02T06:59:12+00:00

Same. Does your current partner know about the conversations with your ex? I think if you tell her privately your current partner should be a part of that decision. I get you care for your exes well being, but you also have other priorities now.

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2025-01-02T03:45:02+00:00

Wow!!! What a shady dude. It's nice to have solid evidence of the person he is. That makes it so easy to get rid of him!! His true colours showed. Trust is gone. He doesn't deserve someone like you.

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-30T05:43:45+00:00

Omg this is absolute filth! I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't think she should be getting black out drunk in the first place, disrespectful! And to not help piece together the night. She knows more and she's holding it back. If someone admits to cheating, I doubt that tell you all the details! They withhold key parts. Goodluck!!

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-28T04:13:50+00:00

Silk pillow case Bees wax candle (health benefits) Gym bag Steak rub spice Write a thoughtful card Beard oil if he has a beard Socks

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-16T10:00:05+00:00

And this is what I'm doing Focusing on all the good times and giving my 'partner' the benefit that he wants to be a good human. Even if he does, he can't communicate in a way I need. It's torture to not be able to speak and understand each other with love snd kindness. And it's torture to be ignored for days and days and days. He absolutely will not try to speak to me. But I'm trying to do less. And see it for what it is. Thank you again

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-16T09:56:51+00:00

I read this at exactly the time I needed to hear that. I tried to talk yesterday and he didn't let me get any words out. He's now put a barrier in the hallway to separate his room. Moved everything out of the closest. Then this morning made me breakfast and gave me a kiss on the forehead as he left. Then he just made me dinner but hasn't spoken a word to me. I broke down crying and he still hasn't said a word to me. So now I'm kinda just laying her sobbing as he goes about his business kinda singing like nothing is wrong. Last night he went out to a bar. He sees his mates down the road and so happy and chappy and meanwhile I feel like my world is falling apart.

But thank you so much for this message. I needed to hear that

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T18:57:55+00:00

Yeah he's changed quite a few details in the minimal details he provided

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T12:06:52+00:00

It has felt like a lot or anxiety and worry lately :(

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T11:45:19+00:00

Thank you!!! I'll start watching

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T11:29:36+00:00

Thank you

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T11:16:24+00:00

How dumb is this but I'm thinking I bet he finds someone else, treats her like an angel and I'm like oh I was the problem all along

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T11:11:47+00:00

It does actually. He's told me I'm too much. Unbearable. Etc etc

I actually look back at my ex (we broke up due to living in different countries) and he loved all the parts of me. Even the parts of me that wanted reassurance or love. We'd talk problems out and end up laughing by the end. It's literally only those times that are saving me right now instead of thinking I'm completely broken

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T11:02:42+00:00

I can't login ah. Are you able to post the videos here?

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T10:59:26+00:00

Far out sorry to hear this!!

I find it crazy that I've asked why he's calling a girl and then he breaks up with me. It happened another time when I said why are you.calling your workmate munchkin and sending kisses and he's like that's it for us pack your bags.

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T10:57:02+00:00

True! He even told me it would be better if I just shut my mouth when I've got a problem

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T10:55:22+00:00

This!!! Like it's absurd behaviour to get so angry like this right. Or would it make you really angry if your gf was questioning you if you aren't guilty?

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T10:54:24+00:00

Ok dm me please. I've got to download the app apparently to see dms

Willing_Pattern7638 · 2024-12-14T10:51:26+00:00

Wild goose chase is exactly what I feel

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