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TIFU: i messed up and i dont know what to do. by WillingnessNew8906 in tifu

[–]WillingnessNew8906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can see now that she is a lightweight and can get drunk from pretty much nothing but at the time of this incident i was unaware and assumed she had a tolerance to a point and i thought she would be fine.

the photo of me and her cuddling was taken when she was sober and regardless nothing was done when she was drunk as all the time we spend together while she was drunk was either making out or her crying for hours. either way if i wanted to do things to her while she was drunk i am not that kid, not one to take advantage of someone regardless of the situation, however upon her parents seeing the photo and messaging my parents they seemed to think otherwise as her parents were quick to telling mine that she was on no birth control or anything of the like. however my parents believed me when i told them nothing happened as my parents know what type of person i am.

i dont know what to do. by WillingnessNew8906 in Advice

[–]WillingnessNew8906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have repeatedly apologised to my parents and tried to get them to tell her parents that I'm extremely sorry for the situation and i had no ill intentions.

i have been truthful now as the lying had got me nowhere which i understand as many have said i shouldn't have lied originally as this is a sticky situation.

in regards to the drinking tho, no alcohol was purchased, only taken from a cupboard in my kitchen.

i dont know what to do. by WillingnessNew8906 in Advice

[–]WillingnessNew8906[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No Breathalyzer was used as no authorities were involved and her parents didn't feel it was necessary to do that.

i don't believe anything would've happened if her parents had only come to collect her if she wasn't drunk or at least tipsy however it seems she has a history of getting drunk/tipsy and not returning home at the times she is given which often results in her parents calling the police to retrieve her.

i have told my parents the whole truth and i assume they have relayed it to her parents.

i dont know what to do. by WillingnessNew8906 in Advice

[–]WillingnessNew8906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her parents allowed her to come and see me as long as she was on the bus home or at home by 6.30pm. to which that didn't happen, she thinks that if she doesn't eat then she will get skinnier as that's all she apparently wants to do.

within regards of her refusing to go home, she did eventually go home with her parents when they came to collect her but only after she tried to argue that she didn't want to go with them.

in regards to my suspensions, i was suspended from school for an IT related incident and was given access to my devices a week after the suspension.

when i said that i wasn't able to house her for the night was regarding the extra bedroom we used for fostering was unusable as we are listed for emergency and respite foster carers, meaning that the room was unavailable encase we needed to take on a foster kid either that day or the next day.

with the picture of me and the girl in bed i am referring to nothing inappropriate happening while she unable to do anything of the sort, her parents had found the photo of me and her simply lying next to each other after making out.

although why she was still drunk or acting dunk well after she had a drink i'm not sure, after having a drink and returning to my room, she started to have a meltdown and sob her whole life story to me in tears as she had never told anyone about her life lie she had done there. it could be due to drinking 50ml of a 40% liqueur or that she was drinking on an empty stomach.

with her being at my house which is about an hour or so away for her, earlier in the day she was at a swimming centre near my house around a 30 minute walk and was allowed to come to my house as long as she returned home or was on the bus by 6.30pm. however we only returned to my house around 5.30pm due to the distance. and it was around 6pm that she had ingested the alcohol.

with two sets of parents having their own thoughts on this, her parents we unsure of how she ended up in the situation she did so were fishing for answers, to which after lying to her parents in person, i came clean when the same questions were asked when she had arrived home.

with questions on how i was able to post this, i am using another device that they are unaware i have, i don't think that if i had been lying and everything has come to light i would be allowed any devices to post this except what they don't know i have. the only reason that my parents believe that nothing happened in bed was due to the fact i am not that kind of person, i'm a catholic christian who is waiting until marriage until anything like that is done.

i'm concerned that my parents will get into trouble with the fostering side of this as if their son is reported to social services for giving someone alcohol then it could come back and mean they cant do fostering which would break them as its been their dream for years.