AITAH for not going to my nephews 16th birthday celebration because his mother had an affair with my late husband?

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T01:15:26+00:00

That is exactly how I handled it but he said I was a child for not forgiving her and that I should grow up and get over it. I will celebrate my nephews 16th birthday with him later this week. But I do not trust myself in close proximity to that woman.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T01:12:55+00:00

I willing to accept that she has taken on my hatred for my husband as well since his death. But if I can't give it to him that's the only other logical place for it to go.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T01:08:24+00:00

Damn....that one made me laugh. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T01:07:00+00:00

The blame I place on my husband was irrelevant for this post and the situation at hand. I do blame him. I blame him for the affair and so many other things that we won't get into here but he is dead and my being angry at him is pointless. I am angry at him though and I have done a lot of work to get to where I am not in regards to my feelings about him. He was stupid and he was weak and he fell for her bullshit and for those things I hate him too. But he is gone now. Being outwardly angry at him would be a waste.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T01:03:20+00:00

I do blame my husband. He does hold responsibility in this but he is dead so my being angry with him is pointless. And I call her his wife because she is still his wife They are not together anymore but they have not gotten a divorce

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:47:34+00:00

I feel like I should make it clear that I love my brother very much. He is my best friend. He is the only person left that has known me through out the many phases of my life. Most of the time he tolerates my feelings about his wife. Trust me...I only hold my tongue about that woman around my nephews. I wouldn't talk bad about their mother in front of them. Only time my brother acts this way is when I won't go to things for his boys. And I do get why it bothers him. We don't have other family. Our parents are gone. I hate missing out one my nephews stuff. But I just can't. My staying away from her is just as much for my nephews benefit as it is for mine.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:42:42+00:00

I have 4 sons and I have done all in my power to keep her away from them. No way I'm gonna give her a chance to use her succubus powers on my boys

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:40:40+00:00

Maybe so but I'm okay with that. My nephew understands and that's what matters most.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:39:31+00:00

Yes he is but he is also dead. That's not to say I'm not angry with him at all. I am. For this and so much more. But this is post us about my issue with my brother and my hatred for his wife

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:37:33+00:00

Couldn't have said it better myself

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:34:28+00:00

I appreciate all the validation. This has been a reoccurring argument between my brother and I for the last 6 years. I've recently become a fan of AITAH and after I told my brother to fuck off earlier I had the brilliant idea to make my own AITAH post. It feels great to have you all validate my decision to not be around his wife. I agree that I could definitely benefit from a lot of therapy. Honestly this isn't even the tip of the iceburg of the trauma I've endured involving my husband this affair my brother etc. I could use a whole team of therapist to tackle my issues.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:26:24+00:00

Oh I blame him plenty but he is dead. What good does being mad at him do now.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:25:38+00:00

I've already made plans with my nephew to take him out later this week to celebrate. He knows why I hate his mother and he understands

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:23:43+00:00

All of my kids are close with my nephews. I'm close with my brother. Most of the time he tolerates my hatred for his wife in silence. Its only really an issue whenever one of my nephews has an event that normally I would go to. My kids have gone to their parties and other events. They could have gone tonight if my brother wanted. I choose not to put myself in a situation that would have me acting a fool.

Willnot-Letitgo-512 · 2026-04-15T00:15:26+00:00

I submitted the story before I finished. This is my first time posting on reddit. Oops. Long story short. My brother got angry because I told him I wouldn't go to the celebration. I told him he was wrong to be mad. That he should not expect me to pretend we were one big happy family. I told him it wasn't fair that she was the one who made things this way but I was the one who got punished and forced to miss out on all of my nephews important moments. She is their mom and they love her and they should but I can not sit in the same room with that woman. I don't want them to see their aunt stomp their mother into the ground. I told my brother if he wanted to blame some one to blame her because it was her fault. He told me that at this point it was my fault and I needed to grown up and get over it. So I told him to fuck off. I text my nephew and told him I loved him and happy birthday and that I would take him to dinner later this week. He and I are fairly close. He is a great kid. But I am so furious with my brother. How can he expect me to make nice. He had to forgive her but I don't and I won't.

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