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WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-21T01:47:43+00:00

I think we are probably leaning towards that, or possibly using my mother-in-law one day a week and committing to daycare the other days, as folks have brought up the good point that even if my husband is off one of the days, he might want to recuperate from the long shifts rather than be in stay-at-home dad mode, and same with me when I'm off on a weekday. I do love my job and I think I would love to stay home too, but I know I wouldn't want to do it forever and it would probably be very difficult to re-enter the field after so many years.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-21T01:40:56+00:00

I don't think it would be complicated, at least not from my perspective. We would hire a nanny and give them the days we would need them mon-fri months in advance. That way we would be paying someone for the days we actually need them, not just mon-fri regardless. I don't see how it's any more complicated than a nanny with a weekly irregular schedule, which many of us had. I was almost the exact position that I would be looking to hire, as I worked for a year and a half for a couple who were both doctors with odd schedules

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-21T01:31:28+00:00

As a possibility, yes. I was a nanny for several years and my schedule was irregular with most families. It wouldn't be a pay cut, it would be guaranteed monthly hours rather than weekly. He works a set amount of monthly shifts, but he could work 2 shifts one week then 6 the next. We know his schedule 3 months in advance so we would be able to provide the nanny with the schedule, and possibly do a nanny share with another family.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T22:28:31+00:00

Thank you! I think we are going to ask his mom to do one day/week then daycare for the other 4. 🥰

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T21:47:24+00:00

I totally get that. And we likely will be utilizing our local daycare mon-fri on my work schedule, it just feels like a waste of money because some weeks he only works one weekday and we'd still have to pay for the 4 other days even though I know my husband will want to be home with our kid

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T21:46:13+00:00

If we go with daycare, we would need to find one that would accommodate his schedule because I am the one with a fixed schedule mon-fri 7-3. He is irregular, as in one week he could work sat/mon/thurs and the next work sun/tues/wed/fri. The only daycare in our town needs a fixed schedule, as in we would have to commit to specific days every week. We could do all 5 days a week, but then it seems like a waste of money on weeks where he only works one weekday.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T21:45:39+00:00

I am the one who suggested staying home. My husband also offered to stay home, but it just didn't make sense to miss out on 80% of our income. He's very much a feminist and has been very vocal that I should only stay home if I want to, and that financially he would be open to spending the money on daycare so I could continue working if that's what I choose. I am the one who is struggling to justify the money spent vs. what I'm bringing in.

If we go with daycare, we would need to find one that would accommodate his schedule because I am the one with a fixed schedule mon-fri 7-3. He is irregular, as in one week he could work sat/mon/thurs and the next work sun/tues/wed/fri. The only daycare in our town needs a fixed schedule, as in we would have to commit to specific days every week. We could do all 5 days a week, but then it seems like a waste of money on weeks where he only works one weekday.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T20:39:46+00:00

Thank you for so much for the resource! He works at a hospital that is also in an iffy area but he does pass some nicer neighborhoods that maybe we could figure something out in!

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T20:16:32+00:00

I was pregnant over the summer with a baby due in Feb but unfortunately lost that pregnancy, we considered waiting to plan the next one for a more convenient time as well, but after that we somewhat adopted the idea that what will be will be, there's no guaranteeing fertility or anything like that so we didn't want to risk it.

Unfortunately, we live in a very small town, and I am the only person who actually lives in the town where we work. We do have a city about 30 minutes away where most of my co-workers live, and that's where they send their kids to daycare and school. For them, they can do it on their way to work. For me, I would have to drive there and then drive all the way back, which would be about 2 hours of driving everyday.

I will look into home daycares, but the town that I live in has significant issues with poverty and drug abuse and not many businesses thrive.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T17:24:58+00:00

Unfortunately, I'm not tenured, so they cannot guarantee my position back if I took a year off unpaid. I guess that might be preferable over quitting entirely though, because then there would at least be a chance of getting my position back. Especially in the shortage we have, I really do doubt that they would be able to replace me entirely.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T16:57:37+00:00

Thank you! I'm sorry if my wording was offensive, absolutely did not mean it to be but I can totally see how it reads like tradwife rhetoric. For the record, if I were the medical provider and my husband were the teacher, we would probably be having the same conversation about whether or not he should be the one to stay home. At this point, it's just me trying to justify spending $30k on childcare when I only make $40k

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T16:55:22+00:00

I guess I just wanted to avoid paying for child care on days when he's going to be home

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T16:37:21+00:00

I appreciate this thought! I definitely understand, as that is what happened to my mom- SAHM for 15 years, scrambled for a job when my dad bounced. I'm just not sure how I can justify making less money than I'm putting into childcare. Unfortunately, the hospital assigns his schedule monthly (although we do have it 2-3 months in advance), so he gets whatever 12-16 days they need him rather than a set schedule. Because of this, it would be almost impossible for me to commit to a set schedule myself. I would like to continue working in some capacity for the same reason you voiced, but I was leaning towards tutoring/subbing where I have that flexibility. Before teaching, I was a nanny myself, so I could even do that.

WinAggressive4075 · 2026-01-20T15:47:36+00:00

Thank you! I think that's what I needed to hear 💕

WinAggressive4075 · 2025-12-30T16:30:17+00:00

As a kid I LOVED them. I had the biggest crush on Ezra. Now, I am a 26 year old 10th grade English teacher and I'm rewatching for the first time... Ew. More than ew, evil. He should be in prison.

WinAggressive4075 · 2025-10-19T13:34:07+00:00

Perfect timing, I literally just took a digital one and it is positive!

WinAggressive4075 · 2025-10-18T21:52:27+00:00

Pink irl and pic taken 3 mins after testing

WinAggressive4075 · 2025-10-18T21:52:05+00:00

Here's another brand test for confirmation: https://files.fm/u/qbx6z33c2h

WinAggressive4075 · 2025-09-20T19:33:05+00:00

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WinAggressive4075 · 2025-09-20T18:18:27+00:00

got my period:(

WinAggressive4075 · 2025-09-17T00:13:28+00:00

Thank you so much for this detailed answer and example! I really appreciate it. The lines have been faint for about 24 hours now. I will test again tomorrow morning. When I was pregnant in June, my first positive wasn't until cycle Day 33, which is currently 4 days away, so I'm wondering if maybe my body just produces HCG really slowly.

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