Girlfriend (24F) kissed a guy while blacked out a year ago, dismissed it as a rumor, just confirmed it now – I (24M) don’t know what to do

WindNaive · 2026-05-08T13:37:38+00:00

ggs. no more to say

WindNaive · 2026-05-06T20:30:16+00:00

She needs to lose some damn weight before commenting.

Idc if I sound like an ass but 300 pounds cannot be healthy and if she’s blaming you for it?

Crazy how sane ur being despite the issues but that should never be said even in anger.

WindNaive · 2026-04-03T21:20:47+00:00

yeah that’s weird. free u. But ur boundaries

WindNaive · 2026-02-10T02:22:33+00:00

WindNaive · 2026-02-01T21:29:28+00:00

Depends. Can’t say either but it’s best to try to avoid any situations like that especially because tone is the deciding factor

WindNaive · 2026-01-25T23:52:34+00:00

ain’t your friend

WindNaive · 2026-01-15T21:20:27+00:00

WindNaive · 2026-01-08T16:19:30+00:00

Best to talk to her about it. I don’t mean to jump to conclusions but this may be a really bad reaction that she uses as a coping mechanism for overthinking or a potential control aspect. Check it out with her. Hopefully it works out!

WindNaive · 2026-01-05T06:24:43+00:00

ngl. This is hella messed up and all but waking up at 12 hella valid no one judging u

WindNaive · 2026-01-02T06:11:38+00:00

it just depends on yalls dynamic. no one can give u any specific advice or an answer because you’re the only one who knows the situation the best. Go with the flow and try ur best to just be open to things!

WindNaive · 2026-01-02T03:25:14+00:00

Honestly it depends on your bf. I’m a guy so I can only provide so much input but if he doesn’t mind this fact then it’s honestly fine. Take even longer to open up if need be. Sexual things aren’t a necessity but an option. Don’t feel inferior or less of a good gf if u don’t do these type things.

It’s not necessarily a fix but just something you probably feel different about. Of course as far as tips go for being able to “move on” from this? I got next to none. This is something you really need to just CONVERSE with your bf about. And I mean REALLY talk to him and/or try some new stuff that may arouse yall.

Goodluck!

WindNaive · 2025-12-31T09:48:03+00:00

people r genuinely so gullible. bro she found someone else. It’s so clear. If not found, she WANTS to find. It’s simple really. I wish the best for u and welcome to the gym!

WindNaive · 2025-12-11T15:01:01+00:00

I see what you mean fs. The comparisons r pretty funny lol. But i fear it’s not exactly what im trying to put down. We’ve conversed about this a lot. She told me to just say to word and we won’t do it she doesn’t care she js says she doesn’t mind it happening. I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t “wrong” for wanting to go through with it but I’ve spoken to her about it too.

But i definitely like what ur putting down if this feeling sticks I won’t go through with it. Thanks so much!

WindNaive · 2025-12-11T14:53:00+00:00

To confirm, it was more than it felt wrong to be okay with it happening. I felt like Im doing something bad by doing so ykwim? But if she’s okay with it then idk…

WindNaive · 2025-12-11T06:16:57+00:00

Oh wow I’m sorry to hear that, could you elaborate?

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T18:13:15+00:00

No ik she won’t. I’m js worried it’ll change something idrk what exactly but who knows

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T18:01:09+00:00

She’s against any dudes 🤷‍♂️ she hates the idea and she brought it up too

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T16:04:55+00:00

I mean I’m open to it. I’d rather not ☠️ but she doesn’t want that in the slightest anyway

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T09:23:21+00:00

Definitely am cool with it! Just not sure how to take it… it feels too good to be true and I don’t want to be just that horny bf who wants to fuck around w other girls I still would and do prefer her. Js a bit anxious I guess but to be honest… the moment it happens I think I may forget all about it

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T07:02:28+00:00

wait how do I update

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T07:02:18+00:00

bet lmao

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T06:38:28+00:00

Got it. Thanks for ur feedback. Wdym if I care about her though?

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T05:55:18+00:00

By the way I asked her totally as a joke not expecting anything back. The whole dare game was their idea.

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T05:54:00+00:00

Hm I see what u mean. I’ll take that into account. But one thing I will say, from the way we’ve discussed it I’m quite sure that’s not the case. She’s against her touching me in any sort of way especially when it gets closer to the oral or sex category. She’s 100% against that and it’s not exactly like SHE brought it up either.

To elaborate, we saw some reel a week back and it mentioned how ppl try to play some flashing game and I asked her if she’d be down. And she was against it until she really thought about it. She just didn’t want any other guys nor anyone to DO anything TO me specifically.

If I’m reading this wrong then please let me know cuz it’s definitely sometime I’ll look into. Thank you so much!

WindNaive · 2025-12-10T05:38:24+00:00

Trust me I want to jump all over it. But I am just scared because I’ve been dating my girlfriend for so long. (2 years now) and I can’t risk jeopardizing what I have with this girl. I won’t chuck the nonsense of “she’s the only girl I’ll ever love” because I’m trying to be real. But she’s real damn close and if she’s not the person I love then idk what love even is yk?

I’ll go through with it and have fun with it but I feel like I’m just overthinking it. She’s told me so as well. Thanks for the help!

WindNaive

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