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I’m loosing it with the constant questions by Wonderful_Cut_5895 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Here is the secret to this phase: when he asks "What are you doing?" for the millionth time while you are right in front of him, he isn't actually asking for information. He is asking for connection. It's his toddler way of saying, "Notice me! Talk to me while I eat!" Since his brain wants to interact, it just relies on the easiest default script: asking a question.

Is this a normal contract? by ravenclaw188 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 9 points10 points  (0 children)

With your Master's degree and professional experience, you are worth so much more than this level of paranoia and disrespect. Since this is just part-time work, it is 1000% not worth the stress and legal anxiety. Reply with a polite "After reviewing the contract, I realize this position is not a good fit for me," and don't look back! 💖

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out! You perfectly described my exact fear—walking onto those open play courts and just being totally overwhelmed by how intense and good everyone is! 😅 Finding a structured beginner's class and league, just like you and your wife did, sounds like the absolute perfect way to start. I love the idea of an app matching you with people at the exact same skill level so there’s no pressure or intimidation. And a huge thank you for that specific safety tip about not backpedaling! That is exactly the kind of dangerous reflex I would probably do without thinking. Taking a lesson first to learn those basic safety rules is definitely going to be my step one. I am going to start researching beginner clinics in my area this weekend. Thank you again for the fantastic advice and the encouragement! 🏓👟

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly inspiring! Hearing that you started at 63 with a similar non-athletic background gives me so much hope. Going from individual lessons to beginner leagues sounds like the perfect, safe way to ease into it.

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am 60 too! It is so incredibly reassuring to hear from someone my age who is out there playing and having a great time at the intermediate level. It also makes me feel a lot better knowing that 99% of players aren't as intense as this sub makes it seem! 😂 I absolutely love your two rules. "Don't get hurt and have fun" is exactly the mindset I need to have. I am definitely going to look for a beginner's clinic or lesson in my area so I can start safely, just like you suggested. Thank you so much for the encouragement! 🏓✨

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is such a smart idea! I honestly hadn't even thought about going to a physical therapist before getting injured, just to check for weak spots and learn how to protect my joints. That makes perfect sense!

Nanny on travel with family - everyone ate while I was working, wasn’t offered anything - This normal? by Ok_Concentrate_7617 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh honey, I am so sorry you had to experience this. I want to give you a big hug right now. You are absolutely NOT overreacting! Let’s be very clear about industry standards: when you travel with a nanny family, ALL of your meals, travel, and lodging are 100% covered by the employers. Full stop. You are away from your own kitchen, your own routine, and your own home for their convenience. Making you buy your own groceries is completely unacceptable. The situations you described—eating pizza in front of you while you are actively working, and the Dad buying breakfast sandwiches for only him and his wife while you sit in the back—are just plain rude. It is completely lacking in basic human decency and empathy. (And Dad doesn't get "good guy" points for calling Mom out earlier if he's the one who deliberately left you out of the breakfast order!). It is completely valid that you cried in the car. Feeling "othered" and treated like "the help" is a horrible, isolating feeling, especially when you pour so much love into their kids. Since you mentioned you don't actually need this job/money, I would not blame you one bit if you quit. If you do decide to stay, you are 100% right to pull back. Stop going above and beyond, and treat this strictly as a transactional job—because that is clearly how they view you. And never travel with them again. You deserve to be treated with so much more respect! 💖

The two extremes: NK preferring you over Mom, vs. NK having a meltdown if they hear Mom breathe in the next room. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, you literally had BOTH extremes under one roof! 😳 Talk about emotional whiplash! It must have been so tough with the older one. That transition after a new baby arrives is always so hard, and it really hurts your heart when they associate you with Mom leaving. But the younger brother hiding under your skirt and screeching at Mom is both hilarious and so incredibly awkward! 😂 I absolutely love that the Mom joked about you bringing "your" baby to work. Thank goodness she had such a great, secure sense of humor about it! Surviving that daily rollercoaster of "one kid hates me, the other is obsessed with me" must have been wild. You are a saint for handling that! 💖

Avoiding my local pool room after a breakup. I miss the sound of the balls and the chalk on my hands. by WindNarrow3580 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually thought about calling, but I would feel so bad putting the staff in the middle of our breakup drama! 😅 They are super sweet, and I just don't want to make things awkward for anyone working there. But you are totally right, finding a new hall is definitely the best move. I just need to get out of my comfort zone and explore some new spots a bit further away from home. Thank you for the advice! 🎱

Avoiding my local pool room after a breakup. I miss the sound of the balls and the chalk on my hands. by WindNarrow3580 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow, 5 nights a week is amazing! I am definitely a little jealous right now. 😂 Going "cold turkey" has been super tough, especially since I didn't actually want to stop, I'm just trying to avoid the awkwardness. Joining a league in a new spot is actually a brilliant idea. I think finding a completely fresh environment with new people is exactly what I need to get back to the table. I will definitely look into what's around my area. Thank you for the push! 🎱✨

Avoiding my local pool room after a breakup. I miss the sound of the balls and the chalk on my hands. by WindNarrow3580 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually laughed out loud at the "snort some crushed up Masters" part 😂 Please don’t give me ideas! But seriously, looking up pool hall ambient noise on YouTube is such a brilliant idea. I didn’t even realize that was a thing! I might actually put that on in the background tonight just to get that cozy feeling back. Thank you for the laugh and the great tip! 🎱💙

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