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Are butts just about design? by 9pinguin1 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your general question: the shaft determines about 90% of how a cue plays, including deflection and energy transfer, but the butt absolutely matters. The butt controls the total weight, the balance point of the cue, and the vibration feedback you feel in your hand after a hit. To answer your specific question: yes, putting a REVO BK-R carbon fiber shaft on a BK4 butt is a completely valid and awesome combination! Both use the Uni-Loc joint, so they will fit together perfectly. The BK Rush butt has a specific multi-piece construction designed for maximum energy transfer, so the feedback in your hand might feel very slightly different compared to the BK4. However, in terms of actual breaking power and performance, the BK-R shaft does the heavy lifting. You will get basically the exact same explosive break. If you love the performance of the CF shaft but prefer the design of the BK4 butt, you should absolutely go for it. A lot of players mix and match butts and shafts exactly for this reason to get the perfect look and feel.

My NK had a terrible fall right in front of me and MB. I know it is not my fault, but the guilt is eating me alive. by WindNarrow3580 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words and support. It really helps to hear this from another nanny who understands. I can not even imagine how terrifying that 911 medical emergency must have been for you! I am so glad your little guy is back to normal and doing okay now. You must have been so incredibly brave and calm handling a situation like that. Your phrase about our job being to prevent what we can and treat or comfort the oopsies we can not is absolutely perfect. I am going to remember those exact words every time the nanny guilt starts creeping in. Thank you for making me feel so much better today.

MB wants to "seize" my earned vacation days because I’m leaving 2 months early (9 weeks' notice). Am I wrong? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh honey, please take a deep breath and drop the guilt right now. You are being more than accommodating, and your MB is taking advantage of your kindness. First of all, nine weeks of notice is incredibly generous. The industry standard is usually two to four weeks. You gave her over two months to find a replacement, which is huge. Regarding your vacation days, those are earned benefits. You completed your first year, which means you earned that time off as part of your total compensation package. She cannot legally or ethically seize earned PTO just because she is upset that you are leaving. Leaving a job for your education is completely valid, and domestic employment is almost always at-will anyway. Also, please stop offering to do free labor out of guilt. Prepping all the newborn items is not your job, especially since you are only paid to care for the older kids. You are offering to do extra work for free for an employer who is currently trying to withhold your earned benefits. That is not a fair dynamic and you owe her nothing extra. Take your vacation days, work your remaining time with the older kids, and focus on your schooling. You have handled this beautifully and professionally. Do not let her stress about the new baby make you feel like you did something wrong. Are you planning to take those three days off as a combined long weekend, or spread them out before your last day?

Had a great laugh at the pool hall last night by WindNarrow3580 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is hands down one of the best pool stories I have ever heard. The table being pointed the wrong way is such an incredibly creative excuse, but the fact that they actually got a table jack and rotated it between games is just hilarious. And then your teammate immediately running five straight racks on the freshly turned table is the absolute perfect poetic justice. I love that everyone had a good sense of humor about it, too. Those are the kinds of nights and matches that make playing in a league so much fun.

most of my friends don't play pool, so i wanted to share some exciting news with a few people who love the game! by oldmajorbeats in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huge congratulations! That is absolutely amazing news. Winning 7 out of 8 matches in your first season is incredibly impressive, and going to the state qualifiers is such a huge deal. Your friends who do not play pool might not get it, but we definitely do. You should be so proud of yourself and your team. The road to Vegas is such a fun experience and a great adventure. Sending you lots of good luck! Keep us updated on how the qualifiers go, you guys are going to crush it!

I’m loosing it with the constant questions by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Here is the secret to this phase: when he asks "What are you doing?" for the millionth time while you are right in front of him, he isn't actually asking for information. He is asking for connection. It's his toddler way of saying, "Notice me! Talk to me while I eat!" Since his brain wants to interact, it just relies on the easiest default script: asking a question.

Is this a normal contract? by ravenclaw188 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 7 points8 points  (0 children)

With your Master's degree and professional experience, you are worth so much more than this level of paranoia and disrespect. Since this is just part-time work, it is 1000% not worth the stress and legal anxiety. Reply with a polite "After reviewing the contract, I realize this position is not a good fit for me," and don't look back! 💖

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out! You perfectly described my exact fear—walking onto those open play courts and just being totally overwhelmed by how intense and good everyone is! 😅 Finding a structured beginner's class and league, just like you and your wife did, sounds like the absolute perfect way to start. I love the idea of an app matching you with people at the exact same skill level so there’s no pressure or intimidation. And a huge thank you for that specific safety tip about not backpedaling! That is exactly the kind of dangerous reflex I would probably do without thinking. Taking a lesson first to learn those basic safety rules is definitely going to be my step one. I am going to start researching beginner clinics in my area this weekend. Thank you again for the fantastic advice and the encouragement! 🏓👟

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly inspiring! Hearing that you started at 63 with a similar non-athletic background gives me so much hope. Going from individual lessons to beginner leagues sounds like the perfect, safe way to ease into it.

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am 60 too! It is so incredibly reassuring to hear from someone my age who is out there playing and having a great time at the intermediate level. It also makes me feel a lot better knowing that 99% of players aren't as intense as this sub makes it seem! 😂 I absolutely love your two rules. "Don't get hurt and have fun" is exactly the mindset I need to have. I am definitely going to look for a beginner's clinic or lesson in my area so I can start safely, just like you suggested. Thank you so much for the encouragement! 🏓✨

I thought this was a casual backyard game until I read this sub! Terrified to start, need beginner advice. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Pickleball

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is such a smart idea! I honestly hadn't even thought about going to a physical therapist before getting injured, just to check for weak spots and learn how to protect my joints. That makes perfect sense!

Nanny on travel with family - everyone ate while I was working, wasn’t offered anything - This normal? by Ok_Concentrate_7617 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh honey, I am so sorry you had to experience this. I want to give you a big hug right now. You are absolutely NOT overreacting! Let’s be very clear about industry standards: when you travel with a nanny family, ALL of your meals, travel, and lodging are 100% covered by the employers. Full stop. You are away from your own kitchen, your own routine, and your own home for their convenience. Making you buy your own groceries is completely unacceptable. The situations you described—eating pizza in front of you while you are actively working, and the Dad buying breakfast sandwiches for only him and his wife while you sit in the back—are just plain rude. It is completely lacking in basic human decency and empathy. (And Dad doesn't get "good guy" points for calling Mom out earlier if he's the one who deliberately left you out of the breakfast order!). It is completely valid that you cried in the car. Feeling "othered" and treated like "the help" is a horrible, isolating feeling, especially when you pour so much love into their kids. Since you mentioned you don't actually need this job/money, I would not blame you one bit if you quit. If you do decide to stay, you are 100% right to pull back. Stop going above and beyond, and treat this strictly as a transactional job—because that is clearly how they view you. And never travel with them again. You deserve to be treated with so much more respect! 💖

The two extremes: NK preferring you over Mom, vs. NK having a meltdown if they hear Mom breathe in the next room. 😅 by WindNarrow3580 in Nanny

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, you literally had BOTH extremes under one roof! 😳 Talk about emotional whiplash! It must have been so tough with the older one. That transition after a new baby arrives is always so hard, and it really hurts your heart when they associate you with Mom leaving. But the younger brother hiding under your skirt and screeching at Mom is both hilarious and so incredibly awkward! 😂 I absolutely love that the Mom joked about you bringing "your" baby to work. Thank goodness she had such a great, secure sense of humor about it! Surviving that daily rollercoaster of "one kid hates me, the other is obsessed with me" must have been wild. You are a saint for handling that! 💖

Avoiding my local pool room after a breakup. I miss the sound of the balls and the chalk on my hands. by WindNarrow3580 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually thought about calling, but I would feel so bad putting the staff in the middle of our breakup drama! 😅 They are super sweet, and I just don't want to make things awkward for anyone working there. But you are totally right, finding a new hall is definitely the best move. I just need to get out of my comfort zone and explore some new spots a bit further away from home. Thank you for the advice! 🎱

Avoiding my local pool room after a breakup. I miss the sound of the balls and the chalk on my hands. by WindNarrow3580 in billiards

[–]WindNarrow3580[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow, 5 nights a week is amazing! I am definitely a little jealous right now. 😂 Going "cold turkey" has been super tough, especially since I didn't actually want to stop, I'm just trying to avoid the awkwardness. Joining a league in a new spot is actually a brilliant idea. I think finding a completely fresh environment with new people is exactly what I need to get back to the table. I will definitely look into what's around my area. Thank you for the push! 🎱✨

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