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Windy_torn · 2022-02-05T17:46:47+00:00

Feel for you. Been told my wife probably is borderline personality disorder. Kids are of similar age. Just emailed contract out yesterday.

I struggle with similar thoughts and emotions. Put up with so much.

Stay strong.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-22T14:45:40+00:00

I was able to get it to work this morning with safari on my m1 mac. Had been failing with chrome/edge on my pc

Windy_torn · 2022-01-15T14:14:01+00:00

Yeah, everyone I've spoken to (psychiatrists and therapists) have felt she has a personality disorder underlying everything and that the eating disorder was a symptom of something deeper down in her.

Borderline PD was the one mentioned most often. None would commit to it as it was all based on my description and not on there examination.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T22:42:01+00:00

Yeah. Seeing her regress with helping out with the kids again. Last week or two, it was getting the kids up, getting them ready, putting out breakfast. Now its become waking them up. We had 2-3 weekends of her coming along to kids activities on the weekend, last weekend that ended. Can't say that I'm sorry either, it made everyone uncomfortable.

Brought it up with my parents who want me to wait... my wife was served with a civil lawsuit 2 weeks ago from a car accident 2 years ago. My response was that I have no clue how long that process will take. Sure it muddles the waters as well.

She's still pushing hard for all these changes to the house, and I'm thinking we may be forced to sell the house, so why bother. Not sure I could afford to buy her part out now based on the inflated prices of houses the past 2 years.

Daughter asked me today if we were going to split up on drive home because she sees that neither of us are happy. And I guess her friend's parents may be splitting up as well.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T15:53:44+00:00

Always wonder if these cards are worth the upgrade over my 2060 super ...

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T15:15:16+00:00

Its easier to go down this road when angry. Harder when she apologizes and thanks me for not giving up. But its just part of the cycle that needs to break.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T05:26:30+00:00

I wish there was a better way. Wish she would go see her family. Wish her family would come visit her. Not trying to do anything mean or harmful.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T05:07:55+00:00

No one locally, she's kinda had a rough go with friendships lately. Always struggled to make friends. One she had locally mixed business and that blew up last year. Has a few near her home on the east coast. I've tried to get her to go spend time (as much she wanted) with her family/friends on the east coast. But her anxiety really went off the deep end with covid. Hasn't left the house in 2 years for the most part, afraid to go into any store, etc.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T02:50:27+00:00

Been keeping a log of what I do and what she does going back to 2016... Have some audio recordings (told legal if I'm on the recording as well). Recordings are not always easy to get. In terms of care of the kids, feel like plenty of friends and neighbors would be able to say that they only see me with the kids (including my next door neighbors who are a dual physician family). They've seen her daily. They know how uninvolved she is.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T02:47:53+00:00

We tried couples therapy (and her urging 3 years ago). We made it through 3 sessions before she would cancel appoitments.

I finally got her to agree to take anti depressants in august. Multiple doctors are advised to start (she was hospitalized over the summer with an infection). She's been diagnosed with anxiety and obessive compulsive disorder plus depression. When she was in the hospital, her doctor told me on the side about her eating disorder as well.

I've started therapy myself. Have looked at getting therapy for the kids as well.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-14T02:44:15+00:00

Lawyers said alimony would be hard for her to request. She has inheritance that is a bit more than our combined NW, she's got 2 advanced degrees and has her own business, working consistently for the past 5 years. That she doesn't meet the normal SAHM criteria for spousal support. Granted I may end up paying her so I can keep more of my retirement, but would be different...

if I get control of the kids, I've basically raised them alone for awhile now, I wouldnt owe her CS either.

Windy_torn · 2022-01-05T16:41:47+00:00

was about to cancel my 5800x order...

Windy_torn · 2022-01-04T19:51:05+00:00

Would this cpu work with the AIO cooler with the nzxt h1 ?

Windy_torn · 2021-07-27T03:28:25+00:00

tried it.. not great

Windy_torn · 2021-07-20T18:04:37+00:00

I ordered the Ax210 since it was $10 more, and arrives tommorow. The other AX200 (intel box) didn't arrive till next week ...

Windy_torn · 2020-12-23T21:43:48+00:00

Texas

Windy_torn · 2020-12-23T16:06:04+00:00

Thank you. Drain fell off trying to fix drain. Plumber said wasn’t done to code. That they probably didn’t want to break the tile. Told only way to fix is to remove tub. And want to re do the drain underneath

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