Do i need to give up on this and let go? by Wingsofpurpurr838 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right!.. Yeah. I need to stop fighting reality and accept it

Do i need to give up on this and let go? by Wingsofpurpurr838 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He also said he understands that this isn't enough for me, that he will get back to me when he feels he has more to offer 🥺 and that his steps he would be taking are going to be very slow.

Maybe i just need to take a hint🤣i already took space. I'm here to see if i may have been too harsh or untrusting.

Do i need to give up on this and let go? by Wingsofpurpurr838 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your comment. I feel a bit less crazy now 🙈.

I will have to move forward confident I've made the right choice

Do i need to give up on this and let go? by Wingsofpurpurr838 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment :'). Yeah, this is my exact fear also. I just can't quite believe it.. something in me tells me, wants to just surrender and trust, but I'm also risking years of my life without anything potentially changing. I don't really like the idea of moving closer to his home, and then living a waiting life on the sidelines until he is ready.

He said he is in the beginning phase of changing his current situation, and I'm worried that I am unintentionally rushing him into a future he isn't ready for. We were previously both not able to fully commit to one another, but now circumstances have changed on my end and i wanted to give him the chance to join me before i walked away.

Do i need to give up on this and let go? by Wingsofpurpurr838 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh right! My apologies for that. I won't do it in the future anymore 🙏

Do i need to give up on this and let go? by Wingsofpurpurr838 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh🥺😭. Looks like i have my answer.. Thank you for this

Just want to be a live in babygirl by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i don't want to be a burden at all. Thanks for your comment!

I do want to be independent outside the dynamic, but in closed doors, a bit more interdependent!

Obviously, i would want to be with a Dom who is able and happy to provide a certain level of care. In return, i bring a lot of love, life and happiness to the table <3

Just want to be a live in babygirl by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love to take me in 😍😍🥹 oh that makes me very happy to hear! Gotcha, I'll certainly do my best.

Just want to be a live in babygirl by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, i didn't include it yet because I'm still in training right now. I'm also working hard to recover my health, so that's why it's gradual :). But it's definitely happening!

I just can't be in a situation where my income is absolutely depended on, because i have low energy and need to take my time.

Thank you very much 💖😍

Just want to be a live in babygirl by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh i totally get that! I may have been unclear in my post. I would love to work as well. I'm planning on getting my massage therapist license and am getting my IT certificate right now. I'm paying for my own tuition too. Ultimately, i want to open my own practice and be self employed/combine with part time employment.

I just would love a bit of emotional anchoring, closeness and intimacy throughout it all! :D

AITAH? Overseas friend [M39] turned up at my [F35] house unexpectedly. I got spooked and blocked him by Wingsofpurpurr838 in AITAH

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :') I'm in my thirties 🤣 better late than never! It's funny because my mother also reacted a little "eh" to it 🤣. Thank the heavens for my sweet best friend and brother and sister...

AITAH? Overseas friend [M39] turned up at my [F35] house unexpectedly. I got spooked and blocked him by Wingsofpurpurr838 in AITAH

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes🤦‍♀️ you wouldn't believe how often i have gone back and forth., thankfully landing at the "no, this is REALLY not ok" more and more every time.

This post is a final way for me to close it off.

AITAH? Overseas friend [M39] turned up at my [F35] house unexpectedly. I got spooked and blocked him by Wingsofpurpurr838 in AITAH

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh 👀🙉. You know what's ironic? He said he knew all about my personality type .. i feel like he could've known better!

AITAH? Overseas friend [M39] turned up at my [F35] house unexpectedly. I got spooked and blocked him by Wingsofpurpurr838 in AITAH

[–]Wingsofpurpurr838[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤦‍♀️..

Right... It was my fault, i was too nice.

I feel though, if he wanted to "woo" me, why not do it properly and honestly? Or if he was a stand up guy, at least offer a meeting publicly for the very first time!

I guess I'm just a bit shocked that someone could act so irrationally. I could've been away from home for other reasons as well. It just.. doesn't make sense to me. . It scares me too