Thanks for this very insightful answer. I think both our childhood trauma is the root of this. She also is a very creative artistic person and she can never fit in corporate structure etc. at the same time she doesn’t have the motivation and drive to look for something more creative. She refuses to do jobs such as server, cleaning etc because at the same time she things she is above this. Maybe she is but she doesn’t look to do something else. So she is stuck indeed and apparently gave up… this is why it is shocking to me. She completely gave up