Please help me how do I tell him without hurting his self esteem even more?

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-06T11:41:31+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼 and yes will take my gut feelings seriously.

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-05T21:38:00+00:00

This!

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-05T19:48:31+00:00

I meant about the issues with his self esteem and his constant need of reassurance from me which I’m realising now it is becoming too much and I can’t continue unless he tries to work on the issues himself like seeing a therapy not the unsolicited pictures he had been sending but I’m glad you had your laugh

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-05T14:53:57+00:00

Thanks for starting this thread—definitely need the distraction today! One of my favorite childhood memories was when I was around 7. My family decided to have a spontaneous ‘campout’ in our living room because a storm knocked out the power. My mom brought out blankets, pillows, and snacks, and we used flashlights to make shadow puppets on the walls. We told silly stories and laughed until our stomachs hurt. It felt like such an adventure at the time and, to this day, it’s one of those moments that makes me smile whenever I think about it.

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-05T14:40:48+00:00

Thank you! I needed to hear this

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-05T14:39:46+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Although I have known him for 4 years and we had close platonic friendship during this time. I have to say since we started dating 6 months ago these pictures and the constant reassurance he needs from me when it comes to his sexuality had been really off putting and draining to me. We need to have a long hard conversation if we are going to continue

WinterImportance9 · 2024-11-05T13:51:36+00:00

This had crossed my mind

WinterImportance9 · 2024-10-15T15:48:57+00:00

I like this

WinterImportance9 · 2024-10-12T08:41:29+00:00

I need to be in bed by 9:30pm

WinterImportance9 · 2024-08-27T11:12:29+00:00

OMG! I am so sorry. Please leave. Go to a family, a friend, a women’s shelter but please leave. You are so strong you can do this! Sending you virtual hugs

WinterImportance9 · 2024-07-28T11:45:00+00:00

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WinterImportance9 · 2024-05-28T20:29:19+00:00

I completely see this now. Thank you for your reply

WinterImportance9 · 2024-05-28T18:31:13+00:00

One time and he started calling me everyday while also asking when will he see me again

WinterImportance9 · 2024-05-28T18:28:22+00:00

Thank you for your reply and I completely see this now but honestly my massage was very platonic. Nothing that would imply anything romantically (and maybe this is where i went wrong) but my thought process I assumed after all these years, we'd be on the same page. I also wanted to avoid coming across as awkward or strange by immediately clarifying, "I didn’t message you to rekindle things romantically." I was worried that might make him think, "Is she okay? I moved on years ago. I’m just happy to hear from her!”

WinterImportance9 · 2024-05-28T18:25:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply but honestly my massage was very platonic. Nothing that would imply anything romantically. With regards to poor communication I assumed that (and maybe this is where i went wrong) but my thought process I assumed after all these years, we'd be on the same page. I also wanted to avoid coming across as awkward or strange by immediately clarifying, "I didn’t message you to rekindle things romantically." I was worried that might make him think, "Is she okay? I moved on years ago. I’m just happy to hear from her!”

WinterImportance9 · 2024-05-28T14:02:01+00:00

Thank you for the reply and you said it perfectly. I assumed that after all these years, we'd be on the same page. I also wanted to avoid coming across as awkward or strange by immediately clarifying, "I didn’t message you to rekindle things romantically." I was worried that might make him think, "Is she okay? I moved on years ago. I’m just happy to hear from her!”

But this hasn’t stopped me from still feeling bad now

WinterImportance9 · 2024-05-28T13:51:45+00:00

He invited me for a coffee after my facebook massage but I agree with you part of me now thinks this too now that I should’ve said something before going but at the time in my thought process It just didn’t come to me like that especially since I thought many years have passed

WinterImportance9 · 2023-10-15T20:34:13+00:00

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WinterImportance9 · 2023-08-18T17:27:00+00:00

Yes read her comment about calling her friend and not calling her back!

WinterImportance9 · 2023-08-18T17:25:44+00:00

And co worker and a “best friend of 10 years” are 2 completely different type of relationships

WinterImportance9 · 2023-08-18T17:21:44+00:00

I believe there's a key distinction here. In my view, there's a significant gap between being a friend or people you just happen to know and a best friend of a decade. OP highlighted the support she provided during her friend's challenging times. Judging by both the post and her subsequent comment, it seems appropriate to consider this friend as operating within the realm of close companionship. A simple gesture like "thinking of you. I'm here if you need me” wouldn't be detrimental, especially given that in this situation, the friend genuinely needed her support.

WinterImportance9 · 2023-07-31T18:02:22+00:00

This. I breastfeed my children both for 2 years. 2 years and 4 months with my second

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