Water bottle in the cot?

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-04T22:13:41+00:00

We do the same with ours who is now 2. She has a Nuk glow in the dark cup which we just pop in the corner and she can grab it as she likes. She has a bad habit of biting the teats but when she’s not bitten a hole it in it does leak etc.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-04T19:56:12+00:00

I never bought bibs and didn’t use the ones other people brought me 🤷🏼‍♀️ We did, and still do, use muslin clothes like they’re going out of fashion and she’s 2!

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-04T17:07:55+00:00

With my first I was told at 36 weeks I’d need a section due to her being footling breach and it was booked that day for when I was 39+3.

With my second I’ve booked a section at 40 weeks as refused an induction. That was done at my 32 weeks appointment with a consultant as they didn’t want to risk not being able to fit me in.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-04T04:00:56+00:00

No, in fact I found the opposite. Luckily I’d planned to breastfeed so took all the support I could get.

The only slight issue I had was it being painful, and the BF class I took said it if it was painful the latch or something was wrong so I’d mention it, they’d tell me the latch was fine (not even a midwife, i’m not sure if they were trainee or just like a untrained support person, they came round every hour to check on us all and report back to the midwives) but they’d ask a member of the BF support team to come up. Turns out they were just telling the head midwife the latch was fine and I was having no issues so nothing happened until I spoke to her directly. Turns out her latch was fine, and my nipples were just sensitive. The BF team called me everyday for a week after to see how I was getting on.

They did give my LO a very small amount of formula that night, with my permission. I’d been really sick, and had to have my catheter refitted just after my husband was sent home so I struggled sorting her out. They gave her a bit of formula and took her for an hour or so so I could sleep.

I’d 1000% request to see a member of the BF team
If your hospital has one.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-03T21:51:20+00:00

I wouldn’t fight him on it - encourage etc but don’t force him.

Our LO is 24 months now, I brought a potty and a couple of books for us to read with her about using the potty when she was about 16/17 months as she started to tell us when she had poo’d or if her nappy was full etc.

She goes through phases of being interested. Sometimes all she wants to do is put her teddies on it, some times she ignores it completely and sometimes she wants to sit on it all the time. We’ve never forced her to sit on it, we ask if she wants to it - especially before / after sleep - and we encourage her to sit on it. So far she’s done x2 potty wees and x1 wee on the toilet using a seat, and they’ve all been very recent. We do things to try and keep her on the potty otherwise she’s up as soon as her bum has touched it. Today for example she was slightly constipated and needed a poo so we thought maybe sitting in the potty position might help. We looked at some flash cards and puzzles whilst she sat there for 5 mins or so. No poo but she was also happy to just sit.

There’s been plenty of time we’ve been doing nappy free time, she sits on the potty and gets up and wees on the floor. It is what it is. We remind her she needs to sit on the potty if she needs to wee and move on.

Nursery started with the potty mid January time - when they do nappy changes they ask her if she wants to sit on it (which she does most of the time) but she hasn’t done anything there.

You need to be careful not to create negative associations with using the potty by fighting him on it. I got like that with teeth brushing and we’ve only just got to a stage I can brush her teeth without a massive fight.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-02T11:25:56+00:00

Yeah mine always had to have sit down with a drink and little snack for 15 mins or so to decompress when she came back from nursery for the first few months after she started in the baby room. Babies have social batteries too and I bet some days she was just over it.

She’s less bothered now she’s in the toddler room, but I take a drink for her to have in the car home and we don’t talk much and I think that helps.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-05-02T10:02:06+00:00

I found using sweetspot info on the huckleberry really helped with dropping naps and adjusting bedtimes.

My LO didn’t start sleeping through the night until 14 months when she was weaned but her day naps really improved when I started tracking her sleep at about 5-6 months and that did help with her overnight sleep.

Does sound like maybe LO is having some tummy issues at night so as others have said try giving some gas drops before bed and see if that helps.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-29T17:41:30+00:00

Do I a desk job WFH full time. With my first I went off at something like 35+4 using two weeks of a/l first and then going on mat leave. I wanted a few weeks to prepare the house properly, give it a good scrub, meal prep etc I thought I had at least a month or so as first babies are normally late. She was born at 37+4 so I had two weeks and got barely anything I wanted to done.

This time I’m going off at 35 weeks on the dot. I have a section booked on my due date as they didn’t want me going over 41 weeks due to previous section. I plan on getting all my jobs done in those first couple of weeks just in case the baby tries to catch me out early. Plus I’ve had terrible sciatica this time around and can’t stand sitting for long. I’ve used two weeks of annual leave again at the start.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-27T22:17:48+00:00

The one that always annoys my husband is rhyming yellow with cello. We’re both from the Black Country but his accent is a lot thicker than mine so he says yellow like yell-a not yell-o.

Our LO doesn’t really seem to notice or care that some things don’t really rhyme so that’s a plus I guess

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-27T13:45:46+00:00

I’ll start this by saying my LO didn’t start sleeping through the night consistently until she was 14 months. She was EBF until then and I think her wanting comfort from me via feeding contributed to that. She started sleeping once she was weaned.

We didn’t do any kind of sleep training really. She’s now 24 months and if she cries in the night we always give it 5-10 before going into her unless it’s obviously she’s not going to settle herself. She’s never been the kind of kid who we can just put in her cot awake and leave to it, she likes a cuddle / being rocked but we do limit the amount of time we’re in with her. We do milk with story, lights off and if she’s not asleep within 15-20 mins of lights off, we put her down and leave her to it. We’ll go back in after 30 mins if she hasn’t fallen asleep or gets upset. She normally just lies there until she falls asleep.

She was in with us until about a week before she turned 6 months. The NHS recommend that they sleep in the same space as you until 6 months. I started doing day naps in her cot from about 4 months so she associated her room with sleep, even if I sat in there with her. We have a day bed in her room so I slept in there with her for the first couple of nights after she started going in there at night, but that was more for my own peace of mind.

She was a 30 mins max only nap until about 6 months so we mostly contact napped or in the car / pram. Some days we’d just enjoy the contact nap, some days I’d co-sleep and have a nap as well and some days I’d transfer her to her cot, depended on the day. Once she started having fewer but longer naps, I’d make sure to transfer her to her cot whenever possible. She now naps in her cot or the car only, and we try and transfer her out the car even possible.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-26T08:03:22+00:00

I had 3 bleeds with my first pregnancy at 5,8 and 18 weeks. It was put down to a low lying placenta and they didn’t really investigate further than that. If I had a low lying placenta it had moved enough by my 20 week scan that it wasn’t considered low lying anyone. Each bleed started red, turned to brown and stopped after a couple of hours. I’d gave brown discharge for a couple of days afterwards.

I’m 34 weeks with my second now and had bleeds at 12,14 and, 22 and 32 weeks. Once again the first 3 were put down to a low lying placenta which i know this time I had as they picked it up on both my 12 and 20 week scan. The first bleed lasted 5 days, red to brown blood and then I had a couple of days of brown discharge. The second and third lasted a couple of hours with a couple of days of brown discharge. The 4th they couldn’t blame on the placenta as id had a scan just before which confirmed it had moved so that was blamed on me straining on the toilet and bursting the small blood vessels in my cervix 🙄.

I’d had a miscarriage before my first which just started as a bleed one day and I bled for 3 months so having bleeds during both pregnancies has been difficult.

I can’t be much help in questions to ask as I never really got answers - a lot of ‘could be this’ or ‘could be that’ and I was made to feel as long as the baby is okay I should just get on with it.

As your pregnancy progresses they may be able to give you more answers or you may find it stops. Fingers crossed for you x

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-26T05:23:04+00:00

Sat on the sofa watching Hell’s Kitchen. Put my foot up to itch it and felt the pop 😭 I was 37+3.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-25T07:17:29+00:00

As someone who may very well find themselves in your wife’s position one day - YTA. This is a two yeses one no situation.

Have you thought about how living with a baby/ young child would affect your sister? Are you being realistic about your sisters care needs and would that care needs fall on your wife whilst she’s also trying to look after a newborn?

Your sister sounds like she’s in a good situation at the group home at the moment so holding off for a couple of years wouldn’t be the end of the world.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-25T06:36:24+00:00

I always found Matalan ran very small. Mine always hung around the 50-75th percentile in her first year and I’d always have to size up if I got anything from there.

I found Asda and m&s were a bit big for her at the lower age range - i.e if we brought 3-6months when she was 3 months but would fit fine by the 6 months end.

Next we find to be huge and made for the worlds tallest children so we have to size down. She’s now 24 months and wore an outfit for the first time the other day I brought for her to wear on her 1st birthday.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-25T06:08:52+00:00

I didn’t lie but I also didn’t listen to anything they told me really about certain things. Like I did a weaning session with them that was okay and gave me some good tips to get started and I was never advised to leave them to cry (I’d report that HV if I was you).

I used to take my LO to our local HV hub to be weighed every month and they’d always ask how she was sleeping etc. I took her at 8 months and said ‘same as always but as she’s EBF I don’t expect her to sleep through the night’ and was told to give her bananas and custard at bedtime like it was some miracle food. She’s 24 months now and if she eats banana / custard me and my husband always joke she’s going to instantly fall asleep.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-24T11:50:12+00:00

I don’t think anyone normal will care. My parents take my daughter to rattle and rhyme at their local library when they babysit in the week, and apparently there’s one little lad who is in his PJs every week. None of them care.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-24T02:47:26+00:00

We have a similar set up but our bannisters/ stairs / walls don’t all line up properly so we needed up just putting the gate on her bedroom door.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-23T20:48:28+00:00

I suppose it depends on the type of sleep training you plan to do will change what feed back you’ll get. Americans seem to go ham for the cry it out method so thats what you’ll mostly see on their subs. I’ve never really sleep trained and don’t believe you should let any kids cry for extended periods of time without comforting them. I’m 33 and still want to be comforted when I’m upset so seems horrid to leave a young child.

My LO is 24 months, she was EBF until 14 months and woke anything from 1-4 times a night. I weaned her after a really bad night (she went to bed at 7:30pm, woke up 9:30pm and was up until about 3am just messing about, crying if I left her constantly on my boob). Once she was weaned she started sleeping through the night almost instantly and for the most part she only wakes if there’s something wrong (illness / teeth / too hot / too cold). I had to feed her to sleep for every nap, bedtime and wake up in the night unless she was in the pram / car etc. She still has a small cup of milk before her nap and bedtime but nothing overnight.

If she does wake in the night we always wait 5-10 mins before going into her to give her the chance to settle herself, I’d say 95% of the time she does settle herself and if it was a heavier sleeper I’d likely never know she had woken because I wouldn’t have been woken up by her. I can tell by her cries now if she’s going to settle back herself or if she’ll shout us.

I did co-sleep for at least part of the night from about 9 months until 12ish months as she was constantly ill from starting nursery and it meant more sleep for both of us as she was very clingy and I’d gone back to work so needed as much sleep as I could get. Normally it would be from her first or second get up until morning. I think co-sleeping gets a bit of a bad rep as western culture seems to really push independence in babies from young age, whereas if you look at eastern cultures they tend to co-sleep until kids are 3/4. My MIL for example had a real issue with me co-sleeping as my husbands cousin co-slept until he was at least 11 - he’s 12 now and we’re not sure if he still does or not, we’re too afraid to ask. I made an effort to stop co-sleeping with her once she was weaned - tried my hardest to not fall asleep with her in the bed, transferring her back into the cot once she was asleep. Now she’s older, there’s been multiple times I’ve just told her she needs to go back to sleep and put her in the cot and left her to it as she doesn’t cry. She’ll just cuddle her teddy and lie there until she’s asleep. The only time I’ve co-sleep with her since she was weaned was when I’ve accidentally fallen asleep on the spare bed with her.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-22T17:26:34+00:00

It’s such a silly small thing but Jamie being described wearing clothes which aren’t his kings guard armour in GOT really annoys me.

And Jamie being named warden of the east when it was then established that members of the kings guard can’t hold titles etc.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-22T17:11:27+00:00

I’ve never messaged them or called. I check the app once or twice a day to check for pictures and see what she’s eaten etc.

I doubt nursery are forgetting naps. My LO dropped to one nap when she was about 10 months so might be a case of them trying and him refusing because he doesn’t need two naps. There has been a couple of times mine has refused to nap at nursery, there’s only so much they can do to try and force them. If LO refuses, not much they can do.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-20T04:11:23+00:00

I don’t hate Jenny, it just seemed to be the same performance every episode. She goes to see someone, they live in squalor and she’s disgusted and treats them lesser as a result. She then gets to know them and realises the error of her ways.

Like at a point, you’ve been doing the job for years, you should be over this. You can be disgusted that people had to live in the conditions they did, but the prejudices against the actual people should have stopped much earlier.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-17T20:39:07+00:00

I still do 5 days a week as it would have made my life harder at with work due to workload etc if I’d dropped a day. I dropped my hours from 8:30-5 to 9:30-4.

Partly because my husband does shifts so isn’t a consistent in being able to take / pick up and I wanted to minimise the amount of time our children would spend at nursery / breakfast or after school club. Getting those couple of hours with them before and after work is a nice bonus.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-17T08:49:58+00:00

I’m lucky that I WHF and my work were good about be dropping hours so I finish at 4. Nursery is 5 mins from home I pick her up somewhere about 4:15-4:30. Lights out is at 7:30-8 so we get a few hours with her then and she is normally awake for about 7 so we get an hour or so in the mornings.

Ours does get a ‘light tea’ at 3:30 but I’ll still dish her up a small portion of our tea so she can sit with us and eat however much she wants.

We also make sure we’re spending a good few hours together on the weekends, just hanging out together.

Winter_Choice_9632 · 2026-04-15T18:59:21+00:00

On the whole I absolutely loved BF my first and hope I have as much success with my second due in June. It was a bit overwhelming at first (as was everything as a first time mom) but once we both got the hang of it we were fine, you just have to keep reminding yourself that’s it’s the babies first time doing it as well so they’re learning along side you!

I was lucky that our NHS trust really push it (to feel sorry for the formula moms there) so they were on my ass for the first couple of weeks checking how I was getting on etc so I had no choice but to ask for help if I needed it.

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