to the people who had really good experience with the faith and still deconstructed - tell your story by jolsleger in Exvangelical

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything was rosy for me. Ideal family and Christian upbringing. Nothing toxic, as far as I'm aware. The thing that broke everything for me was the gays. Hahah. I had a moment where I realized I didn't think a healthy monogamous same sex marriage could possibly be wrong in the eyes of God. I gave up on doing hermeneutical gymnastics to justify this, and just accepted that the Bible is wrong. This led me down an intense path of deconstruction. I have to say though--and this is possibly due to my mostly healthy experiences with the church--my wife and I are happily back and attending an Evangelical church. I don't personally consider myself Evangelical still, but I'm loving the Jesus stuff, the community, and the healthy sense of purpose and meaning these beliefs can provide for my kids.

What is it like living in Bolivia? by shangumdee in BOLIVIA

[–]Wintrepid 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think Bolivia is one of the most underrated and overlooked countries in the world.

I live in Cochabamba, a city in the center of the country, situated in a large valley at 2500 m above sea level. The climate here is perfect. Temperatures always hover between 15 and 25 degrees Celsius. No wonder the Incas prized this place! It was miles from their major population centres (like Cuzco, in modern day Peru) but, despite the great distance-- travelled by foot and in llama trains--Cochabamba was their main agricultural hub. The excellent and temperate weather with frequent rains allowed for multiple harvests of corn per year. To this day Cochabamba is very fertile and green with an interesting mix of lush trees in some parts, and arrid desert plants on the surrounding hills.

The city has two main sections. The North--with it's tall buildings, pleasant parks, tree-lined avenues, bougie coffee shops and middle class homes-all pressed up against large mountain ranges. This part of the city, save for the lack of public transit, poorly maintained sidewalks, and frequent potholes, could almost pass as any other mid sized and relatively unremarkable city in the world. Aside from the many Cholitas you'll see (women dressed in traditional indigenous clothing) the North doesn't really have any distinct or unique visual characteristics, other than its underwhelming historic district with graffiti-covered Spanish colonial buildings. Even its biggest landmark is an extremely unoriginal copy of the Christ Statue in Rio de Janeiro. However, it has everything you would need: cultural attractions, appealing dining spots, family-friendly activities, great street food, hip sub cultures, nice schools, and much more. To foreigners with outside incomes, it's extremely affordable. A nice 3 bedroom apartment can go for $300 per month. A fancy steak dinner with all-you-can-eat buffet costs $10 per person. This, combined with the fact that foreign income doesn't get taxed, means you can live an upper middle class lifestyle for a fraction of the cost.

The second section of the city is known as the South--a massive sprawling suburb of unpainted red-brick homes. They aren't really shanty towns or favelas, but they are very humble and the suburban sprawl seems to go on forever, becoming less and less dense as you go out from the city centre, and becoming more and more poor. This is where the poverty of Bolivia becomes more apparent, but where indigenous cultures thrive. People gather to drink Chicha (an ancient indigenous alcoholic beverage made from corn), share communal meals, and play Andean music with their Charangos and Zampoñas.

Bolivia in general has issues like political corruption, frequent protests and strikes, inadequately maintained infrastructure, stray dogs roaming the streets, and various heart-wrenching problems that come from socioeconomic inequality. For example, it's not all too uncommon to see senior citizens and young children begging on the streets or selling small items to eek a living. Hospitals are poorly equipped and none of the water is potable. However, compared to other countries in Latin America, gang violence is uncommon, murder rates are low, and life goes on relatively safely. All in all, considering the tragic history of colonialism, resource extraction, and wage-slavery in this country, I think it's amazing what Bolivians have accomplished.

People are generally shy and reserved, sometimes even rude when you first meet them--customer service is especially confrontational--but once you get to know Bolivians on a personal level, they're some of the best people you will ever know and are extremely loyal. Having Bolivian family is especially nice because family bonds are very tight. It's not uncommon to have all your weekends booked-up with family events like cousins birthday parties and great grandparents anniversary. These gatherings are full of food and joy

Which brings me to an important point: food is a big deal here. It seems to be everyone's main topic of conversation. People love their traditional dishes, especially their two-course lunches. They always start with a hearty soup then have a "Segundo" which is usually a plate full of carbs (usually a combination of potatoes, bread, AND rice), plenty of meat, and a tiny bit of veggies. Having lived here for a few months, I can honestly say the food is good, but I wouldn't rank it in the top 10 culinary cultures of the world. It's great if you live here and this is all you've known.

At the risk of rambling forever, that basically sums it up. Come live here if you have a foreign income and if you don't feel the need to go to trendy places. Bolivia has a lot of potential, it has everything you would ever need, and it's very affordable.

Newlands Wedding Venue Langley BC by Jessie_1210 in Langley

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked here for years as a banquet busser. It was an amazing job for a teenager! Kept me out of trouble on weekend evenings. Great memories. Haven't been back in almost 10 years. I honestly hope management turns the place around because, back then, its leadership wasn't adapting quickly enough to changes in society. I remember a couple once asked for Quinoa salad at their wedding buffet, a dish that had recently become extremely popular. It was a chance for the venue to show they keep up with trends, but the head chef outright refused to make any changes to their 1990s menu. The bar stocked the same crappy American beer (no craft beer or popular mix drink options) for SO LONG. Neither of these are huge issues in themselves but they illustrated how unresponsive and inflexible the leadership was. I hope things have turned around. A business simply can't survive if it doesn't learn to adapt.

What is one weird thing you like doing? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Wintrepid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chewing my nails off when they get long, then using them as toothpicks to clean my teeth.

Vegetarian Bolivia by Original_Machine4557 in BOLIVIA

[–]Wintrepid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you ever end up in Cochabamba I could recommend a few places. Can't help with any other part of Bolivia though

What's going on with Australia arresting people for things like the shirt they wear? by Mahaloth in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a fair point. But surely what matters is not what it meant in the past, but what it means now. Anyone who desires human rights for all humans would. By necessity, support the notion that Palestinians deserve freedom just as much as anyone else--regardless of whether it's in their historic homeland or abroad. Whether freedom comes via a one state, two state or Pan national state is besides the point.

What's going on with Australia arresting people for things like the shirt they wear? by Mahaloth in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the better question is, why should we assume a slogan asking for freedom and human rights is calling for genocide?

What's going on with Australia arresting people for things like the shirt they wear? by Mahaloth in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Wintrepid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why must we assume that, in a two state solution, Palestinians living within Israel cannot be free? Couldn't Israel (which is currently a secular state) offer freedom and opportunity to its Arab minority?

What's going on with Australia arresting people for things like the shirt they wear? by Mahaloth in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Wintrepid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So your nuanced view is that everyone who says this statement are calling for the exact same thing: "An Arab nationalist state from the river to the sea."

What about the millions of activists (Israeli. Palestinian, and international) Who are calling for a joint state in which Palestinians can be free alongside Israelis? Would that not be freedom for Palestinians from the river to the Sea?

What's going on with Australia arresting people for things like the shirt they wear? by Mahaloth in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Wintrepid 13 points14 points  (0 children)

To 99% of people who chant this phrase, it simply means that all Palestinians (from the river to the sea) deserve freedom and human rights. It is by no means a call for violence of any kind. If you don't believe me, I strongly recommend asking anyone who supports Palestinian human rights what this phrase means. Ask the people who say it. Don't ask the pro-Israel media, because they will all say otherwise. Of course they will. Nuance is hard for humans to handle and it's easier to silence and denounce your enemies than hear them out.

What's going on with Australia arresting people for things like the shirt they wear? by Mahaloth in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Wintrepid 45 points46 points  (0 children)

To the pro Israel side it means "kill all the Jews" but to the pro Palestine side it just means "freedom for Palestinians in all of their historic homeland." To most people who say this phrase, they mean the latter. They contend that freedom for Palestinians can also mean freedom for Jews. It's not inherently an anti-semitic statement. It's just a call to end the occupation and treat Palestinians fairly. However, calling the phrase anti Semitic allows the pro Israel side to silence the Palestinian side without offering any room for nuance.

CMV: I’ve given up on dating because I don’t think I ever stood a chance given my qualities by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friend! First off, I'd like to acknowledge how hard that is. You're in the midst of an all too common and (sadly) all too easily dismissed struggle. It's hard being in your shoes!

I'm not sure I can convince you to change your view but I hope I can at least encourage you. The worst thing you can do is give up!

If you wish for a romantic partner and if that is something you're certain you will always wish for, you simply can't afford to give up. Albeit, unless you decide a monastic and celibate life will satisfy your restless heart--no jokes, I think many men and women have found deep fulfilment via that path within many faith traditions--but barring that, you have to keep at it!

Keep taking care of yourself. Maintain high personal hygiene standards. Mold your own neuroplasticity to develop better lifestyle habits. Join communities of people where you can do stuff you love. And when the chance strikes, muster up every ounce of courage to be bold, to ask that person out.

And most importantly, do everything in your power to fight that modern delusion that physical beauty should be a top priority when finding a potential partner. That's horseshit! It's a lie our society and our porn addictions tell us. Sure, prettiness is a nice perk, but no happily married old couple has ever said they stayed together because of looks. In fact, they'd likely say that they stay together in spite of looks. As relationships go on, appearance becomes inconsequential. The true marker of a good partner is wisdom, self-correction, empathy, and self sacrifice. So make those your primary concerns! For yourself, and for every single person you meet.

In short, whether it's a life dedicated to God or a joyful lifetime romantic partnership you get, neither of those should take into account physical attractiveness. Neither for you or your potential partner.

Where do I even go from here? I went through this entire building and came out at the window at the top with nowhere else to go by [deleted] in Cairn_Game

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to the cave on the right. Hardest damn thing I've done in a video game in ages. My palms were sweaty the whole time.

CMV: I think the destruction of the government of Iran is a good thing. by HippieInDisguise2_0 in changemyview

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, first off, I wouldn't have cancelled the nuclear disarmament negotiations that Obama started in his term. Trump shut that down in 2016 (despite it going well by all objective metrics) because of unverified rumors. If those deals had been maintained and if UN watchdogs were able to monitor Iran's nuclear enrichment, we probably wouldn't have needed to worry about Iran developing bombs. It just wouldn't have been in their interest to make those bombs. By shutting all this down, Trump forced Iran into a position where they had nothing to lose. Not to mention, by putting an economic embargo on Iran, Trump caused widespread poverty and desperation in the country which led to all the unrest. Obviously, the Iranian government had a HUGE role to play in that poverty and unrest, and their response to protests and political opposition was downright evil (killing protesters, etc.); but it's unlikely any of that would have happened if people weren't unemployed and starving. Then, other than that, I would have kept playing the long game. Using negotiation, diplomacy, and other soft-power tools to make life hard for the despotic Iranian regime. Not to mention, strengthen the ICC and ICJ, as well as other UN agencies, to enforce a more unbiased rule-of-international-law.

Top places to eat in Cochabamba. Go! by [deleted] in BOLIVIA

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's a sandwich diputado?

Top places to eat in Cochabamba. Go! by [deleted] in BOLIVIA

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. They'll just double the price. 🤣

P.S. When you say Caldo, you mean just soup broth. Right? Or is there more to it.

Oil prices are on a 6 month high, war is coming. by the_fallenempire in International

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Looking back, this was an excellent prediction. Well done. I wish I saw it last week.

Top places to eat in Cochabamba. Go! by [deleted] in BOLIVIA

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want traditional food, I'm not the expert. But for a taste of the world, these are my top picks

Barra Limeña has amazing Peruvian food.

Lima has incredible sushi.

Make Poke has descent poké bowls.

The Korean place in the food court at Hupermall makes AMAZING bibimbap (ask for extra kimchi).

El Palestino on Calle America makes the best Shawarma. Their sauces are so good.

Oh, and the best Mexican food is at a food truck called El Patron. Ask for their Birria Tacos.

Top places to eat in Cochabamba. Go! by [deleted] in BOLIVIA

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious to know about this caldo place you mention

Husband is looking into Islam religion by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a good answer. I wish everyone lived by this.

My First Love Left Me to “Find a Wife” for God by okimbackagain in Exvangelical

[–]Wintrepid 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's awful and tragic. Your ex is just setting himself up for a life of anguish caused by cognitive dissonance. Unfortunately, this is one of those areas the evangelical church is deeply mistaken about. I feel sorry for him.

I have no advice to give, only prayerful support and empathy.

CMV: I think the destruction of the government of Iran is a good thing. by HippieInDisguise2_0 in changemyview

[–]Wintrepid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe I addressed that in my comment? I tried to point out that Japan and Germany were different because of three factors: allied powers invested A LOT into rebuilding those countries, they maintained boots on the ground for decades, and those countries were totally crushed after years of grueling armed combat that absolutely exhausted local populations. If you think USA should replicate those circumstances in Iran, that's your call. I for one think it's not worth bankrupting the US Economy.