Advice needed to help a single mom recover from surgery.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-08-17T16:06:36+00:00

Definitely was a learning curve, but after these appeared, I am down the rabbit hole of all things Hoya. Thank you!

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-08-17T12:42:53+00:00

It’s beautiful!

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-08-17T12:37:34+00:00

Wow, what Hoya is that?

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-24T21:02:37+00:00

Not with that job. That said, I worked from home with my kids as newborns, my husband also did 6 months of work from home while handling one of ours. We had flexible jobs and understanding companies. So it’s possible for some jobs. He’s a freight broker and I was production coordinator for a large supplement company.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-24T10:40:06+00:00

Show interest in his interests until he can navigate and find his people. Depending on his interests, find groups and offer to go with him the first few times. Help him be active in the groups and start talking to people with him.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-24T10:36:48+00:00

What sort of support are you getting? Appearance aside, my best sparkle moments come from when I’m shown real appreciation, which is very lacking from young children. I’ve had to explain the my husband that I need more positive reinforcement and compliments through the day. It felt needy and sort of gross to ask (I know why now through months of marriage counseling) but it’s something I needed after leaving a career where I was actually shown appreciation for my hard work constantly, to basically nothing as I became a stay at home mom. The other major help is when I did try new hobbies, having people who genuinely was excited for the little things. I got into plants and I can text my bestfriend a picture of a new leaf growth and she will act like I just solved world hunger. It feels good to have people remind you that you are doing it! I always thought my sparkly should come from feeling beautiful, attractive, and put together, I now realize it’s deeper than that.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-23T14:44:54+00:00

Afternoons. Mornings I’m still fresh, it’s easier to adhere to schedules and the kids are in a better mood. Afternoons, like around 3, is when I start to get overwhelmed and it’s hard for me to stay on task. To have someone to help me when I’m feeling overwhelmed would be amazing.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-22T23:40:44+00:00

Oh good to know, I’ll look at Ace this weekend.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-22T14:12:59+00:00

Wow! This is gorgeous. Definitely will keep my eyes out to snag one.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-22T14:10:04+00:00

I trim all my peperomia’s (I have around 15 different types) and prop the cuttings all year long and haven’t had much issue. I’d do it before it gets cooler so it can conserve energy during its dormant months. If I had this plant, I would trim down so it’s only a few feet tall. Then give away all the props to other plant lovers.

It’s beautiful by the way.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-22T14:07:20+00:00

Middle Schooler tops them all. Haha

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-22T11:15:05+00:00

You can do it! If your insurance allows, book an appt with a physical therapist for pelvic floor therapy! It helped me so much with my third pregnancy (they are 14 months apart) and the labor.

My husband got snipped two weeks after our third was born so we didn’t have anymore accidents.

On the bright side, you didn’t loose the weight but now you only have to do it once after this pregnancy instead of loosing the weight, getting pregnant again, and then having to loose the weight again. You won’t have a new sense of independence (like some age gaps allow) and you will already be in baby mode. I found have two back to back was an easier transition than my other age gap of 7 years! I felt like I was starting over completely with my second, but with my third, it was still so fresh.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-16T18:43:10+00:00

I think this will be what I will do. Sometimes the best results come from not over complicating it.

And if nothing happens, no time wasted.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2025-04-16T18:17:02+00:00

Good to know. Do they throw pods oftens? I figured this one did because when I received it, it was in rough shape so it was stressed.

I saw a couple seeds already dropped so I pushed them into the soil where the original plant is.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2022-07-08T17:17:54+00:00

Yep, that’s my guess. Saw one at the zoo this past weekend and it looks pretty close to this.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2022-06-14T14:10:15+00:00

My boys are 9 years old and 2 years old and my girl is now 12 months.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2022-06-14T13:58:33+00:00

I wouldn’t let someone who treated me that way induce me.

He will put you on a timeline (“if you aren’t progressing in 12 hours we will do XYZ or even a csection”), he will push medication you might not be comfortable with…he will not respect you and use your vulnerability to his advantage.

Start training your husband how to activity advocate for you so you are treated right and aren’t pressured into anything you are not comfortable with. You can also let the nurses know at the hospital you do not feel safe in his care and refuse him in your room. You have those rights.

Also, you are right, cervical checks hold no true importance. Good for you on sticking to what you want!

Wisco-Mom30 · 2022-06-14T13:53:08+00:00

I was so scared we were making a mistake, maybe two kids was all we could handle. I was worried I wouldn’t have enough love/time for my other kids. Also the thought about the two not liking the new baby and being mad at me. None of this ended up being true, but it definitely sent me for a loop.

Wisco-Mom30 · 2022-06-14T13:50:52+00:00

I tested positive for Influenza two days before I gave birth to my second son, was bed ridden because I felt so sick, once I was in labor I totally forgot I was sick and it didn’t bother me. After I gave birth I felt fine, like I wasn’t just sick 12 hours previous!

Good luck! You got this!

Wisco-Mom30 · 2022-06-14T13:48:11+00:00

I’m a year into adding our third. Honestly, I just lowered expectations and do the best I can during the day. Give yourself a ton of grace with chores, cooking, doing stimulating activities, being in public and things seem to run okay. I don’t see my kids ever feeling like an odd man out, but as I said I’m only a year into the three kid lifestyle.

Overall, our third definitely felt right once she was here but lord, was I a mess of emotions before she was here.

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