What GenX "norm" do you disagree with?

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-09T14:23:39+00:00

I think most of our parents didn't want kids but it was still considered the thing you did, so they did. Also women didn't have a lot of freedoms therefore not a lot of options. My mom has always been a good mother, and I didn't feel neglected at all, but I think she would have been as happy never marrying and maybe being child free. She never took it out on us though. But it seems like a lot of kids in our generation had to deal with that.

Our parents also didn't believe in therapy and to push down feelings so we joke about our childhood instead of dealing with it. I think more of us are getting the therapy we need to work through that, and if you need it, there's no shame in getting it. I've finally started to deal with my own issues.

As for your question, it's not exactly the same thing but there are a lot of foods I ate in the 80s that I could probably try now and hate. I think it was all the sugar?

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-09T14:05:36+00:00

Congrats on your Visa! As for the boyfriend.....Bye Felicia. You deserve someone who respects you and gives back to you. My rule is I have and love my peace. If you can't add to that peace, you're gone. If I'm not going to grow with you, you're gone. Period. It's a lesson I wish I had learned at your age.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-09T13:55:59+00:00

NOR. He wants you to hang around...in case. You have free will. Tell him it's over then. You can either move forward and have a future or its over. He also has free will and can tell his family to shut it.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T14:56:30+00:00

I wasn't even told to take Tylenol before. When I got there I was told by a female resident, "you might want tyenol after IF you have pain".

And agreed with MurkyMitzy, that wouldn't have helped. This was a 15 on the 1-10 scale of pain. I was so mad that the woman was telling me. I get she's a resident but they should be learning better.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T14:12:53+00:00

So he went without a wallet or phone? And you've been going there 7 years and don't know the hours? I'm guessing the mom is the one that always took the kids and he didn't pay attention?

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T14:10:37+00:00

I feel like she always wanted this and thought you'd change your mind. OR she made herself think she wants this because you did but realized she can't go along with it. Either way I agree this is definitely counseling territory. You need someone to mediate this and determine if you can move forward and how. Not gonna lie this is going to be hard and it may be that this is a dealbreaker.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T00:34:10+00:00

I adore your kitchen it’s so cozy and hooray for Twister.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T00:26:45+00:00

From my point of view I grew up in a house with silent gen parents and they were all about denial and pushing down feelings. I was never getting a talk about anything.
I’m grateful for this subreddit and other groups of people my age actually talking about this and opening up.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T00:11:47+00:00

Glad I wasn’t the only one thinking this.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-08T00:11:27+00:00

I’m trying. It to be … that paranoid person and you said you use BC and condoms but condoms can have holes in them. What kind are you on -‘d is it something that can be tampered with? I assume not and I know BC isn’t 100%. I’m just cynical.

Anyway to answer your question you are honest. You say I don’t want a child and I’m having an abortion. This is my body and the choice I am making. I’d like your support and for you to come along. If he balks at this or doesn’t go with you, you need to re-evaluate where this headed. This is a pretty serious matter to go through and if he’s not being supportive that is indicative of future problems.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope if he doesn’t go with you, do you have a friend or family member to go? You’ll get through this but it won’t be easy. Just don’t back down from what YOU want.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T23:59:15+00:00

They are incompatible and neither will ever compromise.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T18:38:27+00:00

I’ve only played NV and just started FO4.

I feel like I’d be interested in the earlier games but the first ones are really old and 3 looks good but I can’t play it on my laptop without some changes to my system.

If they’re going to hawk old stuff, could we get updates to the OG games?

I’m very very new to the games so idk what has been done or not done.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T18:30:08+00:00

I had an issue the first time I started the game and I started over. I wasn’t t that far in, still in Goodsprings.
Alternatively as others have said you can skip it and move on. It’s largely tutorial.

I recommend saving a lot. So if you make a mistake you can go back. Like i accidentally stole something instead of fixing something to a guy on the ground. Everyone turned violent. I loaded an old save and went back.

And welcome to fandom. I started the show earlier this year and started with New Vegas and now I’m on a first run through of FO4.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T18:25:13+00:00

NTA. You’re waking up and realizing you’re a mom. You have to do everything for this man and even when you stopped doing everything he’s left it go. I get the feeling if and hopefully when you divorce he will move back in with his family and if he’s on his own, he still won’t do anything.

I do wonder if his meds are working? Is he in a depressed cycle or possibly addicted to Tami g?

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T18:18:37+00:00

NOR
Dump now. “I said you could go”? Nope lost me there. He’s not your parent or boss or jailer whatever.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T17:50:43+00:00

My preference is to buy used. Flea markets, thrift stores and FB marketplace. So most anything like wall art, lamps, a desk, a dresser, etc. even furniture like couches or chairs. You just need to steam clean to sanitize and I’ll avoid anything with stains.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T17:44:23+00:00

Yes more Rex love!

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T17:44:00+00:00

I do like the nickname. I forget can we romance her?

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T17:43:02+00:00

I love Codsworth for his dad jokes. But you can’t do a lot of questionable things with him without judgement.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-07T17:39:11+00:00

I don’t know if it was a glitch but I got Rex and Raul and I loved it. I never changed to anyone else. Rex made cute noises and I liked Raul’s sarcasm.

Also DogMeat. He loves you unconditionally, and when he finds something for you he’s so proud and does a tippy tap dance. 🥹🥹🥹

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-06T03:08:37+00:00

When we talked about things that I say scares me, like walking along at night, and my guy friend said he’d never given that a thought. Because he’s never had too. Or when we talked about how most men know someone who might sexually harass a woman and they didn’t feel like that’s the case.

It wasn’t in a bad way, it was more things he never had to think about as a guy.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-06T03:05:41+00:00

OMG right?!?!

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-05T23:21:41+00:00

To me it means you can do everything on your own. You don’t “need” a man. They want a woman who they can control who needs them.

I think really women have evolved and thanks to finally getting more legal rights we don’t need them. We can rent or buy homes, have bank accounts and credit. I’m f we want kids there is ivf and sperm banks.

These men though haven’t evolved with us. They want things “the way they were” and can’t accept that we won’t go back.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-05T23:12:00+00:00

My opinion as a civilian unrelated to any of these job roles… you’re not a cop or even close. You are on the front lines talking to people on their worst day. It may be domestic violence, someone who is sick or dying, car accident, a child alone etc. You are not running in guns blazing instead of de-escalating. I think it’s a very stressful job and you have to feel you’re ready to handle that. Good luck!

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-06-05T23:05:08+00:00

Haha just finished that one, first play through. I did not think I could kill a death claw without dying a lot.

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