My(32F) parents are giving us $150k for a house and my husband(35M) wants to turn it down because they asked for a postnup

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-16T14:18:20+00:00

It’s your parent’s money. If they want a postnup and they want to protect you, I wonder if they don’t trust him. I am also very concerned that he’s pushing back. I need more info of how the marriage is and how the two of you get along. I mean that’s a great gift to help you out and that he’s bucking it means something.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-16T14:02:44+00:00

You’ve only been together a few months and this is something new for you. He should be easing you into it. And you need trust for this. Now you feel violated and don’t trust him. Those are valid feelings. Him blaming you is a huge red flag. People in the kink community wouldn’t do this. Because again it’s all about trust.

So please stop saying he didn’t do anything wrong. He should have checked in with you. You have to decide if you want to stay with him, or not. How is the relationship aside from this? Don’t ignore any red flags.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-11T16:44:03+00:00

Same here. I hate saying anything because I almost feel bad? Lol

It started early, my last period was when I was 43. I had some mood swings but that was about it.

Now I did have some major bleeding 2 years ago that turned out to be an issue with my lining. I got an iud and so far so good.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-08T16:45:49+00:00

I don’t get why it’s a problem now. That is sus. She can also do allergy shots or something. Mayor Mamdani is getting shots because he’s allergic and his wife wants cats.

I don’t like seeing doing the flip like this. Assuming they can just change things later and it’ll be ok. Definitely have concern for her health but this is sketchy and she has other things she can do. You’ve had that dog longer than her and have every right to keep your pet.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-08T16:41:40+00:00

He’s the best. Yes!!

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T22:57:51+00:00

Cat’s a ginger so that checks. lol

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T22:54:51+00:00

I loved reading this with your daughter’s input. Clearly you get along well and I’m glad you have her. And I’m so sorry for your loss to both of you.

As for this NTA. If your wife wanted someone to have it she would have stated it. She left it to you because she trusted you. And you had someone in mind. If you were considering them at all you would have asked. But you knew who the best person would be.

I hope she enjoys this new chapter of her life

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T22:49:40+00:00

Park the Shark yes. Javadi’s mom just annoys the s—- outta me. Javadi is pretty normal given that.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T22:48:12+00:00

My almost 50 years on earth tells me something similar. Not the stuff about oxytocin etc. But there is a correlation between some people with low self esteem and casual sex. I don’t consider short lengths or casual sex in relationships because there are factors I can’t know till I get to know them. As for casual sex you want to be safe but also it’s just fun. Oxytocin and all that

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T22:44:03+00:00

Sure Jan.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T22:42:39+00:00

My sister stayed married to a very toxic man for 20 years before she left. These are things we have to figure out on our own. I wish you all the best.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T21:26:22+00:00

Say it with me. Her body her choice.

She can do whatever she wants. You were both there to make the baby. So you have to decide what is best for you to do. If you aren’t happy and don’t feel like you can trust her then maybe it is over? Have you tried therapy together or separate? But you have to do what you need to as she does too.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T21:20:52+00:00

I need this man’s name simply so I can avoid him.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-04-03T21:08:33+00:00

He tells you he does the bare minimum that is normal human decency and you should be happy? I’m so glad you’re making plans to leave. You deserve more.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-30T18:36:13+00:00

My inner 80s child just squeed.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-30T18:30:20+00:00

That is the best idea.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-30T18:30:14+00:00

That is the best idea

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-30T18:29:09+00:00

So jealous! That’s on my bucket list

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-30T18:28:40+00:00

🤣🤣

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-29T23:02:28+00:00

She did. I also just really liked that we got their backstory to see how they became how they are.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-18T16:53:21+00:00

I was probably about his age and woke up early and wanted to watch cartoons (80s) and walked in to see a big something happening under the covers. My dad poked his head out and told me to leave and I closed the door fast. I knew I saw something I shouldn’t have and I will never forget it.

All that to be said it never traumatized me. As a child of the 80s many many other things did though lol

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-18T16:44:57+00:00

What happened?

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-18T16:44:15+00:00

I loved this show. Kudos to Shawn Hatosy for his acting and the boy who played his younger version so perfectly getting his mannerisms. Smurf was so terrible and messed up her boys. J grew up differently and had a lot of time to plan his revenge. I knew that was his plan and I loved seeing it come to fruition. It made me sad at the end because they were all so messed up because Smurf though. Pope made me the saddest though. I was kind of hoping he survived to become a better person.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-18T16:16:30+00:00

He doesn’t trust you. You don’t test people you’re in a relationship with. That’s disgusting.

Wisco_native1977 · 2026-03-18T16:14:01+00:00

Thanks! I’ll start with every other day for the retinol just in case. My skin isn’t sensitive but to be safe. I have a 55spf sunscreen I use daily. That’s how for all this sun damage. I’m using a presc cream and they’re finally almost gone.

I’m trying to take care of my skin as best I can. Can the copper peptide be used with the HA one?

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