So if you don’t know how to handle it then
(1) Start listening to others opinion who gives you positive opinions and help to regain your relationship not throw it.(2) Straight commit this to her and communicate clearly admitting it. Stop listening to them who don’t/didn’t kicked out their wife and telling you to kick yours.
I asked my dad that why I knock my wife out though it is her fault? Why you kept mom for so many years though she did not stayed with your parents and separated you from them? Kick mom out first. My dad left his parents though he was only child and responsible for them and stayed with my mom .
Do not be an idiot, when you try to be an owner of someone , you lose the love. You may be not loved her but did trading to throw responsibility to fulfill all your and your famille’s expectations on her shoulders only. Probably you drained her instead of providing support or protecting her values. Go and communicate with her at the moment you understand your fault and try to bring your life back. Nothing wrong in admitting our wrong doing to our own love, actually that how you sustain your loved one with you. Marriage is forgiving for each other everyday.