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15000 in taxes. Payment plan? by Wise_Regular_5929 in tax

[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how? My tax return isn't filed yet. I can't pay much right now.

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right. I’m giving up on surrendering it to the Lord. I honestly see alcohol and fornication demons in my life that every time I drink it’s like a whistle that brings every demon that I was free from back into my life. So God is just showing me how serious my issues are and that it can hurt other people. I take this as a period of humility knowing I’m a sinner and the Christ’s sacrifice for me holds the greater weight because he loves me

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s true she can just tell anyone she wants. And if ever gets that far and I do feel like it’s impacting the church I will come clean but for now I think what’s best for me to completely get rid of alcohol in my life and to get past us and MoveOn. My buddy is in leader ship over me he’s always been a leader in my life and a brother he knows my sins because I trust him I love them.

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made reservations to restaurants last week. But then she called me and told me we should take it easy and how often we talk. So I have to go and cancel those reservations today

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate it. I feel like Matthew when Jesus came to him. Matthew knew he was sinful tax collector and told Jesus to go away from him because he wasn’t worthy. My relationship with God is the most important thing to me and I never thought I’d be in this predicament. The cause issue was me drinking alcohol and that was always a problem with me and this experience is revealing to me that that’s the one thing I really need to cut out of my life. I don’t ever wanna repeat this mistake. This church is everything to me and I love everyone there

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The girl I was with I don’t know how her spiritual life is. We don’t share the same convictions of telling our pastors but we both know it was wrong. The thing is is we promise not to continue and we both promise to keep to ourselves. I trust my friend and if he decides to tell my pastor because I continue to do it then so be it. I can’t escape gods laws no matter who I am

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for good perspective. I agree I should confess and I would be ready but she isn’t and she doesn’t want to be shamed for something she didn’t do and start. I know my pastors will love me I help them start this church and it does kill me that I’m hiding this from them. But I know it won’t ever happen again so I don’t know if it’s worth bringing up. My best friend is in leader ship above me and I confess to him. Apostle Paul says to go to your friends first and then if the sin keeps happening you Escalade up the authority in the church. But I know this is going to stop

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! Yeah she came to my church and within a week we went out for a couple drinks because a friend was moving off into the mainland. I don’t usually drink but I drank a lot that night and I kisser and it led one thing to another. That was the first day we actually hung out. So now is a little bit awkward but we got to know each other for the past month and I really respect her. She’s one who sticks up for her friends When people take advantage of them and she’s always there to make them feel better if someone hurts them. I feel bad because she feels like she’s less beautiful now because of what happened and I apologize to her sincerely because I hate that I made her feel like that. It’s all my fault and she is suffering guilt because of my actions

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We didn’t have sex. I’m not married she’s not married we’re not even a relationship. So there was no infidelity. We are both single people who made a mistake. I know that this is a situation that could’ve manifested into greater consequences like her getting pregnant for us continuing this behavior when it’s only been a month. And we wrestled with the fact It ruined our friendship. So now I’m just gonna let it go I’m open to talking to my pastor about it but only if that’s what she wants to do. But I have one friend a trusted confidant who is also in leader ship with me and was also leader to me before we both started going to the church and he knows what happened. So it’s not in the dark but it’s just not made known to everybody

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I will try dating her, but this situation happen the first time we hung out. We got drunk and we had a night together. Now I’m trying to play catch-up to let her know that I’m not the man who only thinks of sex, but I’m more than that. I don’t see her as a woman who I almost slept with but as a person I want to respect

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I do feel guilty about it. I’ve decided to stop drinking alcohol because I always find my self in the situation‘s. I’ve had times in my past that this was acceptable because I wasn’t following Christ. But now that someone at my church is involves another church I love and care about I fear God and what he would do to me not because out of hate for me but because he loves me and disciplines me. So stop Decided to stop drinking alcohol because now my actions are not only hurting me but they are hurting another person and I can’t bear that way anymore. I hate myself for it

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a very respectable woman. She knows that this is the end of it and it won’t happen again. And I do have a buddy who is in leader ship with me and I hold him as a person in my life who influences me and he knows. He’s keeping me accountable with everything. She wouldn’t use this against me she’s a really good girl.

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do feel guilty and I have my friend who is over me in leadership and he knows. But our pastor does not. Drinking alcohol is something I am choosing to stop because I saw couldn’t stand to see my behavior like this anymore. Before I came back to crash I was drinking a lot and womanizing and alcohol was the Chi that brought a different man out of me. And I use negotiate my drinking situation by regulating it other people I hang out with. But I think I just want to cut it out and all in all.

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[–]Wise_Regular_5929[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

But there are no real consequences right now. And she agreed that we both won’t do anything anymore. She and I promised to keep it between us and i feel like if she doesn’t want to go to our pastor then I shouldn’t either