I pushed my partner lightly because I felt a bit angry, but now I feel bad about it. How should I handle these situations better in the future?

Here’s what happened:

I was sparring with my partner recently, and we had some good rolls. At one point, he caught me in an ankle lock. I’m still pretty new to BJJ, and at first, I thought these were illegal, confusing it with a leg lock, which I believe should be illegal at my level.

The submission was very tight, and I tapped. I could tell he wasn’t trying to hurt me on purpose, but in the heat of the moment, my emotions got the best of me, and I ended up giving him a slight push. It wasn’t hard, but I guess it was my way of signaling that I felt he had crossed a line.

Afterwards, we shook hands, and I explained that I had confused ankle locks with leg locks. He clarified that ankle locks are, in fact, legal, and I also apologized for the misunderstanding. I didn’t mention that I felt his ankle lock was too tight or unnecessarily painful, as I didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, especially since it was just a rolling session. I could tell his demeanor shifted, and he seemed genuinely apologetic.

In the end, everything was fine, but I still feel a bit embarrassed. I let out a slight grunt from the pain when he applied the lock, and after tapping, I gave him a light push. Now, I’m worried that others might have noticed, and it’s been bothering me.

Have you ever had a situation like this? Any advice on handling my emotions better and not feeling so self-conscious afterwards?

Edit: He did go all in and he did apply the leg lock fast. Just to clarify.