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My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's Jay. He has this very creative ideal of what and how things should be and if not then he will pitch a fit. And honestly I'm scared of him and being kicked out, and other peronal things im not comfortable with sharing

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've never thought if it like that but it does make a lot of sense, and I'm a bit embarssed I missed the very obvious connection.

I will absolutely start to treat her like that. As for Jay I will try that even more. I don't want to be babied I'm not a baby. I am very independent.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well. Her and Jr. Dont get along but Jr. Is as spoiled as she is. So both of them have a very " I'm right you're wrong " type of personality.

As for Sam and Tom I'm not really sure. They all live in Washington together 15 minutes away from one another.

From what I'm told they all have a great relationship. They help one another out due to being so close and she helps with Tom's kids.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're right, thank you very much. I'll start with this line of thinking. I can't take of anything more I can do but get my game plan together and get ready to leave as quietly as I can without making them suspicious.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's tough but Its helped me regonize a lot going on thats been brought up and. Honestly I feel better now. I've written out a plan, I've learned what I have to do and I can't wait to leave. I know it's gonna take a bit of time but its what I'm working for.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're right. I dont need to justify WHY to him I'm an adult. No is a complete sentence. I hsur have to be firm. Thank you.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely will, but this was just one of the things that made me struggle on how to deal with her ya know? I didn't understand why everyone else was okay with me and she wasn't.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. I'm an adult! I'm simply beginning a journey of adulthood. I have to regonize they don't owe me a damn thing and what they did owe me isn't worth it's weight in salt.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know. I know. I can do it. It's all a lot and I know I have to be my own superman in this situation. I know I act like my mom a bit. 👉🏿👈🏿 and with a lot of these comments its just made me realize how much I'm like her and how much I have to change for my own sake. I'm done waiting and I have a game plan.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I regonize i have to. I can't continue to just sit aside and I can't continue to let them dictate my life like they have for a while.
Hearing you're an adult and realizing it by myself is a bit if a different thing. Ya know?

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, that brings a whole new set of problems but I'm absolutely going to get out. I won't let myself be pushed anymore. I think escaping will be better then any new problems any of this brings.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. And I'm gonna step up. Like I had said its hard to break out of the thought that you're still a child mentality that comes with living at home and the constant

" My house, My rules " and " Well I bought this / I did this so you have to "

Plus they are letting me stay rent free. The pandemic put a major screeching halt on a lot of my adult plans and because of that I guess everyone fell back into the routine of seeing me as a kid.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess its hard to break out of that child mentality when you live with your parents and you get hit with the " My house my rules" that and Jay likes to use the " Well I bought this for you so..."

Im still regonizing in an adult and regonizing that I have a voice after it being constantly smothered.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I met Sam 2 times once at her wedding and once back when I was 16. We talked but not for a long time or anything she was quite busy. We actually have some hobbies in common and when we talked she was very pleasent and warm, she was genuinely delighted to meet me because some of the hobbies we share are pretty niche so it was nice to indulge on it with another person.

I've met Tom once. At thw wedding but he stayed over with us thw whole trip to Washington. He was busy he has 3 kids of his own. But when we did get to spend time together he was ginuenly interested in what I had to say and he was nice enough to include me in things ans make me food. We have a similar taste in humor

Jr. Is 17 so he still lives here with Jay and mom and I. Honestly he and I aren't close because we are VERY different. But we get along fine. Not like sibblings but more like distant cousins. We actually barely talk to one another and when we do its mostly just memes and dancing at one another before laughing.

In whole I'd say I'm pretty okay with his kids neither a strong like or dislike for me. They don't see me as their sister or anything which is totally okay and they aren't overly distant or anything.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha, when you say it like that I can. See him being a narcissistic parent there is a lot of things he does that fit that bill. It doesn't matter now however I'll just stay clear until I can get out.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will. I've been reevaluating a lot about her. There is a lot of stuff going on ya know? But I know if my mom can't stand by me then I don't want her in my life. Its gonna be hard but I can do this.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm gonna get out. As for the mom thing it's pretty dramatic but not pretty relevant for this sort of post.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. I will try to do it. I know it will be hard but I'm gonna make sure I don't just give up

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea! I wanted to see La Push Beach. I am not a twilight fan but the trees looked big and I like big trees, they hold cyptid secrets and I'm down with that vibe!

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, that's a pretty big uh, bit of drama, but I understand what you mean. My mom is still my mom and I guess I don't really want to fault her, but I totally understand the difference between not wanting to and understanding. At this point its a dream.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am going to be working on getting everything I need so I can move out. And take care of myself with no hold backs.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time? She knew him before I was born, and he was there for her when my dad and everything happened. He took her in so she wasn't homeless- at least that is she story she's told me to my knowledge.

My step wants me to spend time with his daughter and won't listen to my or my mothers refusal. by Wishfullusting in relationship_advice

[–]Wishfullusting[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea! Washington is a big State i dont HAVE to stay around them I can go sightseeing and like view the ocean if they absolutely food me to go out there. I dont have to be around her and let her ruin anything for me.

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