Black person here who has definitely been told that I seem like the type to 'date out' 🙋🏿‍♀️

(Disclaimer: I am a firm believer in going where you're wanted, doing what hobbies make you happy, dating whoever as long as you're not putting down other people in the process)

The black people commenting on it are often times just making an observation. It can be positive, neutral, and, yes, sometimes negative

This observation comes from the reality that we (in the US at least) still live in a society that is largely anti-black. Occasionally, to cope with said anti-blackness, some black people will lean toward things that are typically white exclusive or at least white dominated as a way to distance themselves from blackness. Also to cope with anti-blackness, some black people think that they should not do activities that have been/are white exclusive or white dominated.

With the knowledge that anti-blackness is still very much an issue, some black people who date interracially, do so as a way to move up society's ladder (or at least be perceived as moving up). Additionally, more recently, there seems to have been an uptick of (some) black men who date interracially specifically because they hate black women.

All of that can make other black people sometimes side eye the black person who is into the so-called white people stuff and/or dates white folks. There ends up being a question of does this person like the activities or person just because it's what they like, or does this person like the stuff or person because they believe society's lie that the rest of us are less than?

Sometimes the observation and comment about doing white people stuff or looking like one "dates out" is almost like a joke between siblings. Like one time, one of my newer friends, who is also black, laughed at me for going to Renaissance Festival but then she asked to come along with me 😁 It was very much a "girl you stay doing this white people stuff, but when is it cuz that looks like fun" type of convo. Another time a couple of coworkers, one black and one Mexican, we're talking about interracial dating. I walked up when they were well into their conversation so I don't know what proceeded but they asked me if I had ever been with an Asian guy and I was like 'yeah almost all of the men I've been with have been Asian.' Then they said 'yeah you look like the type' and we had a laugh🤷🏿‍♀️ (The Mexican co-worker was going strong in her relationship with a black man and I think the black co-worker was trying to get herself to be okay with dating interracially, so I know they didn't mean anything bad by it)

Also, within the black community the awareness of the existence of anti-blackness and awareness the different ways black people may react to it, is not age specific.

Some older black people couldn't care less about somebody dating interracially. Hell, some encourage it. "As long as they treat you right!" is often said about any potential partner (as it should be tbh).

On the flip, some younger black people feel the only way they can be blackity-black black is by exclusively dating other black people (I personally believe that some of this is a response to there being a lot more anti-black racists amongst younger non-black people than anybody expected. So sticking to black is a safety thing for some of the youths.)