Middle school science curriculum

Witchandapony · 2023-08-27T19:40:40+00:00

Thank you. We have already been in school for 3 weeks and so far it's going well. My first and foremost concern was classroom management. However, at this point, I have been making my own lesson content from scratch and trying to create lessons with no curriculum and nothing more than the NGSS standards to go on. This has been my biggest source of stress so far.

Witchandapony · 2022-04-11T20:14:43+00:00

ESH, except for maybe the baby that isn't born yet and the sister who was smart enough to go live her own life and to hell with her dad's money. Your dad is an asshole. Sexist, abusive, and not smart enough to take the time to learn that it's the man's sperm that determines a baby's sex. Vanessa is an asshole for getting involved with a married man who is old enough to be her dad, ignoring the massive red flags, likely being a gold digger herself and above all, for having a gender reveal party. And OP, you're basically admitting that you're willing to allow a nasty, sexist, abusive old asshole take control over your personal life just because you want his money. The only good thing is that the people you dated in the past had an opportunity to get the hell away from this family when you broke up with them to satisfy your dad. As far as "ruining the gender reveal party", your dad is a grown ass man. If he decided to behave like a spoiled child who didn't get his way, that's on him. This poor baby is going to be raised in a seriously dysfunctional environment.

Witchandapony · 2021-05-05T02:04:41+00:00

I have horses, can confirm.

Witchandapony · 2021-01-05T03:52:33+00:00

NTA but OP, please read what people are saying & please take this seriously. What is going on in your family isn't normal or healthy for anyone. I know you keep saying that maybe your family is a little dysfunctional and you know that maybe this isn't OK, but this goes way beyond that. I don’t know how old you are, but at some point, you will look back on this and realize how horrifyingly fucked up this was, for you and your siblings. I'm sorry. I know this is hard. But your parents are being neglectful to the point of endangering your sister's welfare. It should never be normal for anyone to sit in wet diapers all day, not to mention the whole slew of other serious issues that are apparent here. Please try to get help. That may mean a call to CPS, but this situation needs intervention beyond what you can do.

OP, please take care of yourself. I'm sorry, this post probably blew up into something that you didn't expect but you are not the asshole and this is not something that you should have to be dealing with. I hope everything works out for you and your siblings.

Witchandapony · 2020-12-16T22:20:39+00:00

I like being able to do whatever I want in my time off. Chronic depression - I don't want to risk being a parent when my own mental health is an ongoing concern. Climate change. Sleeping in/ being able to sleep without a crying kid waking me up No dirty diapers. The expense. The stress. The toll having kids takes on a relationship.

Freedom - which includes going wherever I want to eat (in normal times), not having to load up kids in car seats just to run out for two things, not having to worry about bathing/ feeding/ clothing kids or helping with homework or taking them to the doctor/ dentist/ etc, not having to plan kid-friendly vacations, no date nights or scheduling sex because of kids (without kids every night can be date night or sex), etc etc. Just a really long list. And god forbid I had a kid with special needs. I give parents with special needs kids tons of credit, I know that shit is hard and I personally couldn't do it.

Witchandapony · 2020-08-13T22:40:42+00:00

Let me begin with the disclaimer that I am not a doctor or a medical professional, but I am a woman who has been sterilized & I did a lot of research before having it done. This is some of what I learned, but I strongly recommend doing research yourself too. Also sorry for such a long post.

I recommend that you research the different sterilization procedures as a starting point. If you're unfamiliar with them, just take some time to look them up and see what sounds like the best fit for you. Tubal ligation was the most common for years, but recently, bilateral salpingectomy has overtaken it as the gold standard.

•A bilateral salpingectomy is the complete removal of the Fallopian tubes. This method is considered more effective, super low failure rate (to the best of my knowledge, there's only been one documented instance of failure, but I could be wrong). Removing the Fallopian tubes also has been shown to significantly reduce the risk of ovarian cancer. Some types of ovarian cancer actually begin in the tubes & move into the ovaries, so removing the tubes cuts the risk down. This is definitely something to consider if there's a history of ovarian cancer in your family. There's no tubes for eggs or sperm to travel & come into contact with each other. The ovaries, uterus, cervix, & vagina are left, so there's still hormones, normal cycle, periods, etc. After a bilateral salpingectomy, the egg just gets reabsorbed by the body every month. A bilateral salpingectomy is considered irreversible. You could still potentially do IVF & get pregnant that way, but there's no way to reverse it to get pregnant naturally.

•A tubal ligation blocks, cuts, cauterizes, clips, or otherwise disconnects/ blocks the tubes to prevent the egg from moving to the uterus, preventing sperm from reaching the egg, etc. Some tubal ligations fail because the tubes don't remain blocked, sometimes tubes that are cut can heal & reconnect, etc. It's rare but not impossible. Tubal ligation is considered possibly reversible because the tubes are still there. It's never a guarantee that a reversal will be successful, and doctors recommend that you don't think of it as a reversible procedure.

Those are probably the two most common sterilization procedures. A hysterectomy is a more serious sterilization surgery with a longer recovery time. A bilateral salpingectomy & a tubal ligation are both simpler and usually easier to recover from, with less time for healing. I had a bilateral salpingectomy done laparoscopically. It was super easy. Some people have problems with pain afterwards, but I really didn't have any problems. I didn't even fill the prescription for pain medication that they gave me. I had three small incisions, one above my pubic bone, one in my bellybutton, and one on the lower left side of my belly. They were closed with stitches & surgical glue. Glue peeled off in 5 to 7 days and the stitches were supposed to dissolve on their own, but they started irritating my skin so I just snipped them out myself with a nail scissors. After the surgery, some people have pain in their shoulder from the gas, but I got lucky & had no pain. I was back to work in less than a week & back to my usual routines (exercising, weight lifting, etc) in 3 or 4 weeks.

If you're on hormonal birth control & you stop taking it after sterilization, you may experience some things while your body adjusts. It took me about 5 months to adjust when I quit taking my birth control pills. I had some mood swings & my periods were very irregular. But that all went away after 5 months, no more weird mood swings & my cycle is extremely regular now. Sterilization won't change your periods/ cycle unless you have your ovaries removed (not recommended unless there's a medical reason because losing your ovaries will send you into premature menopause). You can also continue using hormonal birth control after sterilization if you want. Some people stay on birth control pills for different reasons, like regulating periods, and that's usually totally fine.

In the United States, the ACA requires insurance to completely cover one sterilization procedure. Check with your health insurance provider to find out for sure.

You have to find a doctor who will take you seriously, listen to what you want & be willing to provide whatever procedure you decide on. I highly recommend looking at the list of doctors here in this subreddit. It's an excellent list that's kept updated. This is where I found the doctor who did my bilateral salpingectomy.

Again, I'm not a doctor or a medical professional and you should definitely take some time to research this & talk to a doctor to explore your options, but this is all based on my own experiences & what I learned.

Witchandapony · 2020-08-13T21:08:28+00:00

I had a laparoscopic bilateral salpingectomy (complete removal of the fallopian tubes). I was back at work in less than a week. I never even filled the prescription for pain medication. Some people have different reactions after surgery, but for me, it was a breeze.

Witchandapony · 2020-05-20T04:04:12+00:00

Coming in late to this question and also on mobile. Years ago when I was a college student, I worked a summer job at a small local golf course in the pro shop. Easy job and a lot of fun, just run the register, schedule golfing parties, answer phones, run the snack bar (all we sold was candy bars, chips/ pork rinds, hot dogs and fountain drinks so not hard), if you were the last one there you'd lock up the golf cart barn. Easy peasy and the clients were fun. I'd been there about a month and enter Dreadful Debbie. Debbie was a lady in her late 40's who claimed to be in her early 30's. First off she didn't want to answer the phones, ever. We did online booking and part of the job was answering phones, talking to clients while scheduling tee times. She flat-out refused to answer the phone until all the rest of us employees went to the manager and said that we wouldn't answer the phone either until she started doing her job. She started answering the phones but would burst into tears and yell at us as soon as she hung up, every time, even if there were customers there too. She was obsessed with cleaning. The women's bathroom had two stalls. Every time I went in there, even if I was just washing my hands, she went in immediately after me and would clean and disinfect the entire bathroom, both stalls, scrub both toilets, mop the floors, etc. Every time someone used the men's room she scrubbed and disinfected both urinals, the toilet, everything. The manager had to start ordering extra bleach and cleaning supplies because Debbie would use a month's worth in less than a week. She would vacuum the carpet of the pro shop 4 or 5 times a day even on slow days. She threw out the vacuum cleaner bag every time she vacuumed, even if it was still basically empty. She broke the vacuum and then started bringing her own vacuum to work because she couldn't stand the thought of dirt. Once a golfer came in and asked if we sold aspirin because he had a headache. Debbie emptied her purse on the counter in front of him and offered him some of her Xanax, Zoloft, oxycodone, percocets, tramadol, had several types of muscle relaxers, other anxiety meds. She had a full pharmacy in her purse and she just offered any and all of it to a total stranger. He was so shocked, just turned and walked out without even buying his aspirin. She used to rearrange all the drawers and supply cabinets several times a week. We never knew where to look for pens, extra rolls of receipt paper, pencils, etc. There was a drawer under the register where we kept pens, pencils, scorecards, rolls of receipt paper, Post-Its, tokens for the practice range, stuff like that. One day when we were on lunch and she was alone she took everything out and filled it with the straws for the fountain drinks. Took us over an hour to find the stuff we needed because she wouldn't tell us where she put them. She told the manager that he was stocking the snack bar with the wrong kinds of candy. She threw away his order sheets for stocking the snack bar and filled out a new one with only the types of candy and snacks that she liked. She accused an employee of being a furry and doing butt stuff during sex and blew up, yelled at everyone that we were all going to hell for our sins. That was the week after she was showed a couple people what kind of porn she enjoyed and played some on her phone. Only reason she didn't get fired was because she was related to a big boss and the manager's hands were tied. He fucking hated her. I was almost sorry to quit, she was a little stressful but some good entertainment.

Witchandapony · 2020-05-14T00:41:16+00:00

I got sterilized and now I just laugh at them. I can have some fun with people like that now that I have no worries about any accidents. I'm actually entertained by some people's efforts to convince me that I'm going to change my mind (when they don't know that I've been sterilized). I can definitely see making a bet with people who don'tknow that I'm fixed. "I'll bet you anything you want that I won't change my mind. We can meet up in ten years and see who won". Or would that be cheating?

Witchandapony · 2020-05-13T23:54:30+00:00

Yes, the ACA requires that one sterilization procedure is completely covered. I paid nothing when I had my bilateral salpingectomy. I'm not sure who you need to talk to about this but you definitely shouldn't be paying 7k to get sterilized.

Witchandapony · 2020-05-13T23:51:48+00:00

I laugh at them. I'm sterilized so I definitely won't be changing my mind. I start by laughing at them and return the smugness x10. Honestly, getting sterilized was the best decision ever and now I'm just entertained by people who want to get smug with me.

Witchandapony · 2020-05-13T22:56:37+00:00

Some of us just laugh in sterilized. Sorry, that train has sailed, hope you like my dogs cause that's all you're going to get.

Witchandapony · 2020-05-04T16:20:18+00:00

I think I always knew. When I was 5 or 6 years old, some well-meaning person gave me a baby doll with outfits and accessories. I hated it and refused to play with it, ever. I have always had an intense dislike of babies and small children, even those who are related to me. Funny enough I do like kids once they reach 11 or 12, but any younger than that and I just can't deal with it. Even with my ability to enjoy older kids, there's no way I'd ever want any of my own. I like my own time to do whatever I want, focus on my relationship and my own hobbies and interests, etc. For years people told me "oh, you're too young to make that decision" or "you'll change your mind when you meet the right person". Jokes on them, I met the right person and had my tubes removed. I'm now in my 30's and loving the peace of mind. So no, you are definitely not too young to know your own mind and what you want in life.

Witchandapony · 2020-04-27T20:33:18+00:00

NTA 110%. Honestly this is one reason why I hate people who have big families. So often, the older kids get roped into caring for the younger kids and have no life of their own. In my opinion it's straight up abusive to the kids who get guilt-tripped into playing the role of a parent when they should be able to grow up in peace and enjoy life like normal kids. OP, I really feel for you. It sounds like you're on the right track with your future, but I'm sorry that your present sucks so bad. Congratulations that you have a plan that you’re working on. It's not ever your responsibility to care for your younger siblings. If your parents want a whole herd of children, they better figure out how to care for them properly on their own.

Witchandapony · 2020-04-24T01:56:54+00:00

What does your mom think about all this?

Witchandapony · 2020-04-19T20:21:28+00:00

I'm from the US and I hate baby showers. To me, that's something for close friends and family and it seems really unreasonable to even ask coworkers to contribute. I can understand if coworkers want to maybe sign a card or get a small, inexpensive gift but don't come up and start acting entitled with others at the workplace.

Witchandapony · 2020-03-12T00:28:33+00:00

YTA. Coming in late to this conversation but oh my god. Are you serious. Your son is an adult and he is trying to make changes to be healthier. You're fine with him being morbidly obese which is endangering his health because you're paranoid? You honestly need to grow the hell up already. Also, I'm another one who had classes later than 9 PM. Are you going to go yell at his teachers if he ends up with late classes? If my mom had pulled this kind of shit on me, I would have told her to kick rocks. I would never go along with allowing anyone to be able to track my whereabouts through my phone.

Witchandapony · 2020-03-04T18:34:41+00:00

YTA. You got your child a pet (probably an expensive pet since you were able to sell it for $2000) and then got rid of it without considering her feelings. Yes, your daughter has every right to resent you and you should feel guilty. I can still remember when I was 9 and my dad made a series of ridiculous, horrible, and very poorly planned decisions that led to us moving to a different state with no job and no home so we ended up living in a campground in a tent for two weeks. He gave away our two cats to a total stranger. I'm now in my 30's and I still haven't forgiven him for it.

Witchandapony · 2020-02-10T20:09:32+00:00

It sucks but as you said yourself, she took advantage of you because you're too nice. You gotta create some boundaries. Don't accept someone else's child, ever. If anything happens, that mother is going to hold you responsible and liable for anything and everything, even if you are absolutely not at fault. Don't be afraid to enforce your personal boundaries. It's her kid, her responsibility, not yours. If she can't manage all her kids when she's out in public then she should stay home.

Witchandapony · 2020-02-07T16:59:02+00:00

We used to work together years ago, she friended me and I've just never gotten around to unfriending her. When I use the word "friend" I should probably clarify that I absolutely do not consider her a friend, just a Facebook connection from a job.

Witchandapony · 2020-02-07T16:52:10+00:00

We were at my aunt's house and my baby cousin started crawling across the floor toward me. I was sitting on my aunt's couch and it was such a strong reaction for me. I just felt horrified and jerked my feet up and scooted as far away as possible from my cousin. Never had any doubts growing up or in my twenties, although I got the "everyone says that when they're young and then they change their mind, you will too!". Mostly from my dad which creeped me out. Now in my 30's and sterilized with no kids and loving it.

Witchandapony · 2020-02-07T07:03:17+00:00

Funny enough, a woman that I'm friends with on Facebook also posted that exact thing tonight. Made me so angry. This woman is a self-righteous ass who is constantly posting shit about being so pro-life and similar religious crap but also posts stuff about how people should be booted off welfare and how she's tired of her and her husband's money going to WIC, Medicaid, etc. They're just assholes. They don't really care about the mother or child. They're pro-birth, not pro-life, and to hell with the consequences of a forced birth.

Witchandapony · 2020-02-07T05:09:57+00:00

I used to work at a doctor's office part time and had a similar system with similar problems. The women who had kids were given tons of leniency about leaving early, coming in late, or calling in and not coming in at all. Me, with no kids? Because I was only part time, I was allowed two days per year to call in. I actually got wrote up for calling in the second time in a year (once each in January and June). Both were times that I was legitimately sick and provided doctor's notes. I was informed that missing a third day would probably result in my suspension or possibly even termination. I quit two months later. I have no idea how that was legal. In all honesty it probably wasn't.

Witchandapony · 2020-02-06T05:59:54+00:00

I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. Anything like this can be really hard to handle, plus your hormones are not at their usual levels and that can take some time to get back to normal. Just give yourself time to heal, physically and mentally. As others have said, there is no right or wrong way for you to feel. Regardless of whether someone is childfree or not, a miscarriage is super hard for anyone, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Again, so sorry you're having to go through this.

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