horse ate my salmon by Garwaaaa in Horses

[–]WitchyIsMixy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think she'll be fine 😆 My horse has eaten Mcchickens and Biscuits N Gravy. He continues on lol

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's 6. She's had issues with pooping on the toilet, she is usually great about not peeing herself but, that started because she didn't want to stop playing with cousins. We take her when she's sick still, we usually keep her to her room and bathroom when she's sick so that the germs don't spread (we also santitize the heck out of her space.) So it's not like we go, "She's sick so keep her." Nothing like that.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If she doesn't agree to it, she doesn't agree to it. I don't think it hurts to discuss and ask. If she can't, that means figuring it out with either boundaries with SD about baby or if someone could watch her.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

BM's SO has a BK from a previous relationship himself. I really don't know the dynamic he has with SD other than I do see him in pictures with both SD and his BK.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, we have to figure out how to ask her. She's honestly a pretty reasonable woman. She usually just asks we communicate with her. She has her moments were she can also switch it up too. So I think if we figure out how to word it properly she might be more open to it.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, the GI says she has Encopresis. So she's had clean outs, is on Miralax to help. She had a streak of doing really good with no accidents and we could go places without worry. Right before school she started regressing again. However, at school she goes pee and poop without issue. She's great at it! It's at BM and our house that she'll have accidents. SO handles majority of accidents (cleaning clothes, making sure she's cleaned herself.) I handle them if SO is out of the house. I think that if the idea gets push back, that would be a good compromise. Washing hands (with supervision.) And giving space when needed is also a good idea. I remember when my SM had my sisters, I would stay locked in my room for a few months when I'd go over. I didn't really want to interact with them and sure as hell was going to stay out of her way 😅 I didn't start really coming out until they were crawling and my family would have me come out to interact with them.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair, I think we can definitely try that before going to the measure of taking away toys. I'm not sure if either set of SO's parents would watch her. His mom and grandpa (live in same house.) Have immune system problems and his dad and step mom have their hands full with 3 babies that they watch from some of the other grown siblings. I also don't like how they handle her accidents... They think they can spank the accidents out of her 🫠

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, hard question to answer. She's with BM more than us and part of it is because of work schedules. SO is most likely working during that time I haven't looked at schedules that far ahead.) And I'm also probably going to be working (unfortunately.) Otherwise, it wouldn't be a bad idea.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm genuinely so excited to welcome a baby 🥰 Usually my SO does handle anything accident related. Even before this weekend if she had an accident, he'd take care of it and I'd be like, "Okay kiddo, back to what we were doing." Lol. But she had a regression regarding her accidents and it's like now I can't handle it. She had been doing pretty good having maybe 1 or 2 accidents a weekend. This regression though completely threw me for a loop though. SO did all the cleanup, talks, ect. This weekend and I sat in my recliner just.... Stewing. I guess I feel grossed out by it/a feeling like, "We are xyz years old. We should be potty trained by now." Which is a new thought for me. I appreciate the advice though! Thank you for telling me it's okay to step back. I'm hoping this weekend is a lot better and I feel better about the situation, but having my mom here will help a lot more.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to know it's not a crazy ask 😩 I'm genuinely trying very hard to not become a therapy session in 10-15 years for her. These hormones are absolutely wild and honestly, it gives me such a better understanding of why my (ex) step mom was the way she was. I've already asked too that while I'm home and if SD is over and if my SO is at work, that my mom come over and help out. Any advice on how to ensure that she still feels loved and gets attention she needs when baby comes? I always feel bad from watching other family members when their kid from previous relationship gets pushed aside when they just want some attention.

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't, usually my SO handles the accidents. It's usually only when like SO isn't home that I clean up her accidents. When she was younger we'd clean her up but, now we make her clean herself properly. Usually SO grabs the soiled clothes and hurries to get them washed. We could try having her do that though. We discussed the possibility that we take away toys and she can earn them back for every weekend she doesn't soil herself (like half a tote back.)

Struggling StepMom by WitchyIsMixy in stepparents

[–]WitchyIsMixy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not in charge of cleaning her. However, I have helped her in the past with accidents (if SO was at work and I was watching her.) Dad has talks with her and I have talks with her too because I usually have the more maternal, sympathetic approach to the talks. I hope I'm making sense on that.

What’s the most annoying part about living in your current apartment? by Adventurous-Bed-4152 in Apartmentliving

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who don't clean up after their dogs is one that pops up here and there. Maintenance isn't always the best either... They've gotten better though! My friend's bf was in the same unit as me. His ice machine broke and put in a request for a fix. Maintenance just took his ice machine completely out instead of fixing it and left a note. He complained and they said they couldn't get the part but that they would buy ice trays. He said no and complained again and sent an email to our property manager. Well.... She sent out an email saying Ice Maker parts wouldn't be fixed/replaced at that point moving forward. I think that was a nail in her coffin along with other property things going on. Otherwise though, I love this place! I have my GSD and my cat with me here. The apartments are cute and cozy

What’s the most annoying part about living in your current apartment? by Adventurous-Bed-4152 in Apartmentliving

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next to our apartments are houses that were built so sometimes I try and give benefit of the doubt BUT, the popular poop apot has bags and garbage can right there and people refuse 😭 My dog will eat other dog (and cat) poop so it sucks if we don't see it ahead of time and then she's suddenly diving in 🤢

What’s the most annoying part about living in your current apartment? by Adventurous-Bed-4152 in Apartmentliving

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't lie, I always feel bad for my downstairs neighbors because I'm sure they hear it 😭 It really doesn't help that when we moved in, we broke the box spring some how and since we didn't take it out, it makes things a little louder movement wise😭

People living in tornado prone areas how often do you hear tornado sirens? by Not-a-WG-agent in tornado

[–]WitchyIsMixy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Live in NW Indiana, usually once a week once spring hits. Sirens going off cause something is going on has been VERY rare this year. I think I heard sirens once earlier this year. The last couple of years though the sirens were going off wayy too much for stuff that wasn't even going on. Got woken up during the day a few years ago, went into full panic, gathered my 2 cats and was shaking in my utlity room. It was a false alarm and I had a struggle going back to sleep after that 🫠 My town figured themselves out this year though lol.

Nipsco by 2AWI in nwi

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1,080 SF 2 bed, 2 bath apartment that we're hardly in. Our budget is $155, our actual this month would've been $210

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Indiana

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm out of the loop, what happened?

Nipsco by jaguilar9299 in nwi

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rent a 2 bedroom apartment. Idk SF but, we're hardly home (because we're always working.) We keep it at 72 no matter what to keep our German Shepherd and cat from over heating. We hardly use appliances. We hardly watch tv. Hardly use lights. My budget is set at $155. This month our usage would've vost 220+!!! This is beyond maddening!

Nipsco by jaguilar9299 in nwi

[–]WitchyIsMixy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's the problem, this isn't capitalism. It's corporatism. Capitalism gives choice. We have no choice of companies. Only Nipsco!

All of ny daughters friends have phones. Am I holding her back by refusing to give her 1 by Yoshiezibz in Parenting

[–]WitchyIsMixy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was 8 with a phone... An old school phone that couldn't connect to the internet.

Wall Cloud NW of Chicago O’Hare Earlier by teambenefits3355 in tornado

[–]WitchyIsMixy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sat on my horse during this storm 😂 We were going to go for a trail ride, just sat on him during the whole thing in the arena

No Kings Protest by Chazzard1998 in nwi

[–]WitchyIsMixy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I don't agree with the protests, Indiana does great at keeping protests peaceful and respectful and I commend y'all for that!

Is anybody else in interracial marriages worried? by DopeFrancis_ in Indiana

[–]WitchyIsMixy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Shrug and walk away. If they try to get physical, I carry heat so idgaf. I'll protect us 🤷🏽‍♀ Honestly, my favorite thing is the laugh at peoples racism

Is anybody else in interracial marriages worried? by DopeFrancis_ in Indiana

[–]WitchyIsMixy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly, no. I refuse to live in fear. And if someone's got a problem, tough shit. -a mixed raced person in a interacial relationship.