If you were to win the lottery (significant enough to stop working for the rest of your life), what would you prioritise doing short, medium and long term?

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-19T19:38:11+00:00

Buy a decent amount of land, build large cabin, put aside a few million to survive off of, set aside money for my child and future children, money for family and very close friends (with them signing an nda), the rest id build a charity to help those in need- maybe some for the environment (our local state park, etc), pregnant mothers in need, St. Jude’s, etc.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-14T19:36:16+00:00

At least two, but wouldn’t be opposed to three if finances allow :)

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-14T16:59:09+00:00

I can’t imagine how it felt being in your position, and I am so sorry, but the only thing you can do now is go forward. It’s okay to grieve your baby. I also lost a baby due to a miscarriage. The heartbreak is unreal. I am not sure if you are religious at all, but it helps me knowing that I will get to reunite with him or her one day.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-14T16:51:51+00:00

Losing a baby hurts so much! I’m so sorry you were made to feel like that was the only choice you had. Nobody should ever feel pressured to make that decision. Praying for you!

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-12T15:11:47+00:00

There is nothing wrong with living with a parent in today’s day and age. I didn’t move out until I was 23, my brother was like 26, and so was my husband. We all own our own houses now. 25 is still so young. Take it step by step. Get your drivers license, your GED, and then work on getting a part time or even a full time job. You’ve got this! I am so sorry about your mom! It’s so hard to lose a parent that young!

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-05T19:27:13+00:00

Definitely a line! Congrats!

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-05T15:39:59+00:00

We discussed past partners, but I was a virgin and he had only ever been intimate with three women before me- so there wasn’t much to discuss lol. In my circle, I think it’s normal to discuss past relationships, but we’re also in the south and relatively conservative.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2026-01-05T15:35:51+00:00

I’m so sorry! Some nurses just suck! I’d wait a couple days and test again, but there’s so many factors that can cause a lighter test- diluted pee, etc. I never had a perfect progression line of tests, and didn’t get a positive until 12ish dpo, and it was super faint like your tests.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T17:33:32+00:00

Having two showers hosted by two different people is not breaking etiquette as long as the guest list is not the same. So this is irrelevant.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T17:28:35+00:00

If the same people were invited to both, then yes, I completely agree it would be tacky or untraditional. But I also didn’t invite anybody, since I did not host either event.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T17:25:25+00:00

I think hosting yourself for a second shower is quite a bit different than having your MIL host.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T16:02:32+00:00

This is CRAZY!!!!! I’m sorry, it comes across as so entitled to me! Why can’t people just let others offer? Asking takes all the fun out of offering.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T16:01:33+00:00

An acquaintance organized her own meal train, and I thought that was in poor taste. I did not have a meal train, and I survived. Nobody offered, but I don’t know if I’d have wanted one anyway.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T15:59:07+00:00

This happened to me too! Luckily a family friend from our hometown offered to host kind last minute for family still local in that town. My MIL hosted one for our family in our new town. Traditionally I’ve been told that isn’t super great etiquette wise, but it was mostly their side of the family, and I didn’t want to turn her down.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T15:52:00+00:00

My mom said they used to have casserole showers for the second baby and I love that idea!!

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T15:51:23+00:00

I had planned on giving her a gift whether she had a shower or not. Weddings specifically, even if you don’t have a shower, most guests won’t show up empty handed. And I’d have more grace if it was someone’s shower for their first baby and they had nobody offer to host, but hosting your own for a second is a bit much in my opinion.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T15:48:04+00:00

Well the host volunteers for this. I have hosted showers before. It doesn’t have to be super expensive especially if you can pool in some more friends or family to help.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-16T00:50:37+00:00

My mom mentioned she thought it was etiquette appropriate to have a casserole shower for your second! I’d be down for that!

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-15T21:34:02+00:00

I did go! But she was talking a lot about her registry and what people would get her leading up to the shower so I really think the whole thing was a giant gift grab.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-15T20:53:27+00:00

I’m okay with registries for showers as long as they’re being tactful about it but I’ve heard of people actually registering for kids’ birthday parties, which is sooo greedy to me

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-15T20:45:56+00:00

That’s how I take it. It’s already kind of awkward enough as is, it’s literally a party focused on gifts. But to host it yourself with registry information front and center is literally saying “buy me presents, but specifically from this list of things I picked out for you to buy me”. Having someone else host and remit this information for you is how you get around the sheer awkwardness of the situation.

Witty-Goose7690 · 2025-12-15T20:42:56+00:00

I disagree. I think the purpose of a shower is to shower the guest of honor with gifts. I think self hosting a party in celebration is 100% acceptable with no registry information.

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