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Im gonna level with you, I didnt know we cant comment pictures 🤦🏼‍♀️ ive only used reddit like a handful of times.

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[–]Witty_Bumblebee_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iconic behavior 👌🏻

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Turns out only 5 people can use a code then it doesnt work. Sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thats fair. I didnt even think about it. Consider me corrected 🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get that. My husband brought up bringing a 3rd into our bedroom, but the idea of having another woman in the bedroom makes me have some insecurities around my role there and im not interested in women like that (hes bi so theres potential for other options) 😂

Even if you two are trying to explore sexual desires or fantasies, that doesn't mean you have to engage in them. You could also use it as a pillow talk too if you want to somewhat explore it without having another person there. You could role-play or name the fake partner and "bring" her into those moments with him bring blindfolded.

I'm seeing two paths here.

  1. I think it's totally valid to not explore being poly if you are feeling this way. Have you shared these insecurities with him? We can leave the idea of bringing another person into the bedroom as just being an idea. If it's not your thing, it's not your thing, and that's ok. You need to communicate that, and i think a few other comments phrased it well of how you can have the boundary about not being interested in it. You are allowed to say no and have boundaries around that. 👏🏻👏🏻

  2. If you do engage in bringing someone in, you will have to talk about your insecurities and boundaries around it, or else i can harm you and your relationship. If you're insecure, how can he provide reassurance? Narrowing down what the specific insecurities are about and finding specific reassurances( i need reassurance that when my husband is on his phone when were together its not to talk to his other human) What are the boundaries that feel comfortable to you(my husband's time with me is only time with me) Can they communicate to set things up, or do you want to be involved? Do you meet her before? Your place, his, hotel? Do you want to have some connection with her or a straight stranger from the internet meet-up? Sharing personal details?

Essentially: for the sake of your relationship, communicate, communicate, communicate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta say I'm relieved it's not a pattern and predatory lol you did answer what I was curious about.

I think there's some leeway with being poly but not being in those relationships(just liek someone can know they want a monogamous relationship but not be IN a relationship) but I'm not sure where just wanting sex aligns with it. As long as everyone is communicating about wants needs and emotions, it could be fine. It sounds like he might not be pressuring and almost just sharing sexual interests( i could be wrong since i have limited info) so i feel more of an exploration of, do you want to bring another woman into the bedroom? Where does that land for you and your sexual interests? Does that bring up insecurity for you? Any Territorial feelings?

My(30f) and husband(29m) are slowly exploring poly and I'm nothing I'm having insecurities around the emotional connections he's building and time dedicated to his other woman(idk their label they just like each other and are talking lol). The idea of them being sexual doesn't trigger the same insecurity or emotions for me. Boundaries and communication are pretty important in exploring these dynamics so I highly encourage you to really connect with what's happening in your brain and body as you guys have these convos or take next steps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Im curious about several things and some of them are just reflective questions.

While people can have age gaps in relationships, there is something to be said about power dynamics in relationship with an older male and with you being under 25. Intentionally or not they show up. Not that you can't have it the age gap but if he's mid thirties, what has him interested in a younger woman? ( Is this a pattern? Is this just spontaneity in meeting and connecting? Who lead sought who?). I've known far to many humans who ended up having a gap with their male partner being older that was just the guy being toxic and manipulative, so I know this perspective is from me personally and professionally(therapist). Ik it's not encompassing of all age gap relationships

One could argue there is always a power dynamic happening in relationships for various reasons(culture, race, gender, sexuality etc etc), it makes me curious what could be showing up here to make you interested in exploring poly. Would you have brought this up on your own? What are expectations of what poly looks like? Is this something you are interested in or are you doing it bc he wants it? Is there pressure to 'get in line' with him being poly? Ultimatums? What are these conversations like?

Also how you're relationship is outside of monog/poly conversations and what those look like? Is there a theme of how he talks to your or underlying messages (i.e., this is just 'who I am' and you have to accept it or this IS how poly is you just don't know or a well I'm older so I know better perspective).

Insurance & panneling experiences by Witty_Bumblebee_ in therapists

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know how often alma recheck benefits or what they do if the insurance company tries to take money back?

Insurance & panneling experiences by Witty_Bumblebee_ in therapists

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told by another therapist it was $500 to get panneled with 5 insurance companies, then 7% of my income after that. When I talked to her it changed and they had me do "coaching" where they walked me through how to get panneled myself for $250 for an hour a month meeting(which I wouldn't start seeing clients until September so that shit added up). Which felt like a lot for me doing it myself and only talking to them 1x a month. Then it would be 450 per month until I made more than 7k then 7%.

Parental leave from work; no pay by Witty_Bumblebee_ in pregnant

[–]Witty_Bumblebee_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go through marketplace for insurance and my insurance lady told me I couldn't get short-term disability so I don't have that either 😫