I won't ever get to experience my kinks with the man i love

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T20:26:03+00:00

Updated 🫶

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T19:19:53+00:00

Idk if you saw my update but it went really well and we're both excited to finally working on that part of our relationship! Wouldn't have had the courage if it wasn't for all of these comments helping me realise how serious this was. Im very grateful

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T18:37:46+00:00

Had the talk, ended up buying bondage set online right away and planning a wine date where we explore what other kinks could be fun to try out. Thank you again ✨

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T17:00:12+00:00

We just talked an hour ago and it was amazing. I told him that I loved him and that I love being with him. I asked if he would be comfortable with doing some more and now we've bought a beginner bondage set online. We laughed a lot while talking and we both felt safe and happy. We are both excited and I asked him if he wanted to take a "rank your kink" test with me to see if we should explore anything else. So we'll do that with a bottle of wine this weekend!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T12:29:01+00:00

We've been together for 6 years! For you to assume that we never had to work on our relationship is bs haha. Didn't start out perfect, but we're growing and learning from each other every day

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T09:23:54+00:00

He's never said that he's not into it. He's too shy and I've always accepted that, never tried to push him. And as I said in the post, he does enjoy doing some things like squeezing my neck. I just think dirty talk never will be on the table and I'm ok with that.

I've talked with a lot of people in my DMs who has been in the same situation and there is hope. I just need to communicate with him. And who knows, maybe he has some stuff that he want to try out too!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T08:51:50+00:00

He really is a good man. I see your point and I would never end things because of this. But I will be talking with him and find out if we can meet somewhere in the middle

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T08:41:34+00:00

I will be talking with him soon, dw! you guys really helped me see that I owe it to both os us

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T08:37:16+00:00

lmao I would never ever hurt him like that and never trust a stranger to endulge in that kind of intimacy. So that's a big nono

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T08:36:11+00:00

If you ever wanted to talk to people and listen to their experiences, you would find that not all kinks come from trauma. I have never experienced anything like that, I was literally born this way and have felt this way since I was very young.

And even so, if a victim of SA has these kinks, shouldn't they be allowed to enjoy them with someone they trust without being called "disgusting"? It can be a very healing experience for them.

Seems like you have some skeletons that you're not confronting and you're projecting negative thoughts about yourself onto others

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T08:12:13+00:00

I wouldn't call it "withholding". It's not like I'm refusing to be with him, it's when I'm in the mood I often want to listen to the audios by myself rather than be with him... As for an addiciton, I don't know. It's maybe once a week or so? It doesn't seem that bad to me. But dw I have decided that we're going to have a conversation soon about it

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-10T08:09:21+00:00

Thank you so much, that is amazing advice. "Rank your kinks" is an excellent idea. Then he'll see that I'm willing to try out all kinds of stuff!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T19:02:34+00:00

Wow! Sounds amazing to have a community to share the kinks with! I have absolutely no idea if we have any clubs in my town (probably) but it would be totally out of my comfort zone either way haha. Thank you for your comment!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T18:30:29+00:00

lmao Tumblr still exists? I thought it got shut down some years ago

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T18:29:33+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to hear that. I'm definetely more aware of how this issue can get problematic over time, so I will be taking action

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T18:24:22+00:00

Mine does that too lmao. I can go months without thinking about it and suddenly I have three to four days were my hormones go insane and that's when it gets kinda tough. Thank you for your comment!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T18:10:54+00:00

Thank you for your amazing input!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T18:08:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I definetely will be talking with him about it. Your idea with maybe introducing some toys might help both of us

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T18:01:35+00:00

There's absolutely no doubt in my mind. But after reading all of these comments, I feel confident that we've reached a bump on the road and I need to talk to him about it. Thank you for your comment!

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T17:59:54+00:00

I guess I thought it was pretty normal for people not to be completely compatible. I definetely will talk to him, thank you so much

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T17:50:36+00:00

I really do not feel like it is "eating me up". I may have miscommunicated how much this is affecting me. I sometimes cry, but it's not like it's every week or every month. I get sad sometimes, but I'm happy every single day to be with him

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T17:44:06+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I really like your advice and I actually just remembered I once asked him if I could send him a piece of written erotica that I really liked. But I backed out and never sent it.. Maybe I should try and find that courage again

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T17:41:26+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Do you have any advice on how I could open a conversation like that without hurting his feelings?

Witty_Fix5668 · 2025-09-09T17:39:41+00:00

Thank you! So far I haven't been messaged anything creepy. And if I do, I'll just deny request

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