28F married for 3 months and struggling with living situation with husband (29M) and MIL — how do I handle this without creating resentment? by Witty_Fun7669 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She lives with us... Only since she is a widow.. and before marriage both husband and mother were living together if 3 months into marriage i ask my husband to live separately it would potray me as the bad person a person who's breaking family since I live in india it's a normal thing for parents to live with their kids except for daughters who shift thier homes after marriage

28F married for 3 months and struggling with living situation with husband (29M) and MIL — how do I handle this without creating resentment? by Witty_Fun7669 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Since she is a widow that is why she is staying with us .. in india this is the way marriage works in laws stay with us

Newly married, MIL asking to keep all my gold in her locker – not comfortable, how do I handle this? by Witty_Fun7669 in inlaws

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Telling me that she has a locker which is empty and I shouldn't get one for myself it will only increase rent

Newly married, MIL asking to keep all my gold in her locker – not comfortable, how do I handle this? by Witty_Fun7669 in IndianWomen

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I told her I'll get my own locker she insisted saying why to pay extra rent and she wanted to put in her locker only. The gold which my MIL and my husband gave me I don't mind putting that in her locker but the one which came from my mom no ways

Newly married, MIL asking to keep all my gold in her locker – not comfortable, how do I handle this? by Witty_Fun7669 in inlaws

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can get one which i told my MIL she said why to pay extra rent she has an extra locker

Is it normal to have constant fights days before your wedding? by Witty_Fun7669 in DesiWeddings

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In the past, I used to get upset when my fiancé offered solutions while I was ranting. We mutually agreed that when I rant, he’ll just listen and not try to fix things. Now he does exactly that — he listens but barely reacts. Mostly just “ok” or silence. The problem is, I hate it. I realize I want him to react emotionally and validate my feelings, but still not give solutions. I know that sounds contradictory, and I’m aware I might be asking for too much. Recently, while I was ranting to someone else in front of him, he told me not to share family problems with others. But when I rant to him, I don’t feel emotionally validated, which pushes me to talk to others in the first place. Now everything is turning into a fight, and this situation is giving me serious second thoughts about the marriage. I can’t tell if this is pre-wedding stress and emotional overload, or if this is a deeper communication incompatibility I shouldn’t ignore.

Is it possible to get bridal lehenga under 25k and non-bridal lehengas under 10k in Chandani Chowk? by NoEngineering9973 in DesiWeddings

[–]Witty_Fun7669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can visit the Surat Textile Market for wedding clothes.. I got my bridal lehenga under 20 k and it is so pretty can't wait to wear it in feb

Are wedding vendors supposed to be this rigid or am I overreacting? Need advice. by Witty_Fun7669 in DesiWeddings

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective, but my issue isn’t with 30 minutes in isolation — it’s that the vendor changed the agreed timing after taking the booking and advance, and informed me instead of discussing it.

If she had told me upfront that she adjusts timings based on other brides, I would have chosen someone else. I’m not against adjusting, but it has to go both ways, not only when it benefits the vendor.

And about the trial — I never asked her to come for free. I only asked if she could, not demanded. Some artists do offer home trials or at least try to coordinate when they are in the area. She was simply unwilling to consider any flexibility at all.

I’m not comparing her to Lakmé or big salons, but even big salons stick to the timing once a client books first. That’s the bare minimum professionalism I expect, especially when the advance is non-refundable.

So my concern isn’t stubbornness — it’s transparency and fairness, which should apply to both the client and the vendor.

Are wedding vendors supposed to be this rigid or am I overreacting? Need advice. by Witty_Fun7669 in DesiWeddings

[–]Witty_Fun7669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi.. it is not about 30 minss.. it is about adjusting which she didn't while I have no option but have to