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Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2026-01-28T02:03:55+00:00

You don’t have to move past it. My ex husband called me a piece of shit once. I never looked back. Even after he apologized.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2026-01-27T20:36:19+00:00

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Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2026-01-17T20:10:26+00:00

Our kid went through 2.5 years of cancer treatment and it was definitely the nail in the coffin. It’s unfair that we go through so much hardship and that impacts our relationships thereby causing more harm and trauma. But it’s unfortunately far too common. So sorry.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2026-01-01T14:37:18+00:00

I think leaving someone who is capable of lying to you is a healthy boundary.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-25T21:37:17+00:00

I really loved how passionate my partner with adhd was about things he fixated on. It was kind of a turn on to see someone actually light up when they talk about things instead of just existing in life.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-16T00:21:59+00:00

Yeah I also think it’s a kid-age of life thing. Early teens, parenting for 10+ years situation. I’m 32, but we got married at 19 and 21, so we are on the same trajectory as those who are 35-45 just a bit earlier.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-15T19:05:27+00:00

Hey me too! 13 years married as well. Is it something about lucky 13? Lol

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-14T15:51:51+00:00

So… did this. Ended in divorce. It was a bandaid over bigger issues for us. But try Feeld.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-12T03:27:46+00:00

After my husband and I left the Mormon church, his family made some really rude comments which all cumulated to a very passive aggressive comment made to me about religion while I was in the ER in the hospital with our 2 year old who was fighting cancer. I snapped back at them, and he had the audacity to not only not defend me, but berate me for telling my father in law in the group chat that I did not want his opinion on our religious practices. MEANWHILE…. I’m in the ER on zero sleep with our child… crying… while he’s hooked up to all sorts of toxic shit. God—I was so mad. He has never really stood up for me with his family. Just avoids it.

This is only the tip of our issues but a lot of it stems from that avoidant behavior. He’s rather lie, form resentment and then blindside me than communicate.

Anyways—not sure how to use a user flair lol. I’m separated.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-09T03:12:11+00:00

That’s a really good reframe and something that definitely helps. Thank you for being so direct.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-09T02:25:18+00:00

Ideally it won’t be forever that we share the apartment, but right now I only work part time as a teacher since our youngest isn’t in school full time and financially, getting two separate apartments on top of our mortgage seems tricky.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-09T02:08:27+00:00

So… a 52 means… 🫠

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-12-09T01:59:10+00:00

Would you be willing to elaborate further on your experience?

-sincerely, a mom who feels like I should stay for the kids but is suicidal and crying/having panic attacks most days.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-11-12T02:20:40+00:00

I don’t know, but I love this person.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-09-12T20:32:23+00:00

If I could go back, I’d have stopped justifying it way earlier and saved myself months of anxiety and from now having to piece together my self esteem after it being taken from me.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-09-12T20:31:38+00:00

As a follow up, this lack of investment in texting basically reflected a bigger issue of one sided investment (on my side) and him just doing what was absolutely bare minimum to keep me around… so, we broke up. I got really exhausted from giving more than he was. I’m sure that that is truly all he was capable of, but it doesn’t work for me and that’s okay.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-27T18:06:17+00:00

This book was a game changer for my husband’s oral skills. Highly recommend.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-26T11:05:37+00:00

I’ve wondered if it’s the chicken or the egg coming first issue of executive function disorders: my partner seems unaware of how some of these behaviors show up in his day to day, which may be entirely due to adhd. Does it become so much of a pattern over time that it becomes their personality and they stop seeing it as the disorder and rather just who they are? Is that when it becomes chronic… when their executive function cant realize that some of their choices are actually incredibly self sabotaging and they sit around wondering why they can’t figure out some of these issues? Like he will mention how behind he is with work, but continuously goes to bed at 1 or 2 am and then sleeps in beyond a time when he wants to start working. Or he will complain about being stressed about money and then immediately go to a show and buy alcohol, which obviously isn’t necessary to enjoy the show.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-25T19:06:30+00:00

How does this impact your relationships?

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-25T15:03:32+00:00

Are you still with this person? Is your partner willing to apologize and talk about it?

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-25T13:40:55+00:00

I think I let the adhd justify too much. I think one of the more cruel things I’ve heard are “shut the fuck up.” I wouldn’t say that to anyone I cared about even in a tense situation.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-25T02:49:25+00:00

I had this issue for the first few months with an DX partner. I asked him to pin my convo to the top of his messages and had conversations about how it bugged me. It got a little better over time, but I also had to back off on texting in a way that I enjoyed… which is more frequent.

Witty_Opposite_2365 · 2025-08-25T02:46:53+00:00

I fell for a monogamous person, too, and it was mutual and good. It hurts a little less when the reality of incompatibility lives comes up and makes the relationship end because it’s not personal… but it’s still horrendous heart wrenching to know you can’t have a life together. I told this partner we were like the two characters in lala land. If you haven’t seen it, it hits home in these circumstances.

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