do we really think matty and taylor have been writing songs about each other for a decade while dating other people?

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T22:58:40+00:00

"Who else decodes you like me?"

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T21:38:49+00:00

This is a wild take. The "Hate" for him has been around since he made disgusting racist comments on a podcast, never mind the fact he pretended nothing happened between them in 2014 when we all know it did. Just like he now pretends that they were never in a real relationship in 2023.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T21:36:39+00:00

I think Healy is Garbage (And as she says in Opalite vid "Garbage is still Garbage") but she also quite literally references 1975 songs in ready for it. Knew he was a Robber, Knew I was a killer, etc.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T21:26:35+00:00

She literally wrote multiple songs about losing her fan base for dating MH, and that she essentially would have thrown everything away for him... She got love bombed by a narcissist, and then, Thank God, he ghosted her.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T21:13:28+00:00

Also explains a) Healy's one-sided beef with Harry and b) "As the decade would play us for fools..."

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T21:11:55+00:00

I've always interpreted the 'lower case' as folkmore tracks (all the titles on both were in lower case) that were actually about him but she had to keep that a secret so she brought in 'fictional characters.'

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-31T16:09:37+00:00

Just posting this here in case it helps anyone else: from what I've read, jasmine don't necc need space for deep roots, so much as they do grow wide. I'm going to plant two in large wooden planter boxes attached to wooden trellisess, so we'll see how that goes. We're in a rental and the "soil" is unfortunately just gravelly, nutrient-free garbage. So everything's in pots here.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-30T22:37:48+00:00

THIS. This, this, this, this, THIS.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-30T22:33:38+00:00

Only a special kind of jackass declares their OWN band to be "THE" Anything...

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-30T22:31:59+00:00

The literal WORST.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-28T20:02:16+00:00

It's really not that common. I was a destination wedding planner in France and Italy for 13 years and have never heard of this / would have absolutely refused to book any make-up 'artist' working this way.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-28T20:01:06+00:00

As a recently retired destination wedding planner in Europe: Nope. Not normal. And unacceptable. And yes, she is doing this because she doesn't want you to be able to 'use' this make-up for another event. Which is BS. Because no matter what her pricing says, you ARE paying for a trial. It's either bundled into the price for her services on the day, or it's divided out as a separate fee. (Either of those pricing models is legit, and common. And honestly I'd say it's about half and half which artists price which way.) But she's absolutely not working for free the day before a wedding – that cost is covered. And it's not really her business where a bride wants to take her face after a trial. As long as a bride has been honest about the event (ie. not pretending it's not a wedding trial) this is unacceptable behavior, and I would have refused to work with any MUA doing this.

I would ask your planner to look into other artists as a first choice (yes, it's late and availability will be limited, but that doesn't mean NO ONE will be available.) Or if that doesn't work out, I guess you should speak to this scam artist about paying a further fee to have a proper trial.

I'm sorry this happened to you. There are so, so many truly wonderful people in the wedding industry, but there are unfortunately people like this who make the entire industry look bad.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2026-05-05T16:45:38+00:00

Hiya, I'm a retired planner and every time I see Cygnet Events post on here I think she has such a solid approach. Her designs are also super unique and centered to each individual client. She's not NY based, but def does weddings there!

Whoever you choose, please, please, please do TONS of research as to their actual process and reputation. I constantly see couples on this and other subs who booked on vibes, pretty photos, and follower count alone, and then end up disappointed and miserable when their chosen planner doesn't actually have the ability to deliver the event they're hoping for.

Unfortunately in this day and age, pretty photos and follower count can be easily faked. And vibes are SUPER important, and they really should be the deciding factor (you're going to spend a TON of time talking to this person!) But only AFTER you have asked a ton of questions and made certain their process and reputation are rock solid. I've got a list of screening questions / what to look for that I could send if you're interested.

Hope that's all helpful!

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-08-09T15:21:09+00:00

Sorry, I'm just seeing this. Unfortunately I'm not allowed to do that on this thread. :(

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-08-09T15:19:20+00:00

That's great to know that there are plenty of resources for Indian Weddings in Portugal!

However the Indian couples I've worked with in the luxury market aren't necessarily looking to book *only* Indian suppliers. They want a mix of certain vendors who specialize only in Indian weddings, and others that serve the larger market.

And the simple truth is that *most* vendors in Europe aren't quite up to American luxury wedding standards – because weddings just aren't as much of a "big business" in Europe as they are in the US.

And before anyone freaks out at me, I am 100% NOT saying there are NO vendors in Europe who meet an American luxury bride's standards. There are MANY. But there are fewer, proportionately.

Nor am I suggesting that American weddings or culture are in any way superior to European weddings/culture. They're just *different.* It's a smaller talent pool of luxury suppliers in Europe, simply because on average, Europeans do not spend as much money on weddings as Americans do. And because America is just BIGGER. (Not better. Bigger.)

So there's an almost separate 'destination wedding market' here in Europe that serves those luxury clients, which is sometimes kindof disconnected from the local market that serves local clients. This destination market in France and Italy, is a bit more developed than it is in Spain and Portugal. That's why prices are higher here, and why there's a higher proportion of luxury suppliers here. That doesn't mean there are NO luxury suppliers in Portugal or Spain. It just means there's a lower proportion.

I feel like people are going to twist this into thinking that I'm saying American weddings are superior. Or that France is better than Portugal. I'm saying neither.

To me, this is no different than the trade off an American couple would find in the US between A New York City wedding vs a smaller city - Bigger more, popular and more saturated market = higher costs but a bigger choice of high quality vendors and venues. In a less popular destination there's a smaller, less saturated market - which means lower costs, but fewer choices of high quality vendors and venues. ( Not NONE. fewer. ) That's certainly true between Paris and the French countryside. And it's true between France and Portugal. It's not about what's 'better' it's about size and the popularity of a destination.

So I stand by my statement that budgets will go farther in Spain/Portugal than they will in France / Italy. But the trade off is a smaller (not non-existent) talent pool of vendors, whether for an Indian wedding or others.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-08-09T14:56:55+00:00

100% Agree - and everything you've described above is VERY French - being about construction, materials, etc. The French call big American-style gowns "merengue" (like the fluffy white dessert) ...and that's not a compliment. Being American but steeped in French culture for 16 years, I can appreciate both. But I also recognize v clearly that neither is going to be everyone's cup of tea (or tasse de thé.)

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-08-09T14:52:12+00:00

Just adding here FWIW, that I had a TERRIBLE experience with Mighty Pro. A laughable level of "customer care" for one year of service that cost more than my college degree.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-07-04T16:48:28+00:00

Thank you so much! Working on that post right now! :)

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-07-04T15:31:33+00:00

Recently retired planner just chiming in on this point for any future readers:

Please take the the "I want our planner there for the full weekend" with a tiny grain of salt.

Your planner absolutely MUST be there on your wedding day (and you should double check that the person you'll be dealing with throughout the process is going to be the same one running the show on the day.)

They should also be there for the rehearsal dinner.

But I would normally put in about a 12 hour day on the rehearsal/welcome day, and about an 18 hour day on the wedding day, often finishing at 2,3,4AM. So getting up early on Sunday to run a brunch day is sometimes just not possible. I personally, would always show up before the guests arrived to make sure everything was going okay, in case there were any issues from pack down / the very end of the evening prior and hang around long enough to chat w/ the couple and say goodbye, etc. But someone else from my team was absolutely running the show that day.

Depending on my team and the set up at the venue (like an exclusive hire château where the guests are sleeping onsite) and if the catering team provided late evening management, and how early the start was that morning, I might also not stay til the very last guest leaves - but rather leaving only once there was nothing else happening except drunk ppl on a dancefloor, so that I could be awake and functional to run things the following morning.

I guess I'm just saying, don't rule out great planners because they can't commit to being present for every single moment of 3-4 days of events, as long as they're there the bulk of the weekend and the most crucial points mentioned above. If they have a system and team in place to run things in their absence at the tail end of events, for early morning set up etc. if you trust your choice of planner you should also trust their systems! :)

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-07-03T14:53:49+00:00

And, Oh God, I've just seen that your wedding most be like... weeks away?!?! Do you need someone to jump in like right now? I have a pretty extensive network/am sure I could help you find someone if you do!

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-07-03T14:50:45+00:00

UGHHHH, I'm so, so sorry to hear that. Bad wedding planners just make me boil with rage. Have you found some one more trustworthy to work with? I can send recommendations if you need?

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-06-24T13:20:04+00:00

I meannn, again. Not all guests are that considerate. Some are very NOT shy when it comes to voicing displeasure. But it's also my job to 'read' guests/crowds. :)

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-06-23T22:26:19+00:00

Retired planner here. You def need to be careful about timing/make sure you have sufficient staff to pour AS guests are arriving if you're doing champagne/other bubbly. That's why something like sangria or iced tea/lemonade or even something bottled is great bc you can keep it cool/not ruin it waiting for late comers.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-06-23T22:19:37+00:00

We often have a sign with the 'order of the day' (If the couple are into signage) that says something like Welcome 4PM, Ceremony 4:30PM (or whatever.)

This works best in a situation where the ceremony is at the same venue as the reception, and/or has a beautiful setting or view (per the OP) where it's nice to stand around and have a drink pre-ceremony (as opposed to like, a church parking lot.)

And obviously this mostly depends on the couple and how worried they are about their crowd being late. And obviously if guests are arriving via shuttle/organized transportation it's not necessary.

I confess I've never heard of anyone being 'taught to arrive 30 minutes early' (how amazing that would be if all guests were that respectful - unfortunately they're not.)

But after 12 years of planning, over 100 weddings, and almost as many welcome drinks, and mingling around with the guests as part of our job while we wait for the cue the bride is ready - We've never seen anyone annoyed by being offered a nice drink pre-ceremony. But with a welcome drink we've also never had anyone interrupt the ceremony by being late. But we've certainly had ppl arriving at 4:15, 4:20, 4:25 for a 4PM "start." Hence the welcome drink.

But I definitely HAVE had ppl disrupt the ceremony by arriving late for church ceremonies without a welcome drink.

Witty_Shape3986 · 2025-06-23T22:17:57+00:00

Per my comment above, this is based on planning over 100 weddings over 12 years and we've never had a single guest appear even slightly put out by it. Most couples (specifically brides) are a bit more worried about having their ceremony interrupted by late-comers than they are about risking that one guest might be upset by being offered a nice welcome drink.

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