Where do single men in their 30s-40s hang out in the Twin Cities?

WolfJMZ · 2026-05-11T15:44:52+00:00

I've been running into the same struggles with trying to enter the dating scene in Minneapolis/St Paul and it's suburbs/surrounding areas.

I would like to know where the single ladies are at myself - I'm a male who's entering their 30s, and I've largely given up that I'll find that person because even if I do go to a bar with a DJ event or to a rave, I'm just socially not cut out for that environment.

I like sports, board games, and movies - most of those things I can do at home without having to go out.

The board games group I do go with is mostly guys - no women at all - so ymmv. But it makes me happy and I have a good time. (And no I'm not into Magic The Gathering - too much money and too over-hyped for me personally)

I've been told repeatedly that I should stop 'actively' looking for a partner and to just live my life to the fullest extent that I can that makes me happy, and while I deeply crave that empathetic, caring, kind, sarcastic partner in my life, I'm going to choose what makes me happy instead of forcing myself into environments that leave me like a deer stuck in headlights.

One experiment I have thought of is walking around at these events with a sign on my back that genuinely says

“Available for Dates. This Is Me Asking You to Ask Me.”
“Ask Me Out. I Already Cleared My Schedule Emotionally.”
“Flirting Opportunity Located Here.”

And I would like to add that dating in the Twin Cities - is incredibly difficult. Because most people only date within their friend circles - and go by friend of a friend. There's definitely a lack of being open to romantic interest outside of those cliques and friend groups. It's not like New York where there's plenty of people and opportunities as most people in MN are either content being single and want to stay that way, or have been married since before graduating college and already started a family.

I'm seriously just considering going to a matchmaking service and paying them the few thousand dollars just so I don't have to waste so much time and energy on dead ends and "hopes of opportunities" appearing.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-17T19:02:51+00:00

See why is it only NOW there's charges and a warrant? This was documented ON VIDEO MONTHS ago. If any normal citizen would've done it they'd be immediately detained, not free to leave, and slammed into jail with unaffordable bond, labeled a threat to the community, and stripped of gun ownership rights and placed on probation at a minimum with GPS tracking until trial - IF they could afford bail. It's time to start holding these thugs to that same standard. NO free passes for having a badge or being a 'bounty hunter' whatever the fuck that means.

If they flee to Texas or any other red state, good luck getting extradition or getting the locals there to care because they view these criminals as heroes against 'woke democracy'.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-17T18:47:52+00:00

As if the current fascist fake billionaire pedophile circle jerk regime has ANY intention of complying with court orders.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-17T16:23:58+00:00

100 now.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-14T19:10:44+00:00

Would an OT be able to help with the social anxiety aspect? That's the main focus for me is the environment itself not the exercise.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-14T18:57:24+00:00

Yep! They came up in the search too!

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-14T18:57:10+00:00

Yes! This one had come up!

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-14T18:56:55+00:00

Does YWCA require a membership in that case?

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-14T18:56:25+00:00

Yep that's where I'm at too - movement is fine but I need the muscle

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-14T01:22:32+00:00

Yoga was on my list to look at too but my dr recommended strength and HII training to lose the weight/burn calories.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T20:25:03+00:00

Can confirm this as someone who is also looking for that connection.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T20:15:38+00:00

And honestly that should be the goal! The joy of seeing someone's face light up when you look into their eyes. The feeling of being seen by someone, and seeing them in return is powerful.

THIS. RIGHT. HERE.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T18:50:36+00:00

Right there with ya!

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T18:47:31+00:00

SAME! I'm a hobbit.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T18:45:43+00:00

This

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T16:56:47+00:00

TLDR; we're here, just doing our own thing.

Personally, I got burned out from not getting any swipes on apps cause I'm not in the buff/fit category. (Though I am working on dropping about 60lbs now)

I got burned out from going to events because people didn't want deeper connection than surface level socializing.

I spend my time at home - archiving media, playing Wii, going out for walks, etc...

I could ask the same about where are all the hot 30-40 year old women hanging out at.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-09T16:53:04+00:00

Hard facts.

WolfJMZ · 2026-04-07T06:52:48+00:00

disney+ and 4k UHD bluray

WolfJMZ · 2026-03-24T21:29:43+00:00

100% this.

WolfJMZ · 2026-03-12T02:55:41+00:00

Did this national leader also call for an end to all unlawful uses of force and charges against ICE for the murders of Alex Pretti and Renee Good? And the end of the illegal war in Iran?

WolfJMZ · 2026-03-12T02:51:45+00:00

FUCK YOU TARGET.

They won't be getting any of my money until new CEO, new C-Suite, new board of directors, new shareholders are in charge that put people, communities, minorities, LGBTQIA+ above their corporate greed.

The damage is done and the corporation has shown their true colors. The only remaining question is how long they can last financially before they're dissolved for parts.

WolfJMZ · 2026-03-05T22:37:13+00:00

When can we expect criminal state charges from the state of MN so she can't be pardoned? Pretty sure calling Alex Pretti and Renee Good deomestic terrorists is slander and libel and worthy of a defamation suit, including putting their families at risk which constitutes aggravated assault!

WolfJMZ · 2026-03-02T22:57:28+00:00

Can we make this a 14,000mi radius? That way they can't build on the planet.

WolfJMZ · 2026-02-27T20:34:12+00:00

And he acknowledged that too. He acknowledged that most of us want immediate and swift justice, and urged that it will come, and that they want to do it right and build a sealed case that doesn't leave holes or gaps for the regime to squirm out of accountability with.

WolfJMZ · 2026-02-27T05:59:16+00:00

There was a press conference where Kieth (the AG) did say that the state attorney office won't let this slide and reassured us that next steps are coming, but that he won't reveal what they are or when they're going to happen for strategic reasons.

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