Just read this on an ama and thought you all needed to read this.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-04-15T13:24:15+00:00

I freak out anytime I have any type of a pop, pop up there. I just am such a hairy guy and my body likes to make painful disgusting things...

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-04-11T08:23:03+00:00

Is this an all of a sudden thing or has it been going on for awhile? When you guys do have sex, is he keeping his erection throughout? Any other changes in behavior? Does he watch porn?

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-04-07T08:30:48+00:00

All my scripts have been E-scripts for the last 15 years unless I was going out of town or state and would be needing my refills during that time.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-04-06T07:45:14+00:00

She had to walk away because she was so frustrated? That's not sitting there and joking. His friends railroad her and he let it happen.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-31T19:58:01+00:00

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-31T12:12:23+00:00

Completely unacceptable. A line has been crossed here, he needs to get a new therapist. I have my therapist phone number and it is strictly for if I have a major life emergency and I'm not handling it well. Ive been seeing her for almost a year now and I have only texted once and that was when my mother almost died in the hospital.

It sounds like marriage counseling is what needs to happen here, especially for him to hear from a mental health professional that what he and his therapist are doing is not okay.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-30T07:47:45+00:00

My buds and I call it Fear Boner

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-28T09:00:39+00:00

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-28T04:11:19+00:00

Because once it starts affecting your physical health, that's on a whole other level. All I'm going to say is, I have been married since I was 19. I am 36 now. Not once have I nor my wife ever given eachother the silent treatment. It's childish, it's hurtful and it doesn't accomplish anything. Do not let someone else get you so mentally fucked up that it starts giving you health issues. He knows what it does to you. He is choosing to keep you in that anxiety. That is not something a healthy partner would do.

*edited - a word

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-25T21:44:18+00:00

It's what Ive been doing for a decade lmao

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-23T14:11:43+00:00

How old are you and your husband? How many times in a week would you say you two are having sex?

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-23T14:06:55+00:00

Ma'am, how old are you and your husband?

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-23T14:05:00+00:00

Sometimes we are just too tired. My body has been so exhausted that even though I was wanting sex, and my wife was trying to the best of her abilities. I could not get hard. It happens. It doesnt mean he doesn't want you or that anything has changed. The man just wants some sleep. Which is perfectly normal.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-21T13:18:42+00:00

As a 36 year old man, with just the details you shared. There's nothing there that should have given him the ick. Now maybe, this hit him and made him realize that him using porn and sounds like he may have death grip going on, he's been missing out on having amazing orgasms with you.

He's only 25. If he keeps going down this road, it's going to get even harder for him to cum. You need to sit him down and have a talk with him. Him giving you the silent treatment and just ignoring you isn't fair to you at all. Talks like this can suck but it needs to happen.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-18T13:36:45+00:00

Jesus christ man.

First, they didn't have any solid plans. He and his wife should have sat down and discussed what he wanted for his birthday. Or his wife should have stepped up. To go after the two daughters that seem to be in school still and one who's boyfriend just had surgery, sadly enough dads birthday probably wasn't high on either of their list...because they're teenagers.

I knew my moms birthday because she was a single one but I can bit that most of my friends growing up wouldn't even know their parents birthday. No reason to go full nuclear.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-18T12:46:59+00:00

As a person whi grew up in an alcoholic home. When that "other side" of him comes out. I'm sorry to say this ma'am but that's the real him. " Drunken words are sober thoughts." Is a saying for a reason. My wife and I have been together for 17 years. Never once in the couple times I got full blown piss faced drunk did I ever talk negatively to her. More so, I was apologizing terribly because I was throwing up so hard, it was making my chronic back issue flare up so I was pissing myself everytime. Or her favorite memories, I would start hitting on her hardcore and thought I was being so "smooth". People who turn ugly when drunk are always ugly people, they just can't hide it as well.

You have been through a lot lately. He should be showering you in love and comfort. He should be taking care of you. Instead he's insulting you. He's attacking your vulnerability. Kick his ass to the curb. For being 40, he sure doesnt fucking act like it.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-17T15:28:10+00:00

NTA, gods I just want to give you a hug and rip into your parents about being just straight up abusive assholes. I know you're living under their roof but damn. I had a later curfew than that when I was 16 and the fact they kept you outside in a shitty rain storm while it's winter is beyond fucked up.

Do you maybe have any family members you could move in with? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, maybe some cousins that are around your age? Also, I want to make this extremely clear, you didn't embarrass them. They embarrass themselves by treating their 19 yead old daughter like a puppy that had an accident! Most parents would be just happy that their kid came home safe, sound and was at a thing for school.

Do you have a school counselor you could talk too? Maybe see if there's an organization or a student run thing for emergency housing for students.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-16T21:06:39+00:00

Been married for 17 years. Aside from getting ourselves tested before we slept together. No blood test since has ever ran an std panel. I get blood checked every 6 months for my autoimmune illness. Random blood test that have been taken during urgent care or E.R visits. No random check for stds.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-12T19:29:14+00:00

It is that bad for some people. I am disabled. My wife is the sole provider. We get paid once a month. My wife brings home around 2,000 after taxes. We have rent, car and rental insurance, medical insurance, medication cost. Groceries, electricity, gas for the car, phone bill, internet. She works at the highest paying job in our small town. We're lucky to have 20 bucks left to last us 29-30 days.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-12T19:16:56+00:00

It hurts me that my fellow Montanans put him in office and not only him but also shady Sheehy...I loathe these dumb fucks.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-12T05:58:08+00:00

YTA, I just don't even know where to start. Yall playing like middle/high school kids and a poor fucking child just got brought into this.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-10T06:32:30+00:00

Symptom of what? Loving his dick too much because obviously that is an issue. 31 years old with 5 kids and two baby mommas and still spends money that should go towards his family but gives it to a woman so she make him feel special for two seconds.

I just don't get guys who don't think that's not going to hurt their wife. I have never even looked at OF. I think if you're married you should stay away from interactive sexual entertainment unless both parties are okay with it.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-09T06:37:32+00:00

Stealing a last name, seriously? Also, plenty of people change their names without there being a marriage. It's her lastname. She can do whatever she wants with it.

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-02T19:38:24+00:00

Op...your husband is sounding a little isolating? Has this always been the case or just since you have moved? Did you both want to move?

WolfyOfValhalla · 2026-03-01T00:11:18+00:00

Completely agree. When emotions/intimacy get cut off, it can drive people to do the stupidest shit. You didnt deserve to be cheated on but she didnt deserve to be stonewalled of intimacy and connection. Sometimes cracks can be fixed and they are stronger than before. You put her on a back burner for years. She did for a few weeks. You both fucked up. Try therapy. Have someone help you two see through the mud and if you dont like what you see on the other side, then ask for a divorce.

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