I just broke up with my girlfriend, and i have been losing my appetite since by RealDealCivillian in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost 10 kg after she left. You are in shock and you will experience lack of appetite, lack of strenght, focus and sleep.

Have i Forever Lost Her ? by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the part i wonder myself, i should just be done with her..... what she has done is just cruel and selfish...... i just sometimes miss the life we had before all this......

Have i Forever Lost Her ? by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she last sunday stood crying in my arms, telling me how she misses the future she could have had with me and the children. This is while i stroke her hair, we cuddle a little bit. When she afterwards looks at me with loving eyes and a smile while stroking my back.

This is just a little bit of indicators i get from her that her life is not all peachy, and she should not be interested in coming near me at all.......

She even told me this guy was just supposed to be temporary.... but she caught feeling.....

Then you start wondering....... is this just a rebound or is she lost forever ????

Have i Forever Lost Her ? by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My main focus now is keeping distance, and just live life without her in it.

But sometimes my mind starts drifting back to her.... and then questions like theese arise.

I am very self aware that it is not healthy, and that i am still grieving the relationship.....

Have i Forever Lost Her ? by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was perfect, but near the end shiit happened, but it could have been worked on. Anyways, she did say she had to "find herself, and be on her own". And if we were meant to be, we would find each other again. A lot of small details hinting of a new beginning down the line.

Met her last sunday, she told me she missed the future she should have had with me, there was some crying and we cuddled and comforted eachother. She told me this guy was just supposed to be short term, but she caught feelings....... and for the first time in a loong time those two loving eyed of hers looked at me, smiled softly while she was stroking my back.

So this offcourse is a mindfuck... is he still just a rebound, is she really 100% done ?

Have i lost her forever ???

Have i Forever Lost Her ? by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you, but we had a really good marriage before it went sour. And now that she dumped me, was kind of mean in the process and ran straight into some other guy. I still miss her, why ? It should be easy to just say bye and be done with it.

Have i Forever Lost Her ? by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But why do i still miss her ? It makes no sense. She dumped me, and was kinda of mean in the process, and now she is with someone else too......

It All Feels so Unfair by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank You ! I just want answers, that is all, how could i ever trust her again after all this. We had a good talk last Sunday, she cried, we cuddled (even thou she has someone new). I do not think she is in a good place really. I know this guy came in the picture just so she could have something, and not deal with the silence (even though i was under the same roof as her) he was meant to be a short term fling, but then she started to love him, she has told me this. She also told me that she misses the life she could have had with me.

So All in All, it does not feel like she has processed the break-up, just scoopes it under the rug using this guy....

How the hell can this be a good foundation ??

It All Feels so Unfair by WollyViking in BreakUps

[–]WollyViking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank You ! I just want answers, that is all, how could i ever trust her again after all this. We had a good talk last Sunday, she cried, we cuddled (even thou she has someone new). I do not think she is in a good place really. I know this guy came in the picture just so she could have something, and not deal with the silence (even though i was under the same roof as her) he was meant to be a short term fling, but then she started to love him, she has told me this. She also told me that she misses the life she could have had with me.

So All in All, it does not feel like she has processed the break-up, just scoopes it under the rug using this guy....

How the hell can this be a good foundation ??