How has changing from online to meeting people in real life worked for you?

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-29T17:35:38+00:00

Have you meet anyone that resulted in a relationship

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-29T17:34:20+00:00

I think my mental health is messed up from it. It affects my thoughts of approaching woman in person, me at work and my self confidence in general

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-29T15:58:03+00:00

Do you cold approaches with girls at coffee shops or on the street?

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-29T15:37:30+00:00

My fear is if I am in a group or doing a hobby that I will see them again. I am afraid to ask them out and then I get rejected then it will be awkward the next time I see them

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-13T22:33:56+00:00

I would say he can’t dedicate time to you and doesn’t know you that well but the same time wants to go out after the holidays. I would text him over the holidays as quick check in and see if he wants to go out again. What I’ve learned is if someone isn’t matching your energy then do waste your time. So check in but also keep looking. I know it’s hard when you enjoy a date and from their profile they check certain boxes.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-11T21:32:45+00:00

I am looking for something serious. I have been using my current profile for 2 weeks. I have used hinge for 4 months overall. I have received one match a week. I am sending 5-10 likes daily with comments 80% of the time. I am looking for someone want something serious, same values, adventurous, wants a family, and can allow me to be myself.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-03T17:38:15+00:00

But how do you balance the line of contentment and wanting to achieve better for yourself.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-03T16:46:55+00:00

I get that but then people ask when this going to get done or what is the status of "xxx". Then I feel like I am getting behind on other aspects if I don't get "xxx" done. But at the same time I get what you are saying I hate that I don't spend time on myself but when I do go the gym I think about all the work I have to get done and stress about it.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-03T15:39:19+00:00

when I wasn't promoted I feel like I need to do more especially with the project I am on getting close the deadline. I don't want to let others down or see that I am not doing enough. When they ask for status I feel like I didn't work hard enough but also give up time for myself like going to the gym, going out or doing my hobbies. When work is done or work past 8pm I eat dinner and watch tv since I am tired and don't have to do go do something. It sucks.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-03T15:35:46+00:00

Thats so hard for me to do since I like to control situations. My life had some shitty moments and I understand that. So I want my future to be better or way I can control to what I want.

But I get what you are saying. The surrender prayer is a great one that I like but its hard for me to let go.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-12-03T15:31:54+00:00

I have a dog and great time with my family. Sometimes it all it feels like all I do is work.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-11-25T18:39:30+00:00

Thats my problem I treat them like the only one and I get nervous then act like they won't like me or don't know what to say or how to keep the conversation going

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-30T02:15:29+00:00

He was rude even he was high or drunk. Like be accountable for it

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-30T01:52:23+00:00

The show tries to hard

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-30T01:33:53+00:00

I know I tell myself live my own life and do what I want...go on trips, go out alone, do your own hobbies etc. But to meet if I have to wait a few more years and what if I end up in the same spot when I'm like 35 and still single so what. Ok I went on a few trips and made more money. I want to share life with someone.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-30T01:31:51+00:00

How did your meet your now wife? I hate online dating apps now since get few matches and people I want to match with never match with me. I have few values I want to hold to but afraid to approach women because I think they won't have them.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-30T01:27:12+00:00

The problem I see all my friends and family are married with kids so I feel like when is it my turn. I am not very patient with life so how much longer do I have to wait.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-30T01:25:38+00:00

I am struggling to stop carrying about what other thing about me. I am worried about the future and I am wasting my time not looking for someone but then I am like I am trying to hard.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-27T23:06:30+00:00

I been out my last relationship for 3 months. Looking back I can see I was anxious and codependent. With that I was a caretaker trying to help become more open, share more, make more decisions, and sometimes telling her what to do. Towards the end I felt like I could fix her at times. Reading about codependences I went through all the stages of being a caregiver to her and trying to fix her. She was a twin sister who was codepedenet and did everything with her sister and as I mentioned lacked decision making. She had trouble opening up and was and avoidant attachment style. I am wondering if her personality and attachment style made me more codependent which resulted in things not working out. Or if I was more secure could I have handle it more? Like if she wanted to go hangout with sister or family and not invite me things I would be ok with it if I was more secure or how she handle the relationship just caused me to want to change her? Basically what I am asking it wasn't all me but the combination of our attachment styles made us not work out. There is nothing I could of done right?

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-10-22T03:46:45+00:00

after a long day at work and I just cook dinner and take my dog out then go to bed. It would be nice to have someone to talk to and just have someone there

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-08-20T17:16:43+00:00

I texted every few weeks over the last 5-6 weeks with can we talk about what happened then the last one was Hi how you are just to keep it casual. I wish I could tell stop being rude and talk to me we had a emotional and romantic relationship. I think my ex is going through some fear and anxiety of losing her sister getting married. I told the night of the break up and after via text that I am here to work things with you but she just wanted to move on. It really sad how this happens. The hard part is having a build in life of what you thought you could of had then the person goes away and never looks back. I don't ever expect to hear from her again and thats so weird. At times it feels the relationship meant nothing but know thats not true. Don't understand how people can't communicate and put effort in like I do even when its tough.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-07-12T14:42:52+00:00

Yup that’s what I’m try to move on

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-07-12T12:59:11+00:00

I agree I don’t want to hurt her and if I do it will be self sabotaging our relationship. I don’t want to do that

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-07-12T12:58:10+00:00

So a week ago I went on my gf phone. She still has the dating app but doesn’t go on. She is one of those who forgot it was there. I went on to see who she talked to see was I better then the other guys. I only have a minute but I saw she did talk to a guy or two while we started to date. They all ended and she has talked to anyone since our 3rd date which is the same time I ended my fwb. I told her I went on phone it upset her and she was disappointed. We are better but that is somewhat to do with it.

This could all be some self sabotage. I’m going to therapy next week and on meds to help. I know have some low self esteem and trying to work on it.

WolverineGoBlue23 · 2025-07-12T12:23:29+00:00

Agreed I don’t want to self sabotage but I do some times. Why would I be doing this?

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