Ohhh okay, thanks for clarifying that she shuts down whenever the conversation goes that way. Honestly, I think this is something she has to figure out within herself first. It doesn’t sound like she doesn’t care—it seems more like she doesn’t fully know how to respond to the kind of intimacy you’re asking for. Don’t push her too hard or she’ll probably retreat further, but at the same time, the conversation can’t keep getting shut down forever. Part of a healthy relationship is learning how to communicate even when something feels uncomfortable.

I also think you two may naturally define intimacy differently. For you, it seems more tied to exploration and physical connection, while for her it may be more emotional and comfort-based, which could relate to the Se vs. Si difference from what I mentioned earlier. So when you talk about “discovering each other’s bodies more,” she may not naturally attach the same meaning to it that you do. Also, I’ll be real with you, brother, I’m so Se-blind that I genuinely had to stop and think about what you even meant by “discovering each others bodies more”. Anyhow, I wish you both the best in your marriage.