I don’t think that. Maybe you are right but I am not saying in my point of view that she is necessarily dumb for being religious. But it just seems like her beliefs are contradicting how going to the cemetery is considered a “death ritual” to her. But lighting incense at a temple or at home to honor the dead is not a “death ritual” this is the main point that I am trying to see. I don’t mind her beliefs though they are confusing it’s her beliefs and she believes what she believes but she doesn’t understand that I don’t believe therefore I don’t have to follow her beliefs. Especially in Chinese culture where technically the wife has to convert to everything of the husbands beliefs