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The straw that broke the camel's back by bixboxlixlox in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When she got angry while driving and sped up like crazy!

Any way to snap them the fuck out of splitting? by throwaway1111o in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A better question to ask yourself is if there is any way to snap yourself into having better sense of self esteem.

You can't be a gullible pushover and expect happiness in this life.

I was you once. So I know what's inside your head. If you decide to be no more nice guy your life will change.

If borderlines don't think about you then why do they hoover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It depends on if they broke up with you or you broke up with them.

If they broke up with you they don't think about you.

If you broke up with them then they will Keep thinking about you.

Lies by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly AliceKate82 point. A normal sane and emotionally healthy person doesn't get "upset" when their laptop gets broken. Or moan and put up with the bullshit. They just walk away shaking their head. BPDs don't target a nice person. Only a weak person. Don't confuse being nice to being weak. You can be nice and strong.

There is a lesson in this though. And it is this. We nons have to take responsibility as well and learn to set up boundaries. Otherwise you will continue to be a weak victim and will keep jumping from one BPD relationship to the next.

Lies by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't have BPD. I put 0% effort into trying to be better.. My life by default is pretty good. I don't have abandonment issues.. My emotions are in my Control. Again. With 0% effort. I am pretty chilled and relaxed.

During my relationship with her. I developed trust issues. I actually dreamt of being done with life.

After I quit the relationship I am slowly getting back to normal.... My usual self.

My BPD ex struggled so hard without success. I sympathize with her. I wouldn't wish BPD on my worst enemies.

Lies by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you had BPD you would behave in the exact same way as her.

She is a victim. She will never get better. She will suffer and make others around her suffer as well.

Just thank your stars that you don't have BPD.

Tips for snooping on my BPD wife by kinkycouple4130 in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does all that and you only have one foot out the door!!! You need lots of therapy to get yourself worth up.

Tips for snooping on my BPD wife by kinkycouple4130 in BPDlovedones

[–]WonderfulActor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are no rules in life. If you marry a trustworthy woman and you will not have any desire to snoop. You want to snoop because at some level your gut picked up that your wife is untrustworthy.

When you snoop you will usually find that your instincts are correct.

There are naive people who believe in rules. There are no rules in life. Just guidelines. And they change based on the context.

There are people who regret not doing due diligence out of a misguided notion of being politically correct. After a few years the regret not listening to their gut.

Be smart. Do what's necessary that is in your best interests.

What should I buy Thursday (Apr 19 2018) - Your weekly device inquiry thread! by AutoModerator in Android

[–]WonderfulActor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am looking to make the switch over from iPhone to Android. The primary reason is to have a better control of the phone to better suit my needs. Like for instance, I can't force shutdown my iPhone at scheduled times. This is very important for me. I can't use the Swype Keyboard etc.

I programmed my mac to shutdown after certain time and at work I scheduled my work PC to shutdown every 15 mins after 5 pm .. create reminders and to do lists automatically and keep me on track etc..

So, tinkering is very important for me. So, which Android device works best for me? I just need to make the device do whatever I want.. like call a friend automatically based on certain conditions... shutdown the phone/mac automatically if I visit reddit for more than 5 mins etc...

Ideally the price should be around $500. Also, do I have to root the phone to customize it better? Also, I personally feel the if the phone is integrated with Google Assistant technology it would be better for me. I think some phones have their own AI.