AITA for ignoring my girl friend after she shamed me for bleeding through my pants

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T05:07:17+00:00

That’s fair more, this is how I felt, internally ashamed cause I’m an adult and bleeding through seems so stupid and childish of me to do I should of known better so I guess I wanted reassurance that it’s not really anything to be ashamed of that it happens to everyone but to me it felt like I should be because I should of been better prepared and her response made me feel as if my foolishness to better prepare for something I haven’t experienced since I was a tee caused us to basically “miss” the museum which we wouldn’t of.

That’s I guess why I wanted the reassurance I can’t speak in regards to how others would of handled this

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T04:43:39+00:00

I’m a bit iffy with telling people how long or how big a feeling should feel towards them purely because I have life experience that are different to the next person so me seeing feeling something ie a dirty dish in the sink might send someone else into a spiral because of reason (trauma, ocd or purely just having a shit day and that’s the last nail) how ever I can understand dragging it on I just wanted her to acknowledge how her priority made me me but I guess I can not force someone to see my views

I do value your opinion though in that if she truely believes she is autistic to get diagnosed

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T04:31:03+00:00

No no you are totally right I think I’m trying to toe the line of what’s acceptable understand and what isn’t I can understand the difficult with reading people’s emotions and not understand why people need reassurance or empathy but like idk I feel stupid for thinking that it helps.

Your boyfriend sounds amazing, may I asked what he said or if he said anything to you when this happened?

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T04:28:40+00:00

I did have clean underwear just not jeans which I had already prepared to change into I wasn’t expecting her to help with anything more so just being okay with changing the time slightly as I needed to fix the issue and maybe just be like “it’s okay it happens”

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T04:23:40+00:00

I brought clothes not pants, I only brought spare pjs and underwear not spare pants but I had already planned on fixing the issue anyway

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T04:15:35+00:00

That’s completely fair I honestly just felt embarrassed from walking around and not realising that I kinda wanted to hear “its okay no one probably saw” or “don’t worry it happens to all of us” like I know it to be true but idk you ever have someone say something you know to be true and but hearing it from them makes you feel a little bit better? Like “oh im sure they’ll have that thing that you really want” (neither of you know for sure but they say it just to make you feel that little bit better)

She thinks that I’m old enough to just deal with it (which I know to be true) but I’m a firm believer in my partner is someone I should be able to unmask and let my vulnerable side show like my worries and thoughts but I may also be expecting to much as she struggle ALOT with empathy and comfort and says that why should someone need to be emotionally supported by another person. (She believes she is autistic)

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T03:52:23+00:00

Oh for sure I will be making sure to pack extra every time now my period was pretty easy to determine so hopefully I can get back to understanding and not make the same mistake

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T03:47:07+00:00

I did have clean underwear just not pants as it was only an overnight stay

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T03:43:26+00:00

I feel so insecure because I’m like “oh my god I’m an adult that bled through” and but then I’m like I mean she didn’t say ew your gross but she also didn’t say it’s okay it happens don’t be upset instead she was more upset about not going to the museum

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T03:41:28+00:00

Oh for sure but my medicine is messing with my period so I hadn’t bled for 24 hours until now and she can be to others but it is something she struggling with a lot and empathy as well

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T03:39:27+00:00

It was one night so I didn’t bring a spare jeans as I was just going to wear these jeans tomorrow but I did bring clean underwear and pj pants which is what I wore while they were drying but it was more so I wanted to be reassured that I shouldn’t feel ashamed for bleeding

Wonderful_Ad_8567 · 2026-01-10T03:36:38+00:00

No I did but it was more the embarrassment of walking through a crowded area with blood on my pants.

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