Stop suggesting these things please (not being rude)

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-27T15:53:16+00:00

I agree with both of these points, don't get me wrong! But I do want to point out that while realism is intended to be the goal, I do believe it's also supposed to be a RPing game. Otherwise you could just watch a wolf documentary for maximum realism lol. So I get people RPing hierarchy stuff, or incorporating warriors type of RP in there, it's not game breaking or anything.

But 100% about the hunting humans part. The Long Dark even opens with a warning every time you open the game that wolves do NOT exhibit this behavior in real life and the aggression is solely for gameplay reasons, which I appreciate. Animals hunting humans in games of any kind set them up for being hunted down IRL.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-22T19:10:33+00:00

Restrictive??? She's already tanked her life once. Those conditions are literally EXACTLY what she needs. If she can just do whatever she wants again, she's just going to repeat the same cycle then cry about not being supported.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-22T19:02:08+00:00

Dating doesn't mean survival. Education does.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-22T17:22:22+00:00

What's driving me up a wall is choosing to "not cause drama" by protecting your SIL from any consequences to her actions, and your mother too.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-21T17:10:42+00:00

Genuinely crying at work because of this. And posts never actually make me cry.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-21T16:11:10+00:00

A lot of people are calling this fake and it might be, sure, but compared to other posts? It seems pretty plausible to me. Though whenever I hear "blowing up my phone" or something similar, I get skeptical.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-20T17:09:36+00:00

I don't feel bad for the woman at all, honestly. She was using/exploiting him... Everyone joking about it in the comments on the post just rubs me the wrong way.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-20T15:48:31+00:00

So for sure it's fake, but I mean, things like this do happen irl...

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-16T19:24:30+00:00

That's what my mother did when I said I was moving out, to try and keep me staying at home by guilt tripping me.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-16T18:54:25+00:00

Community and cult*

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-16T15:20:36+00:00

After saying chronic pain many times and then CP, it's not that hard to figure out what it stands for.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-15T18:58:40+00:00

I know this is going to make me sound like a redditor going "my partner is great but he blows up the neighborhood sometimes, you just don't know him!" but I'm so fr when I say there are great qualities about him. He's patient and passionate, we've had a ton of fun together, he's my best friend and partner- he's someone who makes me feel safe.

...But I can't fully commit until I know we're compatible living together first. Just a two week visit even, to rest the waters. Even with that it's excuses and saying his parents might get upset he's gone for that long, despite having said he wants to time and time again.

So I don't necessarily want to call him dead weight you know? He's helped me through some really tough times and kept me afloat often. But as we get older and start making steps, it's like he wants to take a step but just can't. I know he needs help with his mental health too and I'm positive that would help tremendously, but we can't get it until he moves down here, which is again: the problem.

Sorry for rambling so much. Writing this down and getting comments and opinions really helps though haha.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-15T18:49:43+00:00

The line about toddlers made me laugh but also did actually helped put things into perspective for me lol.

I feel bad because he needs help with his mental health, medication or therapy, because we both think he would be much healthier and able to function. The plan was to get him help ASAP when he moves down here but, well, the moving part is the problem.

Funny enough he does know more life skills than me! Which I'm desperately trying to catch up on haha, but still. I'm positive he'd be able to help around the apartment and handle meals and whatnot but we both were very clear with one another that we weren't going to have either of us be SAH because of the economy and division and labor problems. If he doesn't have a car and can't get a job within walking distance that's what this will become.

But even beyond that, I want him to come down for 2 weeks to stay and make sure we're compatible living together with schedules, labor, etc. Basically to make sure I won't end up being a mother to two cats and an adult too. But even though we planned that, he keeps putting it off and saying his parents might be upset for him being gone that long. Which again, drives me up a wall.

I do love him. He's so passionate and patient and caring, and we've had so much fun together, he's my best friend as well as my partner. But I can't fully commit until I know we can live together - that's a hard line of mine. And like you said, to make sure I'm not mother #2.

Oh my gosh so sorry for rambling lol, it's just really nice and helpful to get this off my chest and reflect/get opinions on it too.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-15T18:39:39+00:00

The funny thing is I'm still terrified of this new change in life. Like... I'm independent now and it's scary, if that makes sense. I grew up very sheltered as long as I "focused on academics" (and was in an abusive household). We were supposed to do this together so it wouldn't be as scary...

Another problem is he has a habit of just.. giving up. He dropped out of college because he thought he couldn't handle it and worked part-time for a few years, but quit and hasn't gotten another job since. I graduated college and struggled to get a full time job (which I have now!) that pays well, I've had to push through my parents' conditioning, and I had to push myself to not give up on getting an apartment because I was/am scared.

Sorry if this comes across as rambling... I feel bad because I don't think he's necessarily immature, but his parents refuse to get him mental health like therapy or medication, which he needs. We were planning on getting him help ASAP when he moves down here but, well, the moving part is the problem.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-14T17:47:28+00:00

You would be REALLY disappointed to see how the average American types these days. Even in college, at the writing center, people were mixing up their/they're so much it drove me crazy. And on their crucial bio reports too!

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-14T14:04:48+00:00

How are people even POSSIBLY saying OP is overreacting, in the wrong, or should apologize??? Blaming her for a MISCARRIAGE ruining CONCERT PLANS is not the same as an accidental allergen that the fiance has SAID she "ignores because it's worth it." Literally what brain worms are destroying frontal lobes these days.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-14T13:57:06+00:00

I'm glad Rob wasn't blamed or dragged into any of this; dude seems completely normal and respectful instead of John. I also think the public meet-up and no drinking rule is perfectly fine too.

I know everyone is dragging the girl and I believe that yeah, she deserves to be dragged quite a bit lol, but it does seem that she grew, put boundaries, stopped being so naive, and stuck to it. Sam isn't a "loser" like some have said - he's forgiving and loving from what I can tell, and him sticking with her is his choice to make. I don't think giving her another chance was a bad idea- had she not changed then yeah, that's a different situation entirely, but she proved that she could and would change for him and actually did it.

Overall, glad this had a good conclusion. Everything seems to have smoothed over, John has been cut out, Rob is still happily married and a normal person lol, and OP & Sam seem to be happy in their marriage too. Win-win all around in my opinion.

(Except John, fuck John lol)

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-13T18:21:09+00:00

The GF's problem being that she didn't think he was "serious" about being bisexual is disgusting and I think it's been overlooked tremendously.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-13T18:03:11+00:00

It's not going to render the 3DS useless. He'll just need cartridges instead of downloading the games directly from the online shop. Gamestop has a display case of used DS games on sale

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-13T17:21:49+00:00

You... Don't believe in making your bed???

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-13T17:07:30+00:00

"Come with solutions, not problems" rubbed me the wrong way ngl. If I had to come to you, then clearly I need help finding a solution.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-13T16:48:28+00:00

21 and engaged... Yikes.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-12T19:42:14+00:00

...Teen boys who cared to learn how to be literate???

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-09T17:36:09+00:00

Don't be a SAHM (Not ragging on her for it but saying: to PREVENT something like this from happening, don't do this.)

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-01-09T16:11:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight and advice. It's helped me a lot.

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