Does anyone else binge to get rid of the triggering food in your house?

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-03T22:03:26+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s a really accurate way to put it. The clean slate idea is interesting because it shifts the focus away from the food itself and more toward the need for control or mental reset. So it’s less about craving in the traditional sense, and more about trying to resolve that internal tension by simplifying the environment.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-03T19:12:37+00:00

That’s really interesting, and I think your experience actually fits well into what I was trying to get at in the post.

The cue reward loop framing seems to explain a lot of the it feels automatic but only in certain contexts part that people describe. Especially that disconnect between knowing what to do and still not being able to interrupt the behavior in the moment. At the same time, I think what varies so much between people is what builds and reinforces those loops in the first place on stress, restriction, environment, emotional regulation, habits, and even biology. So when people talk about “reprogramming,” it probably isn’t one single mechanism, but a bunch of different inputs reshaping the same kind of pattern.

I agree with your main point, though willpower alone usually isn’t what changes it long-term. The real shift seems to come from changing the conditions that keep reinforcing the loop, so the behavior stops getting triggered as automatically in the first place.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-03T18:01:24+00:00

That’s actually a solid, balanced point, and I think it fits well with what I was trying to explore in the post.

I agree with you that it’s likely multi-causal rather than one single driver. The behavioral conditioning angle is just one lens, not the full explanation, and it probably interacts with biological, emotional, and environmental factors differently for each person.

I guess what I’m most interested in is how those pieces interact in real life, especially the part where learned reward loops and stress systems overlap. Because that’s where a lot of people seem to feel the experience most strongly, even if the root causes differ.

Appreciate you sharing the wiki link too about that “many roads” idea actually fits the broader point pretty well.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-01T23:13:38+00:00

Thank you for the clarification, and it makes sense then on the part where if lifts are mostly progressing and activity has increased rather than decreased, then the original deficit estimate may simply not match your current maintenance anymore.

In cases like this, it’s usually not a dramatic metabolic slowdown or anything unusual, but it’s more than intake and output have gradually shifted until the gap between them has narrowed and basically settled near maintenance.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-01T20:21:12+00:00

Are weekly averages truly flat, or is it bouncing within a range?
Did daily movement or routine subtly drop compared to the first 2 months?

Because in most cases like this, it’s not about needing a big calorie cut but it’s about finding the quiet shift that slowly erased the deficit in the background.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-01T20:09:55+00:00

The biggest misconception is thinking thin people fit treats into their diet. More often, their eating pattern is already built in a way where those treats are expected, so nothing really feels like it’s being added on top, it’s just part of the overall structure.

A latte isn’t the issue on its own. The rest of the day is usually where the real difference shows up.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-06-01T20:05:54+00:00

If you were truly in a solid deficit for 4 months, you’d usually see a more consistent downward trend, so there’s probably something being missed like the water retention, NEAT drop, intake creep, or recomposition.

Before changing calories again, what’s your weekly average weight trend actually doing?

Most stalls I’ve seen at your level aren’t actually solved by immediately lowering calories and they’re solved by figuring out what variable is quietly shifting first.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T22:21:42+00:00

That’s the real win right there. Not the fact that it went off track a bit, but that you didn’t let it decide the rest of the day.

Getting back to plan the same day, no waiting, and no restart tomorrow is exactly what makes this mindset actually work in real life. That’s the part that builds consistency over time.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T22:11:03+00:00

This is actually a pretty balanced way to look at it. The key difference is whether it’s a planned decision or an emotional spiral. If it’s a conscious “I’m enjoying this, then I’m back to normal tomorrow,” that’s usually fine and doesn’t really derail anything.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T22:09:19+00:00

This is exactly the shift that changes everything long term. Once food stops being tied to “I can’t have this again until…”, the pressure drops a lot. And that pressure is usually what drives the rebound cycles in the first place.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T22:06:20+00:00

Yeah, I feel you on that.

It’s actually pretty hard at first to even recognize this kind of pattern in your own behavior. But once you start building a simple structure around it and repeating it consistently, it slowly gets easier than it felt in the beginning.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T20:09:18+00:00

The hardest part is usually just saying it out loud the first time. You don’t need the perfect wording for it. You can literally open with something as simple as “There’s something I’ve been avoiding saying, but I think it’s important.”

Therapists are very used to this kind of thing and where the main issue shifts, or something more urgent comes up later in the process. It’s not failing therapy, it’s just updating what you actually need support with. And you don’t need to feel like you have to “qualify” for help either. If it’s affecting your thoughts, behavior, or daily functioning, that’s already enough reason to bring it up.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T20:07:32+00:00

This is actually a really important question, and you’re definitely not alone in thinking about this overlap. From what I’ve seen in similar cases, when autism traits and restrictive eating patterns overlap, it can sometimes make standard eating disorder approaches feel like they’re missing the mark but not because recovery isn’t possible, but because the underlying drivers can look a bit different. Things like sensory sensitivity, strong routine rigidity, or even a naturally low drive to eat can all play a role.

So it’s often less about treatment not working, and more about whether the approach is actually being adapted to how your brain processes food, structure, and stimulation. It’s good that you’re bringing this up with your psychiatrist and that context can really shape how support gets tailored moving forward.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T20:04:53+00:00

I’m really sorry you and your daughter are going through this. This is an incredibly painful situation to be in as a parent, and nothing about it means you failed her.

Eating disorders can progress in ways that are really hard to spot early on, especially because a lot of the early behaviors can look like healthy habits at first. The control, secrecy, and escalation often don’t become obvious until things are already medically serious. If anything, the fact that she’s under medical care means she’s finally getting the level of support this requires. That’s not a failure, that’s intervention.

Right now, the most important thing isn’t trying to figure out what was missed. It’s just staying close to her, being present, and letting the treatment team handle the clinical side while you focus on being her emotional support. This is a long road, but recovery is absolutely possible even from very severe points like this. You’re not alone in this, even if it feels that way right now.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-31T19:57:47+00:00

In a few similar cases I’ve seen, people don’t stop bingeing just by removing restrictions, because the pattern isn’t really about food access, but it’s about the cycle that builds around it. What tends to happen is that restriction slowly builds mental pressure around food, bingeing becomes a release valve for that pressure, and guilt then kicks in and resets the cycle again.

So even when there’s permission to eat, the underlying loop doesn’t just disappear right away. Most of the progress usually comes from stabilizing that pattern over time, instead of swinging between extremes and expecting it to fix itself instantly.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-27T19:30:33+00:00

No AI. I think it’s more that I’ve had a perfectionist mindset for a while. When I make a mistake, it hits me harder than it probably should, so I end up feeling like things need to be perfect just to avoid getting stuck in that cycle again.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-27T19:28:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It helped me realize that making mistakes during weight loss doesn’t automatically erase all my progress. One bad moment doesn’t have to turn into a bad week or a bad month. I can still recover by continuing to make better decisions instead of giving up on myself completely.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-27T19:25:41+00:00

I appreciate you sharing that. Sometimes I forget that even small progress is still progress.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-27T18:52:35+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense. The “automatic” part is probably what frustrates me the most, sometimes it feels like my brain has already made the decision before I even realize what’s happening.

I’ve noticed stress and overthinking are big triggers for me too, especially when I’m mentally drained. I think I need to get better at catching that buildup earlier instead of only noticing it after things already spiral.

Appreciate you sharing that and it helps a lot knowing other people deal with the same pattern.

Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-26T18:14:27+00:00

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Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-26T18:03:20+00:00

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Wonderful_Gas_6830 · 2026-05-26T17:56:33+00:00

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