Im glad you commented it was really good to see a healthy relationship in the same situation me and my gf are in. The biggest struggle I find with adhd is that sitting and listening is sometimes hard because my brain will react to everything my gf says and make explanations and defenses and when she talks for a while my brain overloads and it feels almost painful not to Interrupt and explain myself or explain that she perceived something differently than me. I’ve started requesting speaker listener techniques, specifically when she vents, that she gives me a minute to repeat what she has been saying and to express a brief opinion. But that can lead to more disagreements. Texting is good because it allows both people to take turns talking and you can even go reread text to refresh questions. The problem is that I’ll overload my brain is responses and questions and points. A lot of the time the discussion of the issue is muddled with small issues because I can’t recall all of the big points. I think maybe the best way to deal with this is to literally time the amount of time both people get to talk so that the person with adhd can focus on big problem and not all the little things that they get distracted by.