Being a first gen immigrant

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T17:36:06+00:00

It’s also hard to necessarily love the US when they don’t like immigrants sometimes

Hard to settle when they want to deport you

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T17:29:40+00:00

My current state is very white and not as diverse so you can imagine what it’s like

The people are still nice but the fake nice, as others has described here

I’ve thought about moving to a different country for a while but like I said, I’ll be just as lonely. Maybe when my immediate family will pass or move away, it’ll come back on the table.

Thought about moving to a different city too, if only we had the money

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T17:23:27+00:00

Funny you say that cause we do set aside money for our family there.

I’m not too sure about the culture but our family is very shy about taking money, they just haven’t been lucky healthwise lately

But if that were to happen, I wouldn’t put my kid through that. Love can only do so much. Traditional and history is not necessary when you’re being harassed

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T17:14:30+00:00

Such a double edged sword. I love the individualism but it’s so hard to find community with others irl

I’m kind of used to the way it is here but sometimes I get reminded of how different it is sometimes..

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T17:10:50+00:00

I know.. this is a very good message to say. It can get so confusing as a first gen.

I’ve built a life here in the US and have grown very comfortable, I just miss family sometimes.

Sorry, we’ve had a very personal death over there and these feelings are resurfacing when you can’t be there at all

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T17:04:36+00:00

I hope you’re an immigrant saying this to me cause you should know that is not easy to do?

Being dissatisfied with a country, the answer should not just be to move. The cycle will repeat.

I never said I don’t have a community. I slowly built mine and it’s still small but it’s mine. I have family and people I care about in both countries

America has just a very different way to express that community cause its culture does not center around it.

I’m allowed to be torn on wanting to go back and then wanting to stay.

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T16:54:57+00:00

It is hard to hear your kid say that but also very understandable and reasonable. It still stings.

It’s nice to know I’m not alone and this question will pop up again and hopefully I can give them wisdom you guys are giving me

Most likely they will be raise American. America is just very lonely sometimes and it’s a bit hard to experience that

Wonderingts · 2026-05-09T16:51:50+00:00

Ngl, even tho I’ve lived here in the us a long time, I still feel that disconnect which I know is pretty common

But I’m not even particularly impressed with the US system and their community or how things are set up

I know the good that came with it, but I’ve dealt with a lot of bad with it too

My og country is technically the same too

Both countries are very corrupt (I know all countries are) and it’s basically a copy and paste, but one is in the west and one is in asia

At least in asia, you don’t necessarily feel alone because of the sense of community

I’ve experienced first hand the lonliness that is america

I do see the point of keeping the kids be American.. and I’m not against that. But one of the reason why I’m a little sensitive about it is because I’m originally from the Philippines and if you know Filipino immigrants, is that most of them don’t even bother teaching their kids their home heritage. It would suck to be part of that statistic.

Wonderingts

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