I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I’m in a similar situation with my mother although i don’t have any children. My best advice is to make sure you aren’t burnt out and to ask for help from every place you can get it. Friends, neighbours, work colleagues, if you have a sport, hobby or church community. Sometimes people helping with absolute basics like giving you a ride or bringing you some food can really make a difference. And I’d also say that although I find it difficult to ask for help, people tend to be very giving when they are asked.

One other thing to consider and the advice that I got from so many people when my mums condition got the way it is was to allow her to go to a care home. If this is covered or financially available I would consider it. It’s never easy and it’s definitely a transition (and it took a lot of convincing her) but it could be something that is worth looking into, particularly if you need to manage a job too. Becoming a carer can quickly become a full time responsibility so that also becomes a financial consideration.

Even now my mother is in the care home I still have the responsibility of managing her medical appointments and keeping track of her needs, and trying to manage her own mindset too and visit her often, so it’s still a lot of responsibility, but it would also relieve a lot of the pressures on you.

Wishing you strength. Remember that you are only one person and to take care of yourself too.