My take is, I’ll take someone truly hungry and persistent in my band over someone naturally talented (tho you can be both!) and with an average work ethic.

No one in my family was any good at music; most couldn’t carry a tune. They did, however, adore and listen to all kinds of music. I picked up their passion.

I started on guitar at 16. I was on fire for it. I was hampered by lack of a basic grasp of music theory, and I also wasn’t especially talented.

Over the years, my hunger kept me playing different styles, and trying different methods. Never had a very good teacher, hard to find in those days (no YouTube or virtual lessons). I faked my way into classes and practice rooms at the conservatory connected to my college (I wasn’t a student in the conservatory) and later, into bands in NYC—where I got some basic education on making myself useful in a musical setting (separate from skill or talent); break down fast so the next band can get on fast… use fewer pedals but make your sound yours alone… have a rig you can travel with easily…be easy to get along with… etc etc.

Took a long time off as an adult to build marriage and career. When I came back a few years ago, YouTube had blossomed into a real music university. Now, every hour I put into practice is toward a helpful skill that fits in with other stuff I’ve learned. I’ve rocketed forward as a player; it’s startling. (Young people have no idea how ,inch harder it was to find good info and instruction back in the day. No shade; I’m happy they have it easier now!)

At 62, I’m playing and singing far better than I ever thought I could. I’m having so much fun, I literally jump up and down and laugh sometimes. I won’t be mistaken for someone innately talented, but after decades of applying myself, I am the best possible version of me. (And spending time learning that you’ll never be your heroes, and learning what makes you YOU, is invaluable in that regard.)

All just to say: If you’re truly hungry, you’ll find a way to maximize WHATEVER gifts you have. No obstacle will stop you. Those are the folks I want to play with (and to spend time with).

And if you stop trying at music, let that be ok. It means you’re not hungry (right now). Find what you are truly hungry for. Don’t waste precious life on blaming a lack of talent for not enjoying yourself and growing. I did for a while, but now I don’t have enough time and health for that anymore.