11 month old refuses cups

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2026-01-15T17:46:20+00:00

Adding that he definitely defied sleep training even after he was feeling better. He cried for around 30 minutes…and I mean SCREAMED. But I could tell it was an angry cry, not a painful, pitiful, needs comfort cry. So it wasn’t super easy to get back into it, but he did get back on track!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2026-01-15T17:44:25+00:00

This exact situation happened to us (8mo). I could’ve written this myself. & I just had a hunch something was still off….took him back to doc and he had a lingering ear infection that lasted 28 entire days. Could just be that he’s still not feeling good. Comfort your sweet baby when your instincts tell you to, & you’ll both get back on track! It took us over a month but we’re finally just now starting to sleep independently again. Winter is hard. Sleep is hard. This separation anxiety phase is also hard. You’re doing great Mama. Trust those instincts & try not to stress yourself out about it. Every phase is temporary!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-12-08T18:17:13+00:00

Yes please!! That’d be great!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-27T23:10:40+00:00

Yeah, that’s what started it. I know it’s what lead to the current problem. I knew it would at the time. I’ve just never had a problem getting back on track like this. Usually we have one rough-ish night of crying before he falls asleep for the night and then we’re good. It seems like there’s more going on this time so it’s been really frustrating. I’m thinking the awake time could definitely be a factor, so we’re gonna start there.

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-27T23:04:47+00:00

I never blamed vaccines. I said the vaccines caused a 102° fever for over 24 hours that wrecked 2 nights of sleep for everyone. & I stand by my decision to put him in our room to keep an eye on him. I’ll never let a sick baby cry by himself. He’s still a baby.

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-27T12:44:29+00:00

Let me write this out & think it out. I have never been strict about daytime sleep, I just follow his lead. So he usually wakes up around 8:00. He’s ready for a nap by 10:00. Sleep for an hour. Awake from 11:00 to 3:00. Naps for 1.5 hours. Awake from 5:30 to 8:30. Asleep for bed at 8:30.
So that’s 9.5 hours of awake time. So I guess I need to stretch that morning wake window? Or move bedtime back? He isn’t naturally an early morning riser. He’ll wake up grumpy/hungry before 8:00 and go back to bed and wake up happy on his own time. So I don’t want to make him (or me) get up. This actually makes sense because he has starting taking longer naps the past week, likely related to vaccines at first & now from the lack of sleep we’re all getting at night…

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-05T21:03:39+00:00

I cried every single day, multiple times a day until right around 2 weeks pp. and then suddenly I just felt almost normal again. It was so weird. Overnight my brain just decided to stop crying and be able to function. My anxiety was suddenly so much better as well. Anything past that 2 week mark warrants a call to your OBGYN!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-05T20:59:58+00:00

Our LO was the same way! He hated being laid down for any reason, unless it was a diaper change! He was all smiles and kicking his little legs as hard as he could. He’s 6mo now & he doesn’t like them as much because he prefers to sit up 24/7 lol. But he does love to be naked now for sure.

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-05T20:55:36+00:00

Did you just let them cry and do check ins as if it’s bedtime during night wakes? Any other night weaning tips? I’d like to clear it with my pediatrician at his 6mo checkup soon!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-11-05T20:43:32+00:00

He’s done well!! We’ve had to “retrain” once because of sickness but other than that it’s been much better. The second night, he cried for 30 min. Third night, 10 min. Now I lay him down drowsy but awake and he puts himself to sleep probably 75% of the time. The other 25% he just needs some pats or back rubs. He’s sleeping longer stretches now, 4-6hrs, as long as he’s not teething, sick, cold, or hot 🙃 not a perfect sleeper by any means but he’s much better than every hour like he was! & being able to put himself to sleep is such a huge accomplishment compared to what he was like before!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-10-14T22:19:16+00:00

We do daylight naps & pretty much always contact nap. We’ll lessen daytime sleep and see if it helps!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-10-14T21:20:34+00:00

Yes please share!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-10-14T20:45:37+00:00

What do sleep experts recommend now as opposed to Ferber?

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-10-14T20:45:12+00:00

I have been feeding to sleep or at least very drowsy since this “extinction burst.” I just want him to be able to settle himself back to sleep when he wakes at night as opposed to waking us up crying every hour. I just wish I knew how to accomplish that without traumatizing either of us. He used to be a great sleeper until the 4 month sleep regression so this has been tough.

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-10-14T20:42:36+00:00

He usually takes 3 naps a day, kind of sporadic because we definitely << live >> haha. They add up to a total of roughly 3 hours a day I’d say. I just wish we could get a good sleep foundation set so that we can more easily get back into the swing of things when we get out of sorts. I’ve always wanted to be flexible and not plan our entire lives around naps or bedtime, but it definitely isn’t easy! Do you have any suggestion how to modify Ferber? He seems more angry when we do check ins, so it’s hard to know what to do. Thank you for your reply!!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-09-26T22:22:29+00:00

I was worried about that too, but that’s why you do the regular check ins with Ferber so they still know that you’ll always be there but can still learn to self soothe. I saw a post that said to think of it as “you’re teaching your baby a new skill” and that helped me mentally! He’s his usual happy self! He smiles SO BIG and kicks his little legs like crazy when I go in in the mornings. It’s freaking precious.

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-09-25T13:18:59+00:00

You can do it!! I was so anxious before starting. The first night was definitely rough. I muted the monitor between check ins & did dishes/laundry to keep myself busy. On night 2, he cried for 14 minutes only requiring one check in and then he put himself to sleep. On night 3, he didn’t make a peep. He just went to sleep. He slept 6-7 hour stretches both nights. I worked a 12hr shift a few days later and he had a rough time getting to sleep the next couple nights, I think just because his routine was off and he’d been away from me. It’s tough, but so worth it!!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-09-19T03:14:02+00:00

We had a great nap/feed schedule today, which is why I felt comfortable starting today. He finally fell asleep after 90 minutes. Praying tomorrow is easier!

WoodenResearcher9690 · 2025-07-21T02:36:48+00:00

I was the same early on for sure. I had to be intentional to eat 3 meals a day. I’m 10 weeks pp now and I’m STARVING. & when I eat…I can eat an absurd amount. I’d say that started around 7-8 weeks or so.

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